Im 30 stone. Where do I begin

[Catmeow20]

I physically just cannot manage, all I enjoy in life is food. My health is so bad, I cant properly go to the toilet let alone play with little one. My husband is supportive but I can tell hes sick of me. I’m too embarrassed to see the GP. What do I do, so sick of myself

I would try weight loss jabs xxx

Yep sounds like the jabs will be a great for you

i say this with some personal experience. Not me, but a very close family member. You probably need weight loss surgery. I am in the US, so I don’t know how it works there but it has changed my relative’s life. And as a result, mine too. I know you probably have a lot of shame about your weight but you can do this! You have to face it head on. Please love yourself and get the help you need. You are worth it!

Get on the jab! My friend has lost 12 stone in 18 months. She is literally half the woman she was! It's been a miracle!

You will definitely qualify for weight loss jabs on the NHS. It will be life changing. Please please go to your gp. You deserve help and health.

Please don’t be embarrassed to go to your GP, this is a medical condition and they will. E kind

the weightloss jabs will probably not be suitable but you will be eligible for surgery on the nhs

first step is making that appointment, hopefully your gp surgery does things online now so you can just fill in a form rather than calling

I wish you the best of luck in feeling better

I was once your size. I had a gastric sleeve op via the NHS and it was the best thing I’ve ever done for my health. I went from 30 stone to 16 stone within 18
months. It’s been transformative.

If you’re in England then just bite the bullet and say to your GP that you’d like to be referred to your local weight management service. From there you can try medications, help with diet etc and often will then be refered on to a hospital if you would benefit from and want surgery.

You are so brave to want to conquer this. I'd definitely see your GP they can arrange a clinically supervised plan for you and involve a dietician to look at your diet and advise accordingly.
Any other medical conditions would be considered and perhaps they would consider weight loss injections to kick start your journey.
Gentle exercise like walking/ swimming would be a good starter

Weight loss surgery comes with so many risks and isn’t necessarily the best route. Weight loss injections are so much better for most people.

You’ve done the first steps, which are decide you want to change things and post on here.

I would guess there are three possible ways to approach this (or you could combine 2 or all 3 of them if you wanted.)

You could go to the GP for advice and to enquire about weight loss jabs.

You could decide to eliminate all ultra-processed foods and drinks from your diet.

You could buy a smaller plate to ensure you eat smaller portions.

Best of luck OP - you got this.,

Why would you be embarrassed to talk to your GP? Your GP regularly has to stick a finger up a bloke's bum to check their prostate gland, and examine intimate rashes and fungal infections. They are not going to judge you. They will be happy that you have taken the first step in asking for help. Help is available.

As your BMI is over 40 you are likely to qualify for WLIs on the NHS. Your GP will need to check which potential other issues affect you. The key ones are :

• Type 2 diabetes
• High blood pressure (hypertension)
• Cardiovascular (heart) disease
• Dyslipidaemia (high cholesterol or abnormal blood fats)
• Obstructive sleep apnoea

Even if you don't have an official diagnosis of these, they are very common in people who are overweight so you probably have at least 2 or 3 of these.

WLIs alone don't fix you, but your GP should be able to help you to access support to make sustainable lifestyle changes that will make a huge difference.

Do reach out to your GP Op.

This is about making things better for your little one, your DH and you.

People here will support you as you take each step; many have been on dramatic weight loss journeys.

There is nothing to feel ashamed of. Only a certain type of person will judge you for weight when there are so many worse things in the world than being overweight.

See the GP, take their advice and come back for support with that journey.

Is there someone who will go with you to the GP to support you.

You’ve done the first steps, which are decide you want to change things and post on here.

Yes, you have OP. Step 1 (in many ways the most important): tick.

You are absolutely right. I should have added that the injections didn’t work for this person. Too many side effects. Surgery is a last resort. I guess I just wanted to add that there are other options if the shot doesn’t work. Thank you for reminding me kindly!

WLI have worked for a few of my friends and family members OP. Good luck!

Really think how you'll look and feel 12months from now if you go to your GP and ask for a referral. Keep picturing yourself that way and take the first step. I hope it works for you.

Def go to the GP they will be able to help, I’d also advocate therapy.

I've been 30st, went down to 18stone. It was in the early days of the jabs so I didn't use them (I have absolutely no problem with them and will probably use them to continue to lose weight if I feel the need too, at the time I just wanted some others to be the guinea pigs 😂) and weigh loss surgery wasnt right for me, I firmly believe you need to be in the right headspace and I wasn't, I know I wouldve fucked it up.

I started small, the first week I ate 1 chocolate bar in a day instead of 2 or 3 and moved more...I got a bin bag and picked up all the rubbish in the house and cleared my wardrobe out, I tidied the kitchen cupboards, walked to the next bus stop instead of my usual, walked to Tesco instead of Sainsbury's because it was slightly further

The next week I tried to make a healthier choice for one meal of the day (it was lunch in my case, giant salads with enough stuff in that it felt substantial...it was never going to be as many calories as 2 McDonalds meals with apple pies and an extra cheeseburger which was my go too)

I spent a month making small changes like that but they added up, then I started calorie counting, not restrictively but it had to fit in my calories (I used my fitness pal) and built up the walking.

And my biggest thing was if I had a bad day, I just started again the next, no beating myself up or "I fucked it up so now I'll REALLY fuck it up". Just oops, lets start again.

It's not easy but it IS doable, I absolutely promise

This is brilliant advice.

Also as you lose weight you’ll be less tired, more mobile and therefore find it easier to exercise. Start small and results will come.

Gastric bypass and then jabs

Go see your GP. They will view it as a positive that you're willing to improve your health. 10 minutes at the GP vs spending time being able to be more active with your dc.
It could change your life.

@Catmeow20 I’m too embarrassed to see the GP

If it helps, I know a GP and she said she finds it very satisfying to have patients losing weight via jabs or surgery or any other way, because the results are so easy to see. If you have a patient with something like anaemia or a kidney disorder or similar, you can see the results in their blood tests, or other tests, but often that’s numbers on a screen or a piece of paper. Then someone walks in having visibly shrunk, and the visual shock is often really good. So don’t feel embarrassed. Like a pp said, they’ve been inspecting ‘revolting’ body parts since they qualified, it’s literally their bread and butter. They’re like those pimple popper people.

Lots of weight loss advice above, but please find something you love just for you. It’s hard with little ones not to put yourself at the bottom of the list, and food is an easy reward when you’re tired and stressed. You deserve something for yourself that brings you joy x