Urgent deletion required as OP outed

[DeRigueurMortis]

Hello,

Please can you hide this thread as the OP has been outed.

I've posted on the thread to say I'm making the request here.

My partner did a really stupid thing www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4102481-My-partner-did-a-really-stupid-thing

Thanks

Bump

Thinking about it I'm not sure NW can delete a thread but I'm pretty sure you can hide one until @mnhq can look at it.

This would be great.

I agree! It's urgent. @nightwatch where are you?

I just reported it too, hope they'll hurry up

Have reported on the actual thread

Hope you're OK OP?

They are volunteers so it might be a while

@ANightWatcher
@NiteWotcha
@ElGuardiandenoche

should be something that @MNHQ should look into with their new premium subscriptions

Sorry
On it

Thank you!

Gone! Well done 👍

Okay have hidden that thread - I didn't have time to read it all, and MNHQ will review in the morning.

Thanks for the alert!

Brilliant - thanks again!

Good one, wotcha

Do people really read a post, then try to find “stuff” on SM which then leads to asking about colour of laptop (repeatedly) which then leads to post being taken down as possibly outing?

I’m bloody gobsmacked that people would have a) the time and b) the inclination to go searching like that.

Best that post is taken down, but by god some people are nos6 and demanding of info!

*nosy

Furries oh yes and worse...they will sometimes stalk the person afterwards.

I don’t understand

@FortunesFave - I’m honestly gobsmacked (and obviously naive). I was partway through reading that thread and was confused by so many people asking about the colour.

So much for safe spaces to communicate etc!

@Furries
So much for safe spaces to communicate

Its an open forum, any of your posts can be taken to be used to find you, the press can print them. This is in no way a safe space.

You are an idiot if you think otherwise, with all the fucking trolls on here

@Furries unfortunately yes.

Sometimes it's just a "kick" to prove how clever they are in outing the OP, but other times it can be more sinister.

As with any online forum the key is not to divulge anything you would not want to be made public

I think people get secure in the anonymity of MN and forget the accumulation of information they have shared, from where they live (responding to a "is this school good" thread), their politics (on Brexit threads) and lifestyle (advocating premium expensive make up/clothes on style and beauty) etc etc...

All it takes is an advanced search to see all posts and accumulate the information.

It's why it's either good to be very circumspect about what personal info you post or name change regularly.

@Sobeyondthehills - yeah, safe space was probably an incorrect way of putting it. Am aware it’s a public forum and have seen some of the threads that the press decide to pick up (totally lazy “journalism”).

Am just still surprised that people on here invest time in scrutinising/searching out others. Even if someone on here is really goady, I have better things to do with my time than try to search them out.

@DeRigueurMortis - you’re completely right. It’s too easy to post without thinking sometimes.

If I end up namechanging, do I have to go through the rigmarole of ‘penis beakers, Pom bears and cutted up pear”?!

[quote Furries]@Sobeyondthehills - yeah, safe space was probably an incorrect way of putting it. Am aware it’s a public forum and have seen some of the threads that the press decide to pick up (totally lazy “journalism”).

Am just still surprised that people on here invest time in scrutinising/searching out others. Even if someone on here is really goady, I have better things to do with my time than try to search them out.[/quote]
We're on The Unrestrictedly Accessible Internet - it's easy to forget that not everyone joining mumsnet has the same motives as you/me for responding/posting/lurking.

@Furries

I've never done the name check of threads .

For a start it's a waste of time as any troll can do the same.

The reality is also who would actually remember you?

There are a very small number of MNetters who have a "profile" of sorts that would be lost with a name change.

I'm not one of them and tend to NC on an annual basis or when I think I've fucked up and over shared.

There is no difference before/after in how my posts are responded to after a NC.

@DeRigueurMortis - in that case, I may give myself an annual name change and see how many “good first post OP” comments I can garner!

Anyway, good of you to flag the post for removal - good to know some on here are vigilant.

@ImplodingWithCoffee - yes, very easy to forget that about pretty much everything!

@Furries no problem.

It's also worth remembering that even if you NC MNHQ know your posting history.

As such if you get accused of being a first time troll, they can verify that you are a long standing poster - so again no reason to name check old threads.