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Why people smell bad

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Curiouscat101 · 01/09/2023 14:08

I was in town and the smell of BO from the couple standing in front of me in a queue was unreal. I then went into another store and the exact same thing with another person.

These people didn’t appear as ‘down and out’ types. I know you can never tell with people, but surely in this day and age most people apart from the homeless have access to running water to shower or at least wash themselves.

It isn’t a hot day and these people smelled like they hadn’t washed in a week

Why are there people not washing or concerned with how they smell 🤢

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 01/09/2023 18:54

If you use pods plus fabric conditioner, and wash at low temps, your machine will v likely have a build-up of gunk that will mean clothes won’t get properly clean. If you do a very hot, empty wash with just soda crystals, you may well be horrified at the amount of dirty grey foam that appears.
I know I was - I had to do it twice. This was after Piglet John posted about such things on here.
Since then, I use just powder - no pods or conditioner, and soda crystals in every wash.

Imsureitsprobablymebut · 01/09/2023 18:54

Does anyone else think it might be deodorant manufacturers reducing the % of active ingredients to save money and maximise profits ?

shellyleppard · 01/09/2023 18:54

There was an old man who absolutely stunk of wee......the supermarket staff used to follow him round with a can of air freshener 🤢🤢

HoppingDragon · 01/09/2023 18:56

A lot comes from not drying out clothes properly so you get that musty, wet dog sort of smell. Then wearing clothes that you have been cooking in.
Of course you get the others who have an aversion to toothpaste and soap too.

Gwenhwyfar · 01/09/2023 18:58

"Sometimes I smell bad even though I've washed, wear clean clothes, and wear anti perspirant. "

Then you should go to the doctor.

"if you're standing close enough to smell me then you're standing too close."

This is also true, but maybe the people in the OP smell bad even if you're not too close to them.

Lovebeingamummy2 · 01/09/2023 19:01

Anotherparkingthread · 01/09/2023 14:17

Oh god I absolutely hate this.

I went to aldi and it was volatile. There was somebody walking around with breath so bad you could smell which isle they had been down mouth breathing, it honestly smelt like they had started rotting. BO is commonplace. It's truly disgusting I don't know why everybody has stopped washing. There was a man working, yes working, in the local sainsbury and he was so greasy his hair was stuck to his head and from literally metres away he smelled like nasty crotch and unwashed dick. I'm not even making this up. The town I live in half the population has just decided to stop giving two shits about their stench, it is so antisocial they should get asbos or something.

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🤣🤣 the asbos had me in stitches! 👏 but yes totally agree with the whole thread it is vile and on a daily basis when out and about I come across people that smell so bad I try to hold my breathe what is wrong with all these people!!

Gwenhwyfar · 01/09/2023 19:04

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 01/09/2023 18:54

If you use pods plus fabric conditioner, and wash at low temps, your machine will v likely have a build-up of gunk that will mean clothes won’t get properly clean. If you do a very hot, empty wash with just soda crystals, you may well be horrified at the amount of dirty grey foam that appears.
I know I was - I had to do it twice. This was after Piglet John posted about such things on here.
Since then, I use just powder - no pods or conditioner, and soda crystals in every wash.

I go to the laundrette so have no power over how clean the washing machine is.

ASDMumof2 · 01/09/2023 19:09

The best thing about covid was that masks stopped you smelling stinky people! I often think, 'Should I go back to mask wearing cos its a warm day?' 🤣🤣🤣

sparkleshin · 01/09/2023 19:19

its probably the plasticy clothes that make you sweat

VampireApples · 01/09/2023 19:31

I sweat a lot and have to use Odaban or Vichy 7 day deodorant cream for extra underarm protection. If I'm at the office I carry spare underwear and panty liners in case things get hot and sweaty down there, as even walking can set it off, especially since carrying extra weight. Even if my hair doesn't look greasy, I wash at day 3 because you'd still be able to smell greasy scalp which is just as unpleasant. Clean underwear twice a day sometimes, and clean clothes every day. Washed at a proper temperature -60 for towels and sheets and 40 for everything else unless really stinky or dirty. Worth noting that enzymes in washing powder work better at 40, the very hot water kills them. I guess some people smell more than others Wink

Ginmonkeyagain · 01/09/2023 19:43

Man made fibres definitely seem to hold sweat smell after awhile, in a way cotton or wool doesn't.

I don't wear many man made fibre but Mr Monkey has a lot of running tops, after a few weeks of normal washes I have to commandeer them and spray arm pits with white vinegar before washing them in sports wash.

OLDERME · 01/09/2023 19:51

Lozzalou9191 Using Vinegar in the final rinse, regardless of machine or hand wash, will remove the smell of sweaty gym clothes.

Wash clothes which come in contact with the 'sweaty , undercarriage' bits in forty to sixtly degree wash, as well as sheets and towels, and use vinegar. Dry outside if at all possible.

Before the days of showers, and their gels, anti perspirents, and even baths: my Great Aunt washed in the sink with a teaspoonfull of BiCarb of Soda. if she sweated, then she washed down again. She rinsed her hair with some vinegar in the final rinse...... Shiney hair and no nits. As a child, I only rememberd her sweet smell. and my Granny? Pears soap has followed me all of my life.

Yes there are many , many reasons why people smell now a days, for all the reasons previously mentioned. There is also an absolute intorerance from people who should know better. If you are one of those, grow a little humility, and put some Vicks under your nose! In the future, it could be you!

