I really need your help please re 13 year olds

[MrsWeasleyLovesSantasSack]

What age should a 13 yo girl go to bed on a school night?

If your 13 year old goes for a sleepover at weekends, what tome do they leave and come back?

Is it appropriate for a 13 yo girl to text and receive texts from a 17 yo who they dont know? from 13yo"I am in my room" from 17yo boy "I wish I could be there to cuddle and do what ever you want"
17yo works not a school boy!

Does your 13 yo swear in front of you and younger siblings? (either on purpose or my accident)

How much pocket money do they get and do they do any chores?

Do they have their own computer which you are not allowed to look at?

Thanks guys need some answers as apparently I have it all wrong

Glad things are looking up a bit Mrs Weasley. It's funny how, once they realise that parents and teachers are on the same "team" as them, they knuckle down a bit isn't it?!

janeite you are so right, Even the teacher commented that when he said he had rung me her face dropped and (in his words) "said it all"

DD3 is 16. When she was 13 she did not have a computer she used the family one down stairs, she didn't swear and still doesn't. she went to bed at 9 on a school night unless she was doing anything special. She only had a small amount of pocket money but that increasedto £25 a month when she was 14.
She did differnt chores depending what I asked her to, That could include washing up and hoovering.
Gettint texts from a 17 year old would have been unacceptable.
Sleepovers she would go early evening and be back sometime the next afternon.

Thanks everyone.
You have been so wonderful in sharing your experiences with me. I am touched
Maybe I dont have it so wrong after all