Handed in notice - manager reacted badly

[Booklish]

I handed in my notice last week - leaving for a new, higher role, more responsibility and more pay. Was (I thought) polite in the notice, thanked manager for their guidance, explained it was a career opportunity, confirmed I’d work my notice and proper handover etc etc

Manager has reacted very badly in a call with just us two, told me I have left them ‘in the shit’. Said I was unprofessional and have disappointed them, that I should have told them I was going for an interview (?!) and spoke to me very poorly. Also implied that there were areas of my work that I have been ‘keeping to myself’ that she has no oversight of.

Aside from being disappointed as this was somewhere I have worked extremely hard and built (what I thought were) good relationships. Is there anything else for me to do or bear in mind? Feel very down and almost doubting myself for leaving.

Don’t doubt yourself for leaving - your manager has happily put the nail in that coffin. I’d work your notice to the best of your ability, write a clear handover and, by email, ask your manager to detail the areas of work they think you’ve kept to yourself so you can ensure they’re handed over.

Good luck in your new role.

if anything this shows you made the right decision

she is the one being unprofessional

if she is angry that you are leaving she knows that you were not paid well enough for the role really

and no, you do not tell your manager when you for interview

but maybe let go of the idea that you want to leave s as “friends”, be professional calm and detached and business-like. No need to bend over backwards or anything

well done on the new job 💪👍 I left 3 times and it is the only way to move up really, and if you are any good your manager will always be at least a bit annoyed that you are leaving 😁😁😁

Well their reaction speaks volumes. Did they offer to increase your pay, or ask what they could do, to make you perhaps reconsider?

I guess that just confirms you were right to be leaving.
Sounds like they're being unprofessional and having a proper tantrum!!

If you've done everything by the book, you've nothing to worry about. But might be worth speaking to ACAS for advice, in case she gets nastier.

Hopefully your notice period is short!

No, it is your manager who is unprofessional here. Was she expecting you to stay forever and be buried under your desk?

She has no right to know when you are job searching - particularly as this flavour of manager might try and sabotage you.

And this behaviour really confirms you are right to move on.

Have you had a look at askamanager.com? There are similar situations on there quite often.

Good luck with the new job!

Staff come and go. If your manager was at all professional they would be thanking you for your efforts and sitting down with you to plan the handover before you leave.

Please do not feel down. Your manager is a unprofessional fucking idiot. Be grateful to be leaving for bigger and better things, and hopefully better management.

“Is there anything else for me to bear in mind?”

Yes, that you’ve had a lucky escape from a bad manager.

Congratulations on your new role, you will be brilliant and won’t look back!

That’s outrageous! I’d personally gGo straight to HR and put it in writing, make sure they do your reference, not this unprofessional person who clearly relies on you because she can’t manage to train someone else up in the job!

Congratulations on your new job!
Just work your notice and promise yourself that you will be more professional than your current manager.

Sounds like she surprised and worried and reacted unprofessionally but humanly

Unprofessional and inappropriate of her! You have every right to seek and accept a new job, and as long as you work your agreed notice, she has nothing to complain about. Bad manager!

This. Your manager is ridiculous. If you are so valuable to her, she should have paid you more and treated you better.

The only person at fault is her for poor management. Ignore her. Good luck in your new role.

Your manager is ridiculous. People move on and leave jobs, end of.

She’s being totally unreasonable and you are doing the best possible thing by leaving
onwards and upwards!

This is utterly mental, and you’ve done nothing wrong.

Some people are completely unable to control themselves, manage their emotions, and conduct themselves with dignity and professionalism.

Pity the fuckers - they’re embarrassing and nobody likes them.

Congrats on the new job!! Onwards and upwards!

I was thinking the same @Booklish
Congratulations on your new role. Tick off the days and grey rock any nonsense.
Maybe use up some holiday to shorten notice if you can and give you time to unwind as you shake the sand from your sandals and leave

I had a similar experience when I left a post I had been in for 5 years. To be honest it left a bad taste in my mouth for a long time but I had seen them treat other employees who moved on just as badly so it was a them problem not a me problem.

Best of luck in the new job OP. That reaction told you all you need to know . Do whatever you need to do to make the handover smooth but engage with that manager as little as possible.

The only thing to bear in mind is that your manager is an unprofessional twatwaffle.

Or cunt.

Either will do!

Good luck with your new career - look forward, not back!

What a ridiculous reaction. You're not the unprofessional one here!

Well done on the new job - sounds like a good decision!

Definitely send an innocent sounding email to document the conversation as PP says above. Just in case she becomes more difficult

Well! Now you can leave without a backwards glance

Enjoy your new job 😃

Send your manager an email confirming that you handed in your notice last week, ask for confirmation that it was received, and confirm your date of leaving. Be sure to copy in HR as well. Ignore everything else that was said to you for the time being.

I wonder if it was my old manager? My role was supposed to have a 3mth notice period but due to THEIR cock up, my contract only said 1mth. i was delighted to leave due to her toxic attitude. From the day I handed in my notice, I wasn't allowed to attend any meetings, she'd walk out of the room if I entered and the minute I'd sit at my desk, she'd accuse my of lazy about all day!

It sounds like your boss is jealous or panicked about having to find someone else. Personally, I don't know if I would have said I was leaving for more money. I might have kept it vague such as more responsibility or different opportunities etc.

No, you don't tell them you are going for interviews! They could have been professional and made a counter offer, but they didn't. Don't doubt yourself at all- her true colours have come out and there is no way I'd stay there now.

Your manager is completely unprofessional. You are doing the right thing.