My friend gets married April 2026 and I am her MOH.
I found out 2 weeks ago that I am pregnant (which was planned and she knew we were trying). Her hen do isn’t planned or booked however I know she was aiming for February 2026.
I have told her I’m pregnant, way earlier than I would’ve liked but I wanted to give her plenty notice to see if we could plan the hen do for a different month as I am due at the end of January. I suggested bringing it forward to this year as she would like an ‘away hen’ and doing a night out in March next year when I’ll not be pregnant. She was all up for this however her other bridesmaids didn’t want to bring it forward therefore I suggested a date in March as suggested by the bride, this was agreed to then be told later on March is too close to the wedding and they’re sorry but the hen do will be in February as planned.
I can’t help but be upset about the situation, I know it’s her day and I’m biting my tongue because I don’t want to make it about me but I feel I should tell her that I am upset? I have tried to work it around me being pregnant by bringing it forward or pushing it back and now I’m not really sure where I fit in, I know it was my choice to become pregnant but I genuinely thought we could’ve made it work and we would have if it wasn’t for the other bridesmaids not wanting to bring it forward..
Am I being unreasonable?