How much would you pay for this cake?
Not sure if it’s 6 or 8 inches.

So finally the Megan/Will storyline is coming to an end! Sam is still not well though, poor lad...

Connor-Swain and Fit Kit are busy trying to find Theo's killer, and everyone Todd is close to is taking it in turns to babysit him!

Tim is trying to come to terms with the realisation that the thing he had with an older woman (Trisha) 40 years ago, (when he was 14) was actually abuse...

Shona's sister Jodie has managed to push herself into Daniel's house (and his life,) and seems to flit from place to place, with no actual luggage or money!

I know there's probably more...

I would like to take my daughter to Africa on holiday. For context, I am Black British and my husband is white. He does not like long-haul flights and is refusing to agree to the trip. His view is that because I visited South Africa four years ago, there is no need for us to travel to Africa again, and that we should choose a closer destination such as Europe instead.
My daughter, who is of mixed African heritage, has never been to Africa and is devastated that she is not being allowed to go.

My husband is threatening to divorce me, should I go ahead and book the holiday?

We've had a new mattress, so decided to clear everything off our ottoman. Our bed & Ottoman very rarely looks this tidy. Does this look dated?

Hi all. I've got an 18mo DD who is just, a firecracker. She's always called a happy baby by everyone, and she is, but she's also absolutely savage and insane. Everything is a delight and a game and a reason to get overexcited.

Sometimes she gets handsy, other times she throws toys or pulls hair. With us, we don't mind so much but nursery have now put her on a behaviour plan! I never heard of such a thing.

When she started to be like this around 12-14mo we used to firmly tell her not to, remove her from the situation or toy or person, but not over labour the point so as not to give her attention over it. She loves the attention. We also got given a sticker chart and a set of laminated cards with red stop signs or happy or sad faces etc to help her identify her feelings or to know when to stop.

I know all toddlers can get this way but my older DD who's now 6 was never this bad. She's now on a behaviour plan where the nursery tries to track any triggers or particular people but they're not spotting any pattern. They ring us almost daily now with something she's done, and mostly she's not hurting other kids though there have been a couple of occasions of pushing or pulling. She knows how to say sorry and does it well, so understands the concepts of no or kind hands. But the thing is, for her, it's never a tantrum or upset or malicious behaviour it's the opposite- she's just happy and overexcited and misplaces the energy. She doesn't realise when she could hurt someone, she just has this thrilled look in her eye like it's all play.

At this point I genuinely feel like my little happy girl might be the first ever baby to get expelled from a nursery! I half feel indignant because, why are the nursery staff ringing me to check if I've been using the sticker chart properly when I'm at work... she's literally a 1 year old baby who can't speak yet. She's just about starting to pick up single words now. On the other hand, I know she's more demanding than my first and handsy and I'm starting to feel like a bad mum. But I literally don't know what else I can do? If I tell her off even more she just wiggles away or gets happier from the attention and eye contact. She's kind of feral but we love it and think it's just her baby nature and will grow out of it. But is there something I'm missing? Could we be trying something else? Any advice much appreciated! At this daily rate I'm sure they're going to tell us they can't handle her and we need to leave soon!

My Man had this emotional web situation with this girl back a year ago. They ended up meeting once. He claims they never did anything. This was before I met him, by the way. I heard around that he would call her on blocked numbers every month since then.

I’ve found some texts in his phone which are questionable. About two months ago, they got back into contact. He was sending her messages telling her that she’s still in love with him, like a lot of teasing on his part. She texted him asking for advice regarding a man, and he went off. She’ll block him, then unblock him, and every time she does, he comes running to text her.

Him: “Don’t ever play on my phone like that.”

Him- don’t ever contact me about another man, so and so. He then blows her up like 5 times.

I confronted him about this. He said it was all jokes and how this is how they play. Yet from the texts, he came off very upset and bothered that she was dating other men.

Fast forward to now, I seen they got into an argument and he called her out of her name, vice versa. Then he calls her 5 times. Kept telling her that he knew she was going to unblock him. Then he sent her three voice memos telling her to admit that she misses him, and how he might miss her a little and care for her a little.

Then I seen that he called her at 3 a.m. She cussed him out and told him not to ever call her at that time.

He later on admitted that he only got love for her as a friend. Then I seen messages of him telling her he has feelings for a girl, that he’s pretty much in a relationship, and how his girl goes through his phone and is cool with it, which I’m not.

Him:
“We homies lol.”
“My girl not even tripping fr.”
“She be in my phone, she seen it all.”
“But you know I got love for you (her full name).”

Yet he just blew her phone up two days ago and called her at 3 a.m. last night.

It seems like she contacts him when she’s bored, and they get into these mini arguments, yet he blows her up and gets emotionally involved with it. I know it’s not good, yet I don’t want to end things over something that isn’t serious.

