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Do you get up with your teens on a school day?

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twostraightlines · 19/09/2012 08:13

I mean if they have to leave really early?

Mine have to leave the house at 7.15 for their school buses, so they get up at between 6 and 6.30. DS and I don't need to leave until 8.15.

At the moment I get up to see them off, because they claim not to need me "to supervise". Except that DD1 (15) clearly does - today she got up an hour late (set her alarm wrong, not the first time) - and missed 2 buses while she faffed about at a snail's pace, meaning she will have missed two lessons by the time she gets there.

Should I be getting up at 6? Do/would you?

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Maryz · 19/09/2012 08:16

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Hopeforever · 19/09/2012 08:18

Yes, DS gets up at half 6 and DH always has breakfast with him.

Doilooklikeatourist · 19/09/2012 08:26

Yes , I do too .
Same reason as Maryz
DH or I have to get up at 6 am if we're working , the D teens leave the house at 8-15 for the School bus .
I wake them up , and shout supervise until they're off .
DH and son have gone to an exhibition today so just DD to get out .
She doesnt like catching the bus on her own , so dawdled and the school bus just gone and she hasn't got her shoes on yet
I'm furious .

AnyFucker · 19/09/2012 08:34

Nope, unless I am working

I stop when they go to high school

blondiedollface · 19/09/2012 08:37

My mother couldn't get up with me as a teen as she was too ill most of the time, so from the age of 12/13 up until I went to uni I got up, showered, dressed, breakfasted and left the house by 7am to get 2 buses across the city to go to school...

I knew how important it was and just did it!

GooseyLoosey · 19/09/2012 08:39

Sadly, I am already out of the house by the time they get up most of the time. However, when I am around, I love having a cup of coffee with them first thing in the morning and a chat.

slartybartfast · 19/09/2012 08:39

yes, to make sandwiches, might not get dressed myself though. to wake them, well one dd pretty much manages, although dh actually wakes her for her paperround because he is getting up any way. i spose if he wasnt I would make sure she was up.
and even if i cant help them get to school when/if they miss the bus, I can be there to stress about it

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twostraightlines · 19/09/2012 08:40

I'm not sleeping too well at the moment, so shaving an hour off my night doesn't appeal

But nor does morning conflict with DD like todaySad

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twostraightlines · 19/09/2012 08:44

The stupid thing is she knows she's the only one to suffer when she misses lessons.

Perhaps I should resign myself to synching alarms with her and slinking back off to bed for 45 mins when I am sure she's vertical.

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effingwotsits · 19/09/2012 08:45

No. Dd aged 13 gets up at silly o'clock to do hair/make up etc and leaves at 8am to meet friends.

The last thing she wants is me in the way slowing her down Grin

Tuttutitlookslikerain · 19/09/2012 08:49

Mine get themselves up and showered, but I get up make them a drink and some breakfast if they want it. I take DS1 to his bus stop at 7.20 because it is a mile and a half away and the bus goes at 7.28.

DS2 goes off to meet his friend at 7.35 and I go back to bed. I am usually having a nap by now!Blush

My Mum stopped getting up with my sister and I when we went to Secondary school, but when my brother went she carried on getting him up, doing his lunch, packing his bag wiping his arse and getting him out the door, because boys can't do these things!Hmm

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twostraightlines · 19/09/2012 09:12

Couldn't agree more, Maryz.

I haven't woken her in the past because I was asleep she absolutely does need to take responsibility for herself.

What drives me up the bloody wall is that when she wakes late, she makes no effort to get ready in double-quick time like a normal, responsible person. She just shrugs, decides her make up is more important than double physics and shuffles to the bus stop when she's good and ready. And now she has a lot of science to catch up on and she won't understand her homework.

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Lifeisontheup · 19/09/2012 09:14

Never realised before just how lucky I am. DS (16) gets up at 5.30, he leaves the house at 7.30 and it's his choice to get up this early, he has never been late once.
I think he likes the time to play on his laptop and probably wouldn't welcome me sitting down to have breakfast with him but if I'm not working I get up at around 6.30 and say hello and check he has everything, he has ASD and I think once he is set in a routine he follows it to the letter. I get up more because I think I should rather than because he needs me to.
If I'm working I may well have left the house before he gets up but DH is normally pottering around by 6.00am so someone is there to say hello.

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LadyBeagleEyes · 19/09/2012 09:21

I don't, ds 17 is very good at getting up.
I do set an alarm for about 15 mins after his just to make sure he's awake, he pops in to kiss me goodbye Blush and I doze off again for another hour.

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twostraightlines · 19/09/2012 09:25

OMG, 5.30, Lifeisontheup? Blimey.

Maryz, school rules say they give detentions for repeated lateness, but unlikely this time. I'll get a note which I will have to sign, but she knows I won't make excuses for her.

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Lifeisontheup · 19/09/2012 09:35

I know, I have to get up at 4.00am when I start at 6.00am but he really doesn't have to get up until 6.30 but wants to start earlier. I'm keeping very quiet as he has coped so well with getting trains etc and I don't think it does him any harm. He takes himself off to bed by 10.00pm with the odd 9.00pm bedtime if he's feeling very tired.

A very self-regulating teen!

hugoagogo · 19/09/2012 09:46

ds (14) gets himself up, but I like to be up before he leaves, so I can make sure he has his house key at least on the days he is home first.

If I didn't have a younger ds and a job to got to myself, I might only shout 'bye' and 'remember your key' from my nice warm bed

Theas18 · 19/09/2012 09:59

Nope!

DH does though. If I get up early too there will be bathroom queues and moaning +++

I get up as DH leaves at about 7.10 and the kids go 7.20-7.30 so I mostly just say "Hi".

It's very much " every man for himself" when they are rushing about eating/showering etc. I thought this was normal ??

justbreathe · 19/09/2012 11:32

I have to be up to give 2 ds 16/14 a push to get up and out , I have to drive them to the bus for 7 am, If they miss it I have to drive them 35 mins to get there. They are consistently disorganised , slow and abusive. It is such a horrible stressful start to my day. I then get a bit of cooling off time before dd wakes at 8.

SecretSquirrels · 19/09/2012 16:12

Mine both get themselves up and out with no help from me. But if I'm not at work I still get up just to see them off as it feels somehow sinful not to. Just me though, no need really.

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Rennie12 · 19/09/2012 17:07

Yes, but only to keep them company and they're all older teenagers!
Just I can remember my mum not getting up for me and I hated eating breakfast on my own, especially in the winter.

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