Wanted Down Under BBC1 9.15am. Watch and tut here.

[Sparklingbrook]

Hi all. Shiny new thread.

That was unsettling to watch

Oh she looks so sad. Poor woman. I feel quite uncomfortable having watched that.

I dont know much about body language.....but when I see a man that 'leans' into a woman when he's sitting next to her (and I realise this can be done in a lovey dovey way) when they are being filmed...I want to screech "sit up straight, give her space and stop invading hers"

grass aint always greener is it

I feel really strange after watching that. She wasn't happy, you could tell.

Can't quite believe how first impressions at the start of the programme was so different to how we all felt by the end!

Yes I feel a bit odd, think I need to go and keep busy to take my mind off of it, poor lady

even though it seems like their life is simpler now in oz, what because they are both living a healthier lifestyle, on the outside yes, they look healthier, but internally mentally she is worse off.

Plus their life is now MORE complicated as the kids are now integrated aussies almost. with a very unhappy mother. if she wanted to move back to uk, and he didnt, it could end up very messy.

Would interesting to revisit in 5 years wouldn't it

living in a beautiful box, in sunshine.

yet no real connections to mates there, no real support network, just phoney bbqs and coffee mornings. mmm. bit odd.

i need to go off and hoover now, visitors coming! i feel very unsettled having watched that one.

That was uncomfortable viewing. I didn't enjoy today's episode at all, I have a horrible feeling they will be uprooting the children and trying to pick up their old lives in the UK in the next couple of years. Unfortunately life is like a vacuum and the space you leave gets filled so they might well find that home isn't the same either.

I feel so sad for her after watching that. He is vile. Shame on Niki sounding so positive she should have said it like it is. He is a wanker & we should all say it loud & clear. He is an emotional bully.

Watching todays on iPlayer. I'm not seeing bully coming from the H. Perhaps a bit unrealistic and lazy, but not manipulative.

Have to say a lot of her experience resonated with me. I moved to the Uk with H's job to have "no regrets" but it hasn't been easy. I can relate to tearful weekends and loneliness and unlike the Aussies, no invites for BBQs from the Norfolk locals

Have you watched the whole episode yet?

I've just watched the episode and he is a bully - he just described how he wore her down until she felt backed into a corner. Horrible, controlling man and I agree, she seems so sad.

Oh and another pet hate of mine - they used the opening to "Pumped Up Kicks" as cheerful backing music. Just because it sounds all perky and upbeat, doesn't mean it is - the song is about a Columbine style school shooting.

Actually after I watched it I was so angry that I wanted to complain to the bbc that they do not appear to have given any support to the poor woman to leave her emotionally abusive husband. Would anyone know if that was actually possible & for those of us cross about it would it work? Or am I just talking out of my fairly large backside? (On 5:2 so not as large as it was!)

I can't stop thinking about her on the first night when she was hysterical. And he was looking at flights home.

aftereight - me too 5:2!
I haven't watched it but thanks for the commentary, I think I might be glad I missed it.
Sounds like the mum has had a rough run :(

So 3 of us on 5:2 - hover between both and mix up my TDEEs sometimes

But back to the prog- poss low tolerance due to child off sick/fasting but yes, dad seemed rather lazy and pushy. Or maybe she was just super honest (more than others typically who might be face-saving?? ) about how bloody hard it is adapting to life in a new country. Speaking from experience. Grass isn't always greener and as the dad said "be careful what you wish for".

I think it's the fact it's on TV that makes it worse. I wonder if at any point the families where one of the parents is keener than the other realise how it comes across? I bet today's didn't make great TV viewing for the Mum's Mother either.

This was quite a depressing one, I agree. Did it even say if they'd bought that house or were they still renting. I'd be livid if I was her and actually thought about how I'd ended up in that situation - working whilst he gets fit for the job he never really knew he could actually get anyway, in a country I didn't want to live in. I suppose he did "compromise" on it being Melbourne though.

Wonder if any of them read this thread?

Couldn't post much this morning as was on a little tablet thing, anyway, this mornings episode was awful, he was so controlling to her, outwardly admitting that he wore her down, he said something along the line of, 'she has her friends, job and parents that's she loves here, how can I compete' along with his tone it was actually scary. Of course it could have been edited to look as though he was EA but........

Sparkling, my thought was for her poor mother, parents this morning, my heart broke a little for them.

The more I think about the more I think 'evil little runt'