LuckySantangelo35 · 01/09/2023 20:14

PoshPineapple · 01/09/2023 17:35

Yup, I think you're spot on there. I've noticed that if I don't wash bedding and towels at at least 50, they smell 'off' and less fresh much sooner than otherwise.

I do care about the environment, but to be honest I care about not stinking to high heaven and offending people around me just that bit more.

@PoshPineapple

I do care about the environment, but to be honest I care about not stinking to high heaven and offending people around me just that bit more.

Can’t see how anyone could possibly argue with that

RichTeee · 01/09/2023 20:20

For those who are having trouble even after a shower and deodorant, try wiping under your arms for a few days with surgical spirit. It really helps to reset the body. My aunt had a terrible time during menopause and was told to do this by an old GP. Therefore is now family lore - But it really works!

It's also good to spray on whiffy gym kit to remove BO smells before washing. Or on clothes that are clean but smell of fried food etc. Spray it on and air outside. The smell of the surgical spirit only lasts momentarily

It works brilliantly on smelly shoes/feet too. In fact the same aunt used to make all her teen sons friends take off their shoes in the porch. Then she would attack them with her spray bottle of surgical spirit, so she wasn't gassed out if her own home by 10 pairs of teen boy trainers.

Annaishere · 01/09/2023 20:27

Ginmonkeyagain · 01/09/2023 19:43

Man made fibres definitely seem to hold sweat smell after awhile, in a way cotton or wool doesn't.

I don't wear many man made fibre but Mr Monkey has a lot of running tops, after a few weeks of normal washes I have to commandeer them and spray arm pits with white vinegar before washing them in sports wash.

This is a good point

thenightsky · 01/09/2023 20:28

RichTeee · 01/09/2023 20:20

For those who are having trouble even after a shower and deodorant, try wiping under your arms for a few days with surgical spirit. It really helps to reset the body. My aunt had a terrible time during menopause and was told to do this by an old GP. Therefore is now family lore - But it really works!

It's also good to spray on whiffy gym kit to remove BO smells before washing. Or on clothes that are clean but smell of fried food etc. Spray it on and air outside. The smell of the surgical spirit only lasts momentarily

It works brilliantly on smelly shoes/feet too. In fact the same aunt used to make all her teen sons friends take off their shoes in the porch. Then she would attack them with her spray bottle of surgical spirit, so she wasn't gassed out if her own home by 10 pairs of teen boy trainers.

That's a great tip! Knocks Febreze into the shade.

Curiouscat101 · 01/09/2023 20:32

@Ravenglass83

eh no, they were directly in front of me. No more than 4 feet. I wasn’t on my phone, and had nothing else to do but to stand and queue. I could clearly here the person serving them saying “that’ll be £92”

Your suggestions are lunacy.

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nonamesavailable123 · 01/09/2023 21:33

I used to go to a toddler group and a lovely woman came every week with her kid and her best mate. She always stank of stale BO. I don't understand why her friend never said anything to her. She was chatty enough to know enough about her to know there wasn't financial problems etc. I don't get it. I am someone who gets really hot and sweaty but I never smell. Thank goodness really because I can look at a flight of stairs and start sweating!

cardibach · 01/09/2023 21:37

FoodFann · 01/09/2023 14:28

I’ve had parents tell me they only bath the kids once a week now to save money. So by Friday, the smell is unbearable. The parents are nose blind. The teachers aren’t!

Maybe adults are doing the same

I grew up in the 60s/70s. A weekly bath was the norm. Was there more BO? Yes, probs. Was it obnoxious? Nope.

D1nopawus · 01/09/2023 21:43

In the 60's and 70's clothes were mostly made from natural fibres, were washed in hot water and dried outside whenever possible.

Today, lots of people have been misled into washing at low temperatures and drying indoors.

Some posters have discussed mental health as a factor. I think it's important to remember that for most working households with children, the adults need to have their shit together to keep on top of seemingly endless laundry. For families who are struggling -with time and head space as well as financial constraints- it is hard.

PinkRiceKrispies · 01/09/2023 22:07

I change underwear twice or three times in hot weather or if needed too. But particularly in hot weather. Never go more than a day without a shower. Use Mitcham deodorant as find that's the most effective and wash hair every other day.

Defiantjazz · 01/09/2023 22:08

Ah you have nothing to be ashamed of. You were just a child and it wasn't your fault

The thing is if she hadn’t found a partner who taught her the life skills her parents weren’t able to then she may of been one of the stinky adults who so offend the people on this thread. Saying they’re just lazy and so forth.

Defiantjazz · 01/09/2023 22:09

Its sad your mothers have not told you all this, but it seems they haven't.

Nor did their fathers presumably?

TheWayoftheLeaf · 01/09/2023 23:06

Oh my god some people just do. Maybe they'd forgotten deodorant that morning. Or were camping and the shower broke.

Personally I shower most days and wear deodorant. But my boiler broke last weekend and then the water stopped - and I realised I stank after a day of walking around London.

Get over it. It's not infectious. Shit happens.

TheWayoftheLeaf · 01/09/2023 23:08

If I don't shower in hot water with soap and apply Mitchum then I smell.

People have different sweat genes btw. Most of east Asia doesn't wear deodorant btw. They don't need it.

White and black people sweat the most. Japanese sweat the least. Native Americans and Latin Americans have a mid level.

It's genetic. Do you have dry earwax rather than wet? If so you are more likely to have the gene that makes people sweat and smell less.