Fucking disgusting MEN

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So my teenage daughter works in a well known clothes store, she routinely has to deal with difficult customers but has just come home very upset.

Apparently a shirtless male walked into the store (there is no security guard) and took a pile of clothes into the changing room. He was in there for some time and then came out, still shirtless, and handed my daughter the pile pf clothes which were all tangled together in a bundle, said he didn't want anything, and walked out of the store.

Upon straightening out the items for re-hanging, my daughter found that he had ejaculated all over a pair of boxer shorts.
My daughter is horrified. She alerted to store manager who said he will "deal with it" but nothing else was done and the police were not called.

I have just found out that a few weeks ago another man was "escorted" out of the store after being found wanking in the changing room. They are not sure if this is the same person or not.

I am so infuriated that he very probably handed the clothes to my daughter as part of the whole fetish, involving an innocent kid in his depravity.

I am so fed up of entitled, depraved male lunatics enforcing themselves on women. Not sure why I'm posting here but just very very sad and upset for her and also angry at the manager ( a male) who will probably do nothing.

Omfg, what the fuck is wrong with them?

OP, so sorry your daughter went through this and I hope she can find a way through that doesn't knock her confidence. Sending her much love and best wishes. Please do make sure it is reported to the police, as others have said, not only is this very serious in itself but also highly likely to escalate. A man behaving that way is seriously problematic and needs to be stopped. Well done to your daughter for speaking up to to her manager and to you, she has done the right thing and now is the time for society to do the right thing by her.

Not all men are burglars. That doesn't comfort me in the least after my house has been burgled.

It occurs to me that the damaged goods must be accounted for - actually in accounts, for audit. How is the manager reporting this, if he's not going to involve the police? Blame it on the staff? Storage conditions? Shop lifters? (But he'd have to report that.) Some pretty serious weaselling must be going on to cover himself. If I was up the managerial line and found bunches of stuff going AWOL on several occasions, I'd want to know how, and why.
Norse and Old English had a word for characters of subhuman behaviours - nithing. They are not men, but unmen, and people like the store manager are enabling them.
It also occurs to me to wonder why the manager didn't want the police forensics people testing the DNA in the stockroom. Ick ick ick.
(Other things I have been reading. Intelligent design - Pah! Women are not fit to represent god in the church- says who? And men are?)

It’s criminal damage.

Doing nothing isn't good enough. The manager has a duty of care, which now includes a preventative rather than simply responsive duty to protect staff from sexual harassment.
Obviously whether that particular perpetrator is caught or not is out of his hands, but changes to operations in the store to prevent a future incident are not. He needs to ensure that changing rooms are better monitored so this isn't something that can just 'happen', as I'm sure he would if they were being used for other activity like drug taking or theft.
I realise that if your DD is young and perhaps not confident it may be hard for her to pursue this. But if she does feel able, and nothing is done very quickly to reduce future risk, she should contact ACAS for advice.
We can't do much about the existence of disgusting male lunatics, but we can do something to make sure those who are legally obliged to protect us from them at work do their jobs.

And forgot to add to my previous post: the soiled garments should be kept and ideally in a clean sealed paper bag...instead of a sealed plastic bag that could alter organic matter.

How bloody awful for your daughter, such grim behaviour and he knew what he was doing as well knowing what your daughter would encounter.

They do literally noting about crimes like this and then get all upset and angry when women object to males in their single sex, female only spaces!

Tell me about it.

Not all men, but always men.

I encourage you to attempt an anonymous blog, particularly in the light of trans-identified males doping themselves so they can ooze some kind of secretion from their nipples & shove them in infants' mouths.
One of the (many) reasons men behave so badly is that discussing their nastier habits gives many people the ick, that silence & the consequent general ignorance allows them to continue.

I used to have a bit of an unreliable car. Nothing too bad, but struggled to start it usually when I could least afford the time. I also lived about 200 metres from a large passing place/lay-by and for some reason the local AA guy took to parking up there between call outs. I guess he had to park somewhere. So, every time I called for a Home Start (probably about three times a year), I had only to wait a matter of a few minutes before he arrived at my door. Twas like having a personal AA man all to myself. Flipping marvellous!
And yet, even he had ABSOLUTELY NOTHING on the bloody Not My Nigel brigade and their monitoring of each and every thread posted on FWR.
Namalt Ninja’s.

Good news everyone.

He's been arrested.
He was caught in Home Bargains today doing the same thing.
My daughters manager did phone the police and they said they had picked him up today after another incident.
He was identified on the CCTV footage as being the same guy, and also the same one who was escorted out the time before for masturbating in the changing room.

Hopefully daughter does not have to testify or anything, police have not asked to question her.

Thanks for all the support.

Yes, surely her workplace has a duty of care to protect her from risks of contact with bodily fluids handled without PPE?

So disgusting 🤢

Good news OP

Well done, OP, and that's great news. (Very occasionally) The system works!

Well done! I hope this creep is taught a lesson.

Amazing! That is very good news!
Hope your DD is ok.

That's great!! Thank you for the update.
Hopefully he will be charged with some substantial crime, hopefully he will be on his criminal record together with his DNA and I hope also the police will examine all his devices.
How does your daughter feel? I hope she feels supported and validated...best wishes to her and I am so glad you posted here and you found support. Stronger together.

Good news

I would be contacting the police yourself for the reasons other people have mentioned.

Great new, Op. Hope your DD is ok.

I have read your update but tbh my thoughts have not changed from reading the op. You need to financially support your daughter so she can quit asap and then find a new job, you don’t want her to get used to tolerating her boundaries being tested like this and a lack of support from management. They might have reported him to the police but they needed to do much more ie offer her support in the moment, for me to not say she should leave.

Not sure what you mean here...assuming you mean paedophiles, how does they have anything to do with thousands of years of sexism against adult women?

I'm SO sorry your daughter had to deal with that, OP. How absolutely awful for her. I'm so glad he's been caught!

As a young person I worked in shops, cafes, and pubs, and there was only one incident, so I must have been lucky. In 1991, I had a Saturday job in a cafe, and this very respectable-looking older gentleman came in. Maybe age 70. The manager was a very no-nonsense, sensible type, and she said loudly and firmly "I can't serve you" and he nodded and went away. She then told me that he'd been in a few days earlier, sitting there with his penis out, wanking away!!! Thank God I wasn't there. I have no idea if he was getting dementia or was a weirdo, but you would not have pegged him as a weirdo to look at him at all. And luckily, that's as close as I ever came to such an incident. I wonder if things have got worse in the last 30 years or so.

@HildegardP Sorry, I'm not criticising, it's just that my ADHD finds oblique references that I don't get very frustrating, and it happens to me a lot!

P = patriarchy, I think, FloofBunny.

Though we could all think of other words for this man too.