Do you get up with your teens on a school day?

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I mean if they have to leave really early?

Mine have to leave the house at 7.15 for their school buses, so they get up at between 6 and 6.30. DS and I don't need to leave until 8.15.

At the moment I get up to see them off, because they claim not to need me "to supervise". Except that DD1 (15) clearly does - today she got up an hour late (set her alarm wrong, not the first time) - and missed 2 buses while she faffed about at a snail's pace, meaning she will have missed two lessons by the time she gets there.

Should I be getting up at 6? Do/would you?

Yes, I drop them at school on my way to work.

Oh, I think it is quite mean to not get up in the mornings to have breakfast with your teens or even just say hello. Mum always used to get up with me (Dad was out long before I left) and we ate breakfast together. I would have felt very lonely if I had got up to a dark house on my own as a teenager and left without saying hello.

I hated my parents getting up with me(which they always did) as I wanted to read at breakfast and they always wanted to talk, unreasonable parents that they were.
I have a nasty feeling my DS feels the same so I leave him to have breakfast alone but feel I have to get up to say hello at least.

Yes. 6:45, which is pretty hard on me (grits teeth). When I was a teen it was normal for my peers to get up at 5-5:30am to shower & catch bus for 6:20-7am.
I wouldn't do it if I felt DS would reliably manage it on his own. He's had a torrid history (school refusal).

I wake up, and make sure they are getting up, but I don't get up (if I don't have to be up and out myself). It's a habit I acquired when DS1 didn't want to go to school and would happily truant if I didn't make him go... I'm hoping I may be able to stop soon...

I think whether it's mean or not might actually depend on what they want. Some people are sociable in the mornings and love the idea of communal breakfasts: others would be grateful for a little peace and quiet. My mum was one of those people who feel sick in the mornings. I didn't, but growing up in a large family I did quite enjoy a little me-time and mornings were the only time I could have it: the sight of her green face across the breakfast table wouldn't actually have done much for my start to the day.

DS 14. Yes I get up to get him up. He sets his own alarm but isn't a morning person and keeps nodding off back to sleep.

Wow, some very early school starts here.
My ds's school is 30 miles away (Scottish Highlands), and he catches the bus at roughly 7.40, it takes about an hour.
Where do you all live?

Bus collects them from bottom of driveway .
We live in the countryside in Wales , only about 8 miles from school .
Bus goes past at 8-15 , and drops off at both secondary schools in town

We live in a village about 25 minutes from DS1's 6th form but he has to catch a service bus at 7.40am which goes via the moon and gets him there ridiculously early.
DS2 gets a dedicated school bus at 8.35am to go 5 miles to school in nearby smaller town.

I've just remembered something from my own youth... Going in to my dad's bedroom to kiss him goodbye before going to school... And one morning, he bit me on the nose!! :( He always claimed he was asleep and dreaming, but I'm not sure I believe him! He definitely didn't get up to see me off!

No I don't once they are at high school. I have younger ones including toddler who often wakes me at night. I think it makes them more independant. I do get up though ready for little ones school run with just enough time to wake any oversleepers. But they have to sort themselvesout at this age surely.

I was also wondering why everyone's school bus was so early. 7.15 and another at 6.45.
If its so early, and u have nothing else on than sleep, can't u drive them in? Especially like today when u knew she was late?
I would have felt sad if my mum wasn't around when I was a teenager. She always woke me and was around at breakfast and we were pretty independent mostly.

Same as jellybeans.
DH is usually up and about when they're getting organised anyway. The teens are quite happy, dd enjoys the time to watch some tv in peace without dd3 shouting for Peppa pig!.

Forgot to say, mine don't leave the house until 8ish. Some if these school buses seem really early!

dd gets her train at 7:24 & is out of the house at about 7:15. We all tend to be up between 6/6:30 anyway (younger early rising siblings) & dh gets the same train as her for the first part of the journey. I like to see her before she leaves - none of us are particularly cheerful though!

If its so early, and u have nothing else on than sleep,

no nothing at all! Just the small matter of three younger children to get ready and that strange thing called work.

can't u drive them in?

Yes of course, a 20 mile round trip twice a day & three hours in the car makes perfect sense when there is school transport.

Early starts:
I meant I was up at 6:45, not that DS leaves then. DS school starts at 8:25am. It's 35 minute drive roundtrip & I would have to drag 1-3 other children along. DS catches train at 7:45; needs 15-20 minutes to walk to station (would be faster if he didn't text mates every step of the way). Total drive cost = £13 if I did morning & afternoon, compared to £2 roundtrip for DS on train.

My secondary started 7:40am, hence buses starting routes at 6:20am. The poor drivers I pitied most!

A side effect of DS early start is everyone else seems to be getting ready quite early, too. I don't need to leave house with others until 8:30 but we are often out by 8:15 nowadays. I would still prefer an extra hour in bed.

Yes, I've always got up with DS. He's not a morning person and I think would struggle to get up in the morning without some "encouragement".

DSC, however, are morning people and are up early without any nagging. Occassionally I will have to wake DSD up, but that's rare.

At some point I'm going to have to encourage DS to get himself up, but without my support, I think he would late far too often!