NOW or NEVER, NO EXCUSES thread Part 3

[CheckpointCharlie]

Ooooooohhhh, that's exciting, and a bit of an honour, I feel like the Leader!

Ooh tally that sounds great, so glad the pain is being addressed!

Oh no youcan what a hideous dilemma, I don't know what to say.
Where is the stag do? Is it abroad? If it isn't, can he compromise and go for three days or something (still far too long for a stag do IMO but...)

Can you ask him how he would feel if it was you, and your friend was putting the pressure on you when he didn't want you to go? That's what I would do I think. X

Youcan

Point out that it won't included alcohol and that no way there going be staying in hotel so can double the £300 easily on booze etc
And you are not being a bitch

Tally
Glad meds helping

Tortoise

Bugger:( I hate it warn that happens and the. Have think something else

Oh i KNEW you would all get it.

He is doing the pathtic act...like someone else said - i won't let him out to play....
We could afford it but that means going without somethign else and I am not rpepared to sacrifice things for us as a fmaily for a lads holiday.
CCC it is abroad...No doubt he will go out in this country as well.

He really thinks he should go. Like it will just be a few hundred pounds, a few drinks and some sun bathing. i told him that it would get out ohand...no doubt lots of drinking, watersports (pah!), clubbing etc No way is £100 going to last the week. He gets some money for going on deployment...he wants to spend some of that. But I have been through a lot having 6 months on my own that money is FAMILY money - not piss up money.

I know I am ranting but even if he doesn't mention it again it will forever be that i didn't 'let' him go to his best mates stag do...ffs.
Oh I am not going to sleep tonight.

I totally agree it will only be the start of the total cost!

tbh it will be horrible having to think about money the whole time he is there...especially if others are splashing the cash around.

Hi youcan I hope you got some sleep last night. As we've all said he is completely underestimating how much he'll spend and there are much better ways for him to spend his time any money. I'm so glad our friends are all married now, hopefully there won't be any more of this nonsense. Dh has been abroad 3 times for stag nights and weddings and I resented every fucking minute of it.

A snow day yesterday so made and ate chocolate cookies with dd1. Glad she's back at school, she loves baking. Not good for my diet to have her around.

youcan I hope you slept alright. £100 will no way last the week. A lot of places do have alcohol included but only the cheap stuff and I doubt a stag party will want to stay on the hotel site for the whole week. £100 would be lucky to last one night in some clubs!

Having a bad day already. I know it's comfort eating and I have to get control of it but today I'm struggling.

To add to the stress, my housing association sent a letter today telling me that they want to do a home check because my garden is untidy again (mainly toys!) and I'm in breach of tenency . They don't know my Brother is living here and I don't know if I will be in trouble for that. She will check the whole house and see the extra bed in Ds1's room.
I don't know what to do.

Tortoise what sort of tots can you shove into a corner say stored for winter is that what they saying your in breech of tennancy for ?

Hmm can bed just be say its a spare if family or friends visit ?

It's just general bits of outside toys and yes it needs sorting but it hasn't really been the weather lately for that.
It's a squeeze fitting a 2nd bed in the room so doubt she would accept that. I'm going to have to tidy the whole house by 31st! Sounds easy for tidy people lol but I'm not naturally a tidy person and in a small 3 bed house there is a lot of stuff. She will no doubt complain that it's cluttered like she did before.

tort we have a spare bed in DD's room so that we can sleep in with her when she unsettled...any mileage in that? Obvs if your DS is 14 probably not...

ICB He's 15 .

Hmm throw cushions on if etc say Spare bed /sofa use for ds

I would go for spare bed for when your DS has friends over.

How can she complain if the house is cluttered tho? As long as you aren't damaging the property then surely it's up to you how little or how much stuff you have in it

She did a visit about 8 months ago and there was no bed in there then. I just know she will question it. She wasn't impressed with me letting DSs have separate rooms leaving me with no bedroom, just a sofa bed downstairs. I know it's not ideal but it works for us in general. I'd love a bedroom and if I could move to a 3 bed with dining room I'd use that as a bedroom. I am looking at mutual exchanges but not much around.

It's none of their business long as Property is not damaged and I'm surprised they allowed to look around

Tortoise I'm about to have sofabed and tbh it's no ones business but mine 3 bedrooms 4 dc don't mix and need do something as moving not option ( ds1 18,ds2 16,dd10and ds3,7 but more 4/5

It is absolutely none of her business if you choose to sleep downstairs to give you DC a bedroom each. It's her job to ensure the property is maintained and not damaged, not dictate who sleeps where. She sounds like a right mardy caaah

I agree with Human and Tally. What if you have a bad back and couldn't use the stairs etc?

Another conversation with sullen husband this evening but he appears to have accpeted his fate. Now he is wondering if stag is going to change plans to accomodate him....looks like they are going to back me into a guilty corner of shame .

lol she is a mardy cow! Can't stand the woman.
It's housing association so they are allowed to check property. They can kick me out, right now I don't care. I'd have to find somewhere else and I'm sure she cant make a family homeless!

Hoping for another snow day. Its been snowing since 3pm but hasn't settled much yet. Think more forecast over night. Playing in the snow might just take my mind off all the crap that's going on in my life!

hmm my plan is NOT going to fly with a 15 year old .

Well, the diet has been helped along massively today cos the new pills have been making me puke :( They take the pain away though so I'm gonna see if it settles down after a couple of days or I will go back to the docs againa and ask to swap them for a different one. She mentioned something like amatiptoline or something?

DS was totally adorable this afternoon though, he was so well behaved and then wwhen Iwasbeing sick he came up and rubbed my back, handedmea towel to wipe my face on and then sat next to me stroking my arm to make me feel better Shame he wouldn't sing me Happy Birthday until I gave him some cake tho

Amitripline

I tried the
I just slept could Barley keep eyes open

Are Yiu taking tramdol after eaten make sure something in your stomache First

Ask her about gaberpentin instead of amitripline though it may work for yij but I was rocking the zombie look

Tortoise mine HA had one check and they can't out converted if to assured lease after year probation all new tenants have and sat IB my lounge had a drink signed paperwork and not seen anyone since

tort can you push the beds together to make one big bed for the boys and you make it look like you are moving in to the other boys room? I would prob keep your bro out the way for the day too....just in case.

Whoahhhh tally you poor thing, I might have missed it but what have you done to your back?

youcan his request is outrageous, you are not, hold on to that thought. You are NOT wrong, and he is acting like a spoilt child because he really wants to go, he knows deep down it is out of order. I have asked DH and he said that he wouldn't go but that he understands the whole military thing, boys together etc (fuck knows how as he has never been in any force whatsoever) and that your DH might be seen to be letting the side down.

I would be v cross if it was me. Just the fact that he is away for half the year and wants to miss another week away, does he know how hard it is to look after two kids by yourself? Maybe you/we all should go away!

Let's do a celebratory holiday when we are all skinny!!!!!!!!!

Checkpoint

Love idea of all doing celebratory holiday

Youcan

Agree with the others fact he is away do long then wants to use up a whole weeks leave twat and stag should thought about affect on others week away abroad

Well, the snow failed to deliver and school open as normal

Loving the idea of a skinny holiday as well :)

Charlie I have no idea what I've done. It went into a spasm on boxing day, was getting better but it went again the end of last week. I am S shaped right now