Im 30 stone. Where do I begin

[Catmeow20]

I physically just cannot manage, all I enjoy in life is food. My health is so bad, I cant properly go to the toilet let alone play with little one. My husband is supportive but I can tell hes sick of me. I’m too embarrassed to see the GP. What do I do, so sick of myself

Went from 25 stone to 8 counting calories. No jabs. No surgery. It can be done but you have to want to do it more than you want to eat. It's an emotional thing, I think, for some.

Mounjaro. It's a life changer. You will not think that the only is pleasure is food once you go on it - you have a husband and a little one, you will start to enjoy life with them instead.

Im on the jabs and lost 3 1/2 stone. It works because you just don't feel hungry. Ive been to my favourite Italian restaurant 2 days after a jab and could only manage about 1/3 portion of my lasagne. Before jabs if have eaten a starter, then eaten all of my portion of lasagna and had garlic bread or chips as a side. Then dessert. On jabs at beginning of week after jab only about 1/3, at end of week possibly 1/2. Try the jabs OP. I used Mounjaro.

Don't underestimate a change of environment too. I notice that I have had jobs where the weight has just fallen off. I've had the opposite too, a slower paced desk job where the opposite happened and the weight piled on

I was 30 stone at my biggest, I've lost 12 through diet and exercise and feel great. If I can do it OP so can you. Stay positive, get WLI if you can, it really will change your life. If it helps read my poem I posted here a few days ago.
Also if you have a bad day and eat don't beat yourself up about it, we're all only human.
Good luck 👍

Well done for wanting to take control of your health. Please don't feel embarrassed about going to see your GP. It is a good idea to get a check up before starting anything as it gives you a baseline to measure against.

The first step is the hardest, but once you get going, it will become easier, you just need to keep going.

Go to the GP and get support. You can do this x

See your GP about the physical side and see a therapist for the emotional side.

Also read some success stories so you get your head round the fact change can happen.

I don’t know why my post got hidden. I just included links the the Monj price comparison site.

But I’d say if you can afford it, just get the WLI. Don’t waste time waiting to see your GP. If it’s a two week wait you could be a stone down by then.

Order MJ today, it will be with you by Tuesday. From today try to cut down the sugar and fatty food as much as you can. Eat unlimited protein and veg. So things like plain chicken breast and green veg.

Weigh yourself, take measurements and take photos. You’ll never be this heavy again and you’ll love having these photos to compare to what’s to come.

WLI I know I’ve only saying, but that is exactly what you need to do

i have lost over 11st on Mounjaro, if you can afford it then a private prescription is something you can sort out very quickly.

If you can contact your GP (and you’re in England, not sure about how it works in Scotland or elsewhere) they may be able to refer you to the tier three weight loss service. That may eventually qualify you for either Wegovy or weight loss surgery depending on your area. You might qualify for Mounjaro on the NHS but only if you have at least three qualifying health conditions (high BP, high cholesterol, T2 diabetes, obstructive sleep apnoea or heart disease).

You have a better chance than most of qualifying for weight loss injections on NHS and i agree with others than your GP will have seen it all so you should try to get past any embarrassment.

However, if you are in a position to afford it, just get online today and do an online consultation and buy them yourself. It will sidestep any delays for appointments and referrals first for diet advice etc and give you control.

there are so many suppliers but as you’ve been in a bad place with your health I think I would recommend swift doctor or pharmulous as a starting pint as they are GP led and can advise better - many of the others are very much mass produced automatic prescribing sustained just churning out orders. (Which is good once you are settled in and confident as can get better prices)

you are lucky in that you’ve come to this realisation in a world where we now really do have a solution for obesity. Use it. Best of luck.

If you can be brave enough then ask your GP to refer you to weight loss service. If you really cant face the GP then self fund mounjaro . It's changed so many people's lives.. so many people on the jabs now.
Ive been on them over 2 years and lost 8 stone, am now a healthy weight for the first time in my adult life and im in my 40s.

Sorry you are feeling so down OP.

Go to your GP: you have nothing to be embarrassed about, you won’t be the first, or the heaviest they are treating, and it is literally their job to help you, heal you and support you back to health!

Certainly see your GP before self referring for jabs! This is important!

I have two (wonderful) friends and one cousin who were your weight- all got effective help and all in ways that were right for them. One had surgery, one had help from a psychologist/ psychiatrist/ MH specialist, one is doing really well on NHS prescribed and monitored jabs.

All started with a visit to the GP.

Good luck to you OP.

Just to say @Catmeow20 that you don’t have to see your own GP before starting a private prescription, it’s not necessary. I certainly didn’t. If you have three or more of the qualifying conditions to be prescribed Mounjaro on the NHS then it would be worth asking to save you the cost of a private prescription.