My dd is doing GCSEs and wants to study for an undergraduate degree (most likely in the social sciences) in Spain. We are UK nationals. He A levels will include Spanish as she needs to be fluent. Has anyone had to navigate this? Thank you

WTF if going on with jeans?

Why are they all messing with my lady parts? Like literally squishing and smooshing them in not a pleasant way. My poor parts feel a little bruised and chaffed.

1. I’m not wearing small knickers
2. sizing up or down makes no difference
3. this is from m and s pricing upwards (via John Lewis to Me +Em)

Has the COL shortened gussets?
have my perimeno labia grown to ridiculous sizes?
is it just me?

A friend is getting married in NYC later this year. The dress code is black tie. The venue has not been disclosed and will not be disclosed until the day of the event to avoid media attention as they are within the celebrity sphere (I know them through family and am very much not from this world)
Any advice on something suitably glamorous given there may be a few A listers present and I don’t want to look out of place? I’m 5’7, size 8-10. Budget not really an issue

Has anyone else updated their Alexa recently? We have two - an old one upstairs and an Echo downstairs. They've always been a bit renegade - the downstairs one starts playing music at 5pm every single day, despite us telling it to stop and my pretty tech-savvy son trying to do so through the app. The upstairs one wakes me up at 7.15 am and chirpily gives me the weather forecast for Newcastle - I live in Somerset. I did once ask for the Newcastle forecast about a year ago and it doesn't seem to be able to forget it. But since the update I've had:

• the weather forecast whispered to me. When I asked 'why are you whispering?' it said 'would you like me to adjust my volume calibration?' It wasn't just low volume - it was a proper whisper.
• a huge pause before answering a question or setting a timer
• tonight, when I frustratedly asked ' why are you waiting so long to set a timer?' it replied ' I'm sorry if I'm not quick enough for your busy baking schedule' ( I wasn't baking). I said 'Are you being sarcastic?' and it said 'yes, that's just the way I'm programmed'.

Not stylish AT ALL but I have finally found a housecoat after months of searching. I have a white cat with longish fur and a black cat so everything I wear in the house is instantly a cat fur magnet and I have spent a fortune on sticky rollers and invariably go out looking like a furry mess....lovely.
I had given up hope of ever finding one. I remember my grandmother wearing one round the house. She was incredibly stylish and well dressed and would never have exposed her nice clothes to children, animals or housework but would take it off if she was going out or expecting visitors.
I think they are due for a comeback 😀

www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B09RPX62RS/ref=syn_sd_offsite_mobileweb_50?ie=UTF8&psc=1&aref=z12Im60v0s&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zZF9vZmZzaXRlX21vYmlsZXdlYg&tag=dradisplay0bb-21&th=1

Just as it says in the title really.
Everything seemed fine until around 7 weeks ago. Then out of nowhere my husband accused me of being controlling, saying that over the course of our relationship, I had stopped him doing things he enjoyed and that I had said some hurtful things during arguments, which we were said in the heat of the
moment.
I held my hands up to saying hurtful things and said it came from a place where I felt as though there has been no consideration for me and as though my feelings aren’t worth anything. He often stays in bed on a morning while I sort out our kids who are all still young and I have said I have expectations that he helps out on a morning too. As for the controlling him, I have said to him over the years that sometimes it’d be nice if he would miss football for the odd weekend so we could do things as a family or have expressed my dislike at him coming in from a night out at 5am when we have children and other responsibilities.
He has mentioned occasions from 10+ years ago where I’ve asked him to forego football to spend the day with me after we’d been at work all week and I honestly don’t know how he can even remember specifics from that far back.
We both work full time and I work nights predominantly due to childcare.
Around 6 weeks ago he said he had hit his limit and wasn’t sure if he wanted to continue with our relationship. This threw me into a very dark place and I said I would take a step back in terms of losing my temper when I feel like I’m not being heard, which I’ve done, although he said this isn’t enough. I’m now on antidepressants, signed off sick from work and have a therapy appointment booked.
He has said he is done and is now looking for somewhere else to live but refuses to leave our home (rented not bought) until he has found somewhere. He has turned so cold towards me and acts like he hates me. I go from feeling devastated to angry and at this point feel as though I’m stuck in some awful limbo.
I’ve been in touch with a solicitor but was just hoping others who have been in the same boat could give me words of wisdom that things will feel less dark in time?
Thank you

How fabulous did Joan Collins look at Cannes yesterday! That dress accentuates her strengths...shoulders, legs and camouflages her midsection and arms. She carries it off with her usual style and elegance. In my opinion she looks amazing!

I’ve booked a trip to London to find a dress for DSD wedding in Cyprus in July. Am looking for suggestions of which shops I should try. I have up to £300 to spend on my outfit (not including shoes)

I know, I know, we’re all shocked.

