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Kind of AIBU

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alphamummy · 29/04/2011 13:46

To find the following saying revolting and vile. and not know how to challenge this kind of attitude?

"Smash her back door in" seen on fb was liked my one of my female friends.

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StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 29/04/2011 13:48

What is smash her back door in?

PrinceHumperdink · 29/04/2011 13:49

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TimeWasting · 29/04/2011 14:05

I used to laugh at some of the vile things my male friends used to say, they were pushing boundaries knowing it was risque etc.
Now I realise I was merely being compliant in order to be accepted in the gang. Never realised at the time that I didn't even get 'full membership' to that gang.
I say it how I see it now.

TimeWasting · 29/04/2011 14:05

What does it mean/imply?

PrinceHumperdink · 29/04/2011 14:11

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TimeWasting · 29/04/2011 14:12

Yes, presumably. I just can't imagine a context in which one would write that on fb. Confused

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 29/04/2011 14:48

oh lovely Hmm

Pixielovescake · 29/04/2011 15:05

One of my male friends has written just this. Do we know each other ? If not :( so many clearly think its acceptable.

TimeWasting · 29/04/2011 15:06

Omg, is this them saying what they'd like to do to the lovely royal bride? Confused

SybilBeddows · 29/04/2011 15:23

if so then it is probably high treason and they will be in the Tower before the day is out!

TimeWasting · 29/04/2011 15:26

Hopefully.

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 29/04/2011 15:26

Surely not
Either way, it's about a woman
If that is what it means it's absolutely disgusting
Is there some offence that covers this?

Pixielovescake · 29/04/2011 15:59

i want to comment on my friends status now. Not sure what to say. Im sure i will be dismissed as a hystrical woman as well. :(

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 29/04/2011 16:00

ask her if she's aware what it means? And why she has written it?
Then de-friend her (on FB and in RL)

Pixielovescake · 29/04/2011 16:02

Its a he. Hes not a major friend. Im such a wuss.

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 29/04/2011 16:03

Oh sorry, misread your first post.
You could ask him the same. Or just defriend him anywya

Pixielovescake · 29/04/2011 16:06

Might just de friend to be honest. Dont want to have to read that on my fb.

dittany · 29/04/2011 16:10

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StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 29/04/2011 16:12

Don't know that it is - I don't understand how anyone can be expected to understand what it refers to

TimeWasting · 29/04/2011 16:57

That was just me pondering what a seemingly random comment about a woman would refer to today.
Horrible regardless though.

SueSylvesterforPM · 29/04/2011 20:15

I thought that phrase referred to both consensual anal sex too Hmm I know kicking the back door in does...smash doesc sound more aggressive though

dittany · 29/04/2011 22:44

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SueSylvesterforPM · 30/04/2011 09:42

Kicking the back door in describes something non-consensual too.

Oh Just I've heard a couple going 'oh we've kicked the back door in'

dittany · 30/04/2011 12:32

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bronze · 30/04/2011 12:35

It comes from that program that ferne and holly are on.
Makes me feel sick to hear it