I've given up salt and find that I don't much like food anymore.
I made lentil soup with no stock cube added, don't add soy sauce to anything any more, given up salty snacks and so on.
I did it because I need to lose weight and lower blood pressure.
I don't eat much sugar nor saturated fat.
That's what we humans love: sugar and fat combined and salt and fat combined.

Don't know if that helps but something to consider maybe.

The jabs definitely gave me a kick start, I find it harder than most to lose weight and most people find it tricky! I lost 2 stone in 18 months so it’s not as rapid as everyone thinks! I honestly would say use the jabs as a way to get your head in the game and your motivation up. Seeing success (lbs dropping) gives you a boost and I found so many other benefits - before I’d even lost any weight my inflammation was hugely reduced (less-to-no daily pain), and my brain was so so so so soooo much quieter! Not just because food noise was reduced - my overall noisy brain was calmed. Which gives you space to actually formulate a plan and focus and think of things other than misery and food and guilt!

Oh, my love. I'm sorry. I'm in the same boat with excess weight so can understand.

Can you afford the Mounjaro? It changed my life, but can't afford it now myself, but if you can, then do.

Are you able to afford nutritious food like veggies and fish and fruit? I get so tired at work that when I get home I can't be bothered to cook something healthy so takeaway or calorific food it is. I always feel shit after both though. Maybe batch cook meals like spaghetti bolognese, hearty stews and such on your days off and pop them in the freezer. Have plenty of frozen or fresh veggies with them to make it feel like a bigger meal. I find fruit, chocolate rice cakes and yoghurt are all nice snacks if I get hungry between meals.

Drink lots of water and cut out fizzy drinks, even zero sugar. They retain fat (i think).

Can you do some gentle exercise? Do you like swimming? I find that easy because the water carries you and you don't feel the pain or strain as much. Aqua fit is brilliant fun too!

It's very possible that there's a psychological cause for your weight and overeating, so it's worth seeking paid counselling or free talking therapies which your doctor can refer you to.

Well done, thats a fabulous achievement!

I’ve watched a lot of “my 600lb life” episodes and those patients are put on a high protein, low carb diet of 1200 calories. But this is to get them to a weight where safer to do weight loss surgery. I don’t know how they are treating people now given the WLIs and if show still going but I’d definitely give the WLIs a go.

Best of luck. I have a lot of sympathy for people battling weight issues as I do it myself and it’s rarely due to a lack of knowledge on how to lose weight. Hope you make the appointment tomorrow and let us know how it goes and wishing you brighter days ahead.

I've struggled with my weight all my life and I used to dream of a pill that would make me lose weight and now we have one, although in my case it's a jab.

In 8 months I've gone from almost 18 stone to 12 and a half and I'm so happy with the results so far.

As others have said, see your GP but in the meantime, go to www.monj.co.uk to find a registered pharmacy to buy from.

You'll also find loads of advice here on MN.

I appreciate that WLI aren't for everyone but if you can afford it, it's definitely worth a try and can be life-changing.

You already know right, you need to go on a diet, use weight loss meds if you can afford and see your gp, you may be eligible on the nhs as you may have developed other conditions.

Start with your GP. They hear about all sorts of things on a daily basis that a lot of us might think are embarrassing. It is their job to help. 💐

There's only one thing you can do ..and that is drastically reduced your food intake.
Two years ago I weighed 27 stone ..my BMI was 56 .
I had been waiting for WLS on NHS ..I'd waited 3 years ..and then I got an email saying COVID delays,another 5 years wait...I thought..I'm not going to be alive then.
So I cut back on every thing I could financially.and bought weight loss jabs .
I knew I couldn't wait another 5 years and I knew I couldn't do it on my own .
I started swimming and walking..I prioritised myself and my health, because I'd been putting my needs last in the family .
I didn't meet the criteria to have the jabs on the NHS ,and because I was on the waiting list for WLS I couldn't have the jabs even if I'd met the criteria,at that time both waiting lists were horrendous.
I've gone from a size 34 to a size 16 ..but I couldn't of done it without the jabs .
But ..I calorie counted the whole time and I still do ...at first I was averaging a stone every 6 weeks..I downloaded weight loss calorie counting apps and tracked everything..so that I knew what had worked for when I needed to come of the jabs ..one last point ..don't go up the jabs fast .try to stay on the lower dose as long as possible,my provider at the time pushed me up the doses very fast ..which was very expensive and left me with no where to go when I was on the top dose with more weight to loose ..
Good luck you can do this

@Catmeow20 never returned one post pony. She's enough to be going on with from you lovely people.