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Who walked you down the aisle?

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PixieMiss · 25/08/2016 11:56

I am having a small wedding and the ceremony is in a registry office. I have had my forms through about who will walk me down the aisle but I'm really stuck. My dad isn't in the picture so he is out of the running but who else can do it?

Thanks

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Groovee · 25/08/2016 11:59

Your mum or another important person in your life?

FadedRed · 25/08/2016 11:59

'Who else can do it?' - anyone you like, or no one if you prefer.
Congratulations on your impending marriage BTW 🍾

Sammieb89 · 25/08/2016 12:00

Hi, this situation is difficult because you do not want to upset anyone. I have had this dilemma and ended up having my uncle who was also my godfather so it seemed fitting but if that wasn't possible it would have been my mum or future father-in-law. I hope this helps and you have a lovely day xx

chelsbells · 25/08/2016 12:01

My mum walked me down the aisle and gave me away. She was really pleased to be able to do it and it was lovely.

AFAIK anyone can walk you down the aisle

Justmuddlingalong · 25/08/2016 12:02

No one. We got married in a registry office. I walked myself.

FadedRed · 25/08/2016 12:07

Oops posted too soon.
You could ask a member of your family that you are close to, e.g. Uncle, aunt, God-parent, grandparent, your mum or a sibling, (all your siblings?!).
You could walk in with your bridesmaids.
You could add a surprise and contact a 'look alike' agency and walk in with Elvis or DarthVader or Gandalf.......

Prive120 · 25/08/2016 12:15

My DH and I came in together. My dad passed away and my mum is a nervous wreck.
I loved having him with me as I was very nervous and getting our "first look" in private made it all the more special. We've since had comments from our friends saying how much they loved us coming in and how happy we both looked.

Not all traditions need to be followed. Do what ever makes you both happy and enjoy every second... It really is the most amazing day

Deadnettle · 25/08/2016 12:19

DH and I entered the registry office together, our guests followed us in (all 11 of them!).

My dad was there but we don't have the best relationship and the idea of him giving me away felt wrong.

casiopeia · 25/08/2016 12:24

I walked by myself, preceded by bridesmaids. It was my choice, both my parents were at the ceremony and I love them very much, but I thought it was not appropriate for me to be 'given' to my DH by my dad (or any other person).

Friends of ours walked in together to a sound of happy upbeat music (no silly dancing though) which I also really liked.

Another friend walked hand in hand with her 7 year old niece (who was a very shy and super cute flower-girl)

If you want to be accompanied, the rule is to have any person that you feel close to and are happy to have next to you- friend, sibling, uncle, anyone really.

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PixieMiss · 25/08/2016 18:33

That sounds lovely Prive i love the idea of the first look in private!

Haha Faded might get a Michael Jackson to moonwalk down with me or something equally as daft

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TheNewWife · 21/09/2016 06:16

I'm estranged from my Dad so my maternal grandfather walked me down the aisle. Had he no longer been around (his health was v poorly in the run up to our wedding) then I would have asked my brother. Failing that, I'd probably have sauntered down myself!
Enjoy your day, and try your best to soak up as much as possible as it flies by x

bibbitybobbityyhat · 21/09/2016 06:51

Again, no one. I really don't like many of the wedding traditions which infantalise women (including wearing white). I was 31 when I got married. I can't even remember who I wavlked into the register office with - possibly my dh to be, possibly someone else. It was a bit of a bundle actually as we had more guests than seats!

ohjessie · 21/09/2016 06:54

When DB married DSIL her parents couldn't be there so our dad walked her down the aisle, and it was really really lovely

RhinestoneCowgirl · 21/09/2016 06:57

Nobody gave me away, just walked in by myself, followed by my bridesmaid. Love my dad, but think the 'giving away' bit is too much - women as chattels, no thanks!

When they got married, my mum and dad walked down the aisle together (church wedding), as mum's dad died when she was a child. I think that was a lovely start to their married life, being together.

ShatnersBassoon · 21/09/2016 07:04

No one. Being given away seemed old-fashioned, considering I was a fully functioning adult who hadn't lived with my parents for years when I got married. I'm sure my dad would have laughed if I'd have asked him to go through the charade of handing me over

3Eggses · 21/09/2016 07:04

Also not a fan of the "giving away" either.

It will just be me and DP there so unless I choose a random hotel employee to offer me up on a platter I shall be walking myself. The whole thing is mortifying.

Tuiles · 21/09/2016 07:06

I walked with my daughter to DP who stood at the front with our son. My father died when I was 5 anyway (though given I am over 40 we probably would still have done it this way)

JellyWitch · 21/09/2016 07:06

My husband and I walked up the aisle together. It was brilliant and felt like a real joint thing without any patriarchal undertones of ownership!

BikeRunSki · 21/09/2016 07:06

My godfather.
My dad died 7 years before we git married.

Hobbitch · 21/09/2016 07:14

My husband and I walked in together. We had a lovely moment just before going in when it was just the two of us. We just looked at each other and didn't need any words. We had a short but very emotional and memorable civil ceremony.

It's your day. Do what feels right for you! And congratulations.

smEGGontoast · 21/09/2016 07:17

I'm estranged from my dad too so it wasn't going to be him.

I have a godfather but haven't seen him in over 10 years (although both of my godmothers attended my wedding)

I wanted to either go alone or have my son to walk me down but my mum was insistent that it was her 'job' even though we aren't close. I hated it. She did everything she could on our day to upstage me.

Anyway, the point is, don't feel obliged to have anyone do the job if there is no one you feel is right. It's 100% your decision.

Helbelle75 · 21/09/2016 07:20

My mum walked herself down the aisle folleed by dsis and I. It was lovely.

cudbywestrangers · 21/09/2016 07:24

I had my mum with me.

Went to a wedding last week and the bride's godfather walked in with her.

Choose whatever is right for you and have a wonderful day

misson · 21/09/2016 07:26

Walk down the way you choose.

For most of my friends, it's a very romantic part of the ceremony. They walk down with someone who has been a strong positive presence in their life.

For me, it represents a lot of the misogyny around marriage. I am an equal partner in our marriage and wanted to enter as such. Dh, ds and i walked in together.

claraschu · 21/09/2016 07:28

My friend had both of her parents walk her, and her husband had both of his walk with him. I thought that was nice.

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