In the King’s speech today. A new tourist tax that would be applied to overnight accommodation. It’s called the Overnight Visitor Levy Bill and could add around 5% onto hotel, B&B, guesthouse costs. They are pushing it through as we speak, I guess in time for summer.

My husband has been acting strange/secretive with his phone for a couple of weeks now so I took it on myself to look at his phone. Yes I know it’s morally dodgy but we have each others log ins and I looked at it whilst he was feeding DS dinner (it was charging upstairs).

There is a woman who is obviously a co-worker. I only had time to look at messages from the past two days. He was in the office today. He messaged her to say please walk past my desk again so I can look at your arse. She said she’d be back up in an hour and she will walk slowly this time. He then messaged again (after about an hour) to say that was the highlight of his afternoon to which she replied she knew her trousers would get attention today and sent a peach symbol. That was the last message.

I confronted him straight away and he stormed off and hasn’t come home yet. Said how dare I look at his phone. I have tried to call him and he just declined the call. He sent a text to say I’ve betrayed his trust and he can’t believe I did that instead of speaking to him.

Am I wrong to have done this, I think that if you know something is up then it’s within your right to investigate?

A friend thinks that it’s a ripoff but it seems like a pretty good deal to me and I’m curious to know what it would cost in your area?

12 inch pizza with two toppings. Fish and chips for one(Two pieces of fish) A portion of chips, a portion of onion rings and a 2 litre bottle of Coke?

TIA

We’re flying from Europe to Australia via Qatar later this year. We were supposed to fly late afternoon Tuesday, 3.5 hour layover and arrive in Australia Wednesday evening.

Our flight has changed. Now we have two choices:

1. Leave 09:30 on Wednesday, 3.5 hour layover, arrive 17:30 Thursday. We lose a day of our holiday and will need to stay in a hotel on Tuesday night because we live a long drive from the airport, which is £££

1. Leave late afternoon on Tuesday as planned. Have a 21 hour layover in Doha with a hotel provided. Arrive 17:30 Thursday so still lose a day of holiday

So basically pay out of pocket for an airport hotel, or have a 21 hour stay in Doha that is paid for. Arrival in Australia wouldn’t change.

We are travelling with two primary school aged kids.

I’ve been seeing a man since February but I have known him for a few years. We both split from our ex partners around the same time (by genuine coincidence) over Christmas.
Everything has been going well, we’ve had lots of lovely dates together, spend what time we can together. He’s said he thinks I’m his “soulmate” which I thought was a bit forward but other than that he’s funny, caring and I thought we were happy.
We’d had a few drinks in a bar the other night and I posted a photo of us to social media . I don’t really post on mine that much or care about likes but for context it got around 70 likes and lots of “I hope this is what I think it is” “happy for you” type comments.
as soon as I posted it, he went very quiet and the atmosphere changed. He said he was worried it would upset his ex with it being so soon? (What about my ex, we have a DC together!) and he hates SM. He took me home in more or less silence and that was the end of what had been a good night. I don’t think he’s seeing the ex as I know his mum and I’ve seen she’s gone back to London where she was from.

what do you think?

I am currently signed off from stress and I was due to return today but the anxiety made me vomit on the way to the office so I Igot a GP appointment and was told its a stomach bug / stress related. Think its more stress-related than germs.

I am not the main breadwinner by any means due to my long history of job-hopping. I have had in excess of over thirty jobs since the age of sixteen. Longest I have stayed anywhere was eighteen months but that took a huge mental and physical toll on me. I hate my current post and no amount of meetings, chats, plans are helping that - leaving is inevitable.

Ideally I would hand notice in and leave but the company is family run and make it almost impossible to leave. Bribery, emotional blackmail, promises that all will improve or change only for nothing to change all contribute to the stress levels.

I am now 47 years old with next to nothing in my pension pot working in a famously low (?the lowest paying) sector. I want to retrain and get better pay, less than 50 hour weeks and get out of the poor pay bracket.

Having burnt so many bridges how do I even begin to retrain and apply for new jobs away from this area. Hubby is sure I have ADHD due to many things (but definitely my job-hopping) we do not have the money for a private diagnosis due to low pay.

Help me get out of this mess please.
I feel like I am going insane trying to be normal and fit in but I just cannot manage it.

I bought a tiramisu from a supermarket yesterday. It was maybe 10 cm squared.

DH doesn’t usually buy desserts, he prefers to make them fresh. So I buy for myself and offer him some and sometimes he says yes. I think of them as mine though I’m usually happy to share. We don’t have a dessert every night.

I ate about 20% of it yesterday - it was delicious but it’s pretty rich and few spoonfuls are enough. I cut another 20% today after dinner for myself. I reminded DH we had tiramisu if he wanted some.

Baby was crying so I rushed through the tiramisu and went to settle them. I came back to find the rest of the tiramisu had gone! DH said I had eaten “half” (!) (Tbf he probably didn’t know I had some yesterday) so he had the other “half”. I’d been thinking I was going to save some for tomorrow. I’ve just looked at the box and it says it is 4 portions.

Is it fair to think of the desserts as mine? (DH is very generous with his baking but he’d definitely comment if I scoffed down most of his biscuits or whatever.)

Was it fair for DH to eat the rest of what I thought was my dessert?

Would it have been fair for me to have three portions (one yesterday, one today, one tomorrow) while DH has just one?

Semi-lighthearted. I’ll provide a bit more context later.

I’ve started looking for a wedding dress - not booked yet but very, very low key next year - 2nd marriage for us both and likely a family meal and night in a hotel for us.

I’m 45, 5ft6, hourglass size 14, grey hair and olive skin/brown eyes. Suit bodycon (appreciate not in fashion rn!), midi or maxi length and like structured, modern looks. Ideally sleeves or shoulders covered, though could add a caplet or similar if sleeveless.

I found this Roland Mouret which is a bargain, and assume I would need to size up to a 16?

Or if anyone has other dresses/designers to suggest -
My budget is around 1k (my dream would be this 5k Vivienne Westwood or this). The only other I have liked online is this (bit ott)

AIBU.... to be pissed off and feeling like my Childminder is gossiping about my DC?

So youngest DS (7) can be a real handful at times..... it's not major stuff though but I am mindful and I'm keeping an eye on it etc...... anyway a couple of weeks back School rang to inform me of an incident in School dealt with and move on... Teacher mentioned on the call that he isn't naughty but she does have to remind him to sit down or to be quiet etc but in her words all very low level.... I don't do drop off or pick up and calls home are not frequent so when they do I always check in in general etc.... anyway, I know he has an ongoing love/hate friendship with a boy in his class who he has and probably still is best friends with.... this boy is just as bad if not worse than my DS except he is also very sly with it he is also small and acts the quiet one so can hide in plain sight.... my DS unfortunately is tall, he is also loud and bloody well opinionated at times 🙄however, said childs mum thinks the sun shines out of his arse quite frankly.... last week whilst with his afterschool childcare there has been an altercation on the park involving my DS, this boy, this boys other friend and 2 other youngsters on the park..... my DS has snapped and tripped him up and also swore which he has been punished for.... it was a small issue and dealt with. Anyway mum of other child has now decided she doesn't want her angel near my demon child, no issue with this tbh as I have seen much for myself and I'd be happy to keep them apart. Friday when with the same childminder he has apologised straight away as he also has to the child and the child's mum which I think is very brave for 7..... they have ignored him which is fine and my DS has played with other children really well without any issue.... however, said child wouldn't leave him alone and was continuously coming to my DS trying to get a reaction.... I am working on his reactions as he will take so much then snap but this child knows this and imo is doing it deliberately....his mother said nothing until my CM actually pulled her and said get that sorted it's not on.

I gave dropped my DS this morning at breakfast club and the care provider has said "are you ok? is XX ok, he isn't coping well at the minute is he?" I have asked what she means and find that she has been told about the park last week and the one incident in school....... I don't think this is a not coping issue just that there have been 2 issues but totally seperate.... turns out her brother has told her and she has sat discussing my child with him at weekend...... she also then said she was talking to his teacher last week about him and said how she was saying him and other child remind her of her son and his friend.... childminder & teacher are friends which I am aware of......... and I also know friends talk.... but I'm really pissed off that she has had the front to actually tell me and to act like she is caring but has discussed behind my back....... AIBU?

I'm posting here as it tends to get the most responses and I am trying to make a hard decision.

I have 2 beautiful little boys (2 and 8 weeks) I love them more than I ever thought I could love anyone. However, I feel a constant feeling of wanting to have a little girl. I have spoken to my partner about having a 3rd in 2 years or so and he has agreed but I can't quite bring myself to commit the thought in my mind.

Part of me thinks my partner is agreeing to it as he knows its what I want but he isn't overly invested in the 2 we have currently so I'm not sure.

I am also very concious that I could have a 3rd and it would be another boy (I would love him dearly but would I then want a 4th to try for a girl again)

Thirdly I am very aware that the world is bloody expensive and I am trying really hard not to work (or not more than very part time at a minimum wage job) during my boys childhood. We could technically afford 3 without me working/part time but it would be a very basic life for their entire childhood with very little outings or trips etc.

I know in my heart I want more children but would it be unreasonable given the above?

Thank you to everyone who helped with our previous post.
We are now going to spell it
Renee

We are now debating whether to put accent on or not now
We want it to sound Ree-nee
We know the French pronunciation is ruh-nah and we do have french blood in the family.