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is it normal/healthy for GF and BF to text each other every single day ?

49 replies

weemumbelina · 23/03/2012 17:31

Even though they see each other at school and date once a week? DD is 15 and BF is 17 btw. DD thinks that it's presumed that if you're going out with someone you should be "in communication" with them every day.

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usualsuspect · 23/03/2012 17:32

Yes its perfectly normal

ToothbrushThief · 23/03/2012 17:32

Yes

RightUpMyRue · 23/03/2012 17:34

Course it is.

Pagwatch · 23/03/2012 17:36

Yes. Of course it is.

Pascha · 23/03/2012 17:36

Yes.

TheCunningStunt · 23/03/2012 17:37

I used to phone mine every day as a teen. I'd have been worse with texts. So I'd say very normal

fatcaaah · 23/03/2012 17:38

Yes. Constantly. And talk on fb chat at the same time.

OnTheBottomWithAWomansWeekly · 23/03/2012 17:38

Oh god yes, they are teenagers, prob surgically attached to the phones!

My dd (15) was texting her mate in the car last weekend - dd was sat in the front, mate in the back! (free texts - prob wanted to discuss boys without me hearing...)

KatieScarlett2833 · 23/03/2012 17:39

Yes, 50 times a day is normal here on the CrackBerry

BusinessTrills · 23/03/2012 17:42

It shouldn't be presumed that you should. Nothing wrong with having a day when you don't text each other (and you should make sure she knows this)

But yes it is perfectly normal to do this.

AmethystMoon · 23/03/2012 17:43

Yep my partner's 15 yo text her BF around 900 times last month, we were Hmmwhen we saw the mobile bill ( all free) just wonder what on earth they say? Actually think I'd rather not know Grin

2blessed2bstressed · 23/03/2012 17:45

Dsd and her bf appear to be in constant contact, either text, fb messaging, bbm, or actual phone conversation. They're 14 and 16 respectively. Not at the same school, but see each other 3 or 4 times a week. Dsd's mum thinks she's unhealthily obsessed and keeps trying to stop Dsd seeing her bf (who is perfectly nice boy), dp and I think she's a 14 year old girl in her first relationship, and while its deeply irritating that the part of her we see most often is the top of her head - as she's hunched over her mobile phone - its also completely normal!

Flightty · 23/03/2012 17:46

Oh Gosh yes.

mumeeee · 23/03/2012 18:16

Yes completely normal .

ShatnersBassoon · 23/03/2012 18:22

Normal, definitely. Be relieved you don't need to overhear them talking on the phone. Texting would have revolutionized my teenage years.

MyLifeIsStillChaotic · 23/03/2012 18:25

Of course it's normal. Would be more abnormal not to imo.

gettingalifenow · 23/03/2012 18:28

Yes, my DD16 texts her not-quite-BF about 10 times a day ( but they're at diff schools).

And DD19 v home from uni, txts, fb and skypes from the moments she's up in the morning......

weemumbelina · 23/03/2012 19:19

Really? I can see the attraction from her point of view, but I get the impression that it's usually her who starts it. Recently he told her they should save their texting on weekdays until 8pm. She thinks this is to demonstrate to me how sensible they are ie give them time to do uninterrupted studying for their exams in may/practising.Personally, I think he's probably getting fed up of her incessant texting, but doesn't like to say. It breaks my heart seeing her always clutching her phone, checking for messages for him. I told her she should wait for him to initiate conversations at least somedays, but she seems to have no pride in this respect.

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slatternlymother · 23/03/2012 19:30

Aww! 'no pride in this respect...'? You meanie OP!

Maybe his Mum has noticed and wants him to get some homework done and has banned him from texting until it's done, but he's passed it off as his own idea, lest he seen to be taking notice of his Mum?

I suspect he rather likes her texting; or he probably wouldn't text back, or would end the conversation, or would 'lose' his phone on a fairly regular basis Wink

landofsoapandglory · 23/03/2012 19:38

DS2 and his GF (both15) text each other all the time! The first one today was at 7.10am! I said "Hasn't she got hair to straighten or make up to put on, or something?" Apparently she had already done it!Grin I really have no idea what they talk about, TBH, they see each other all day and text all the time they are apart. It's quite sweet really!

MaureenMLove · 23/03/2012 19:46

I've been texting my BF DH several times a day ever since the invention of texting! Grin And yes, I do me complete nonsense/lovey texts, not 'have you put the bins out?' stuff!

weemumbelina · 23/03/2012 20:04

Wow, MaureenMLove how romantic! DH and I both feel that daily texting would drive us both mad.
I worry that DD's boyfriend will take her for granted. I fear she's in for a huge disappointment soon. I would do a sad face emoticon but I don't know how to.

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ImperialBlether · 23/03/2012 20:43

Oh come on, OP, for crying out loud! Sending a few texts every day to keep in touch is hardly abnormal. If you rarely send a text, it might feel awkward to you, but teenagers have grown up with it. If she's paying per text, then you need to get her sorted out on a monthly package.

She might do better playing it a bit cool, as I'm sure most of us would have, too, when we were younger, but you'll get nowhere by suggesting it.

And if they finish, she'll just text her friends instead. Accept it!

GnomeDePlume · 23/03/2012 21:53

All of the above

flow4 · 23/03/2012 23:59

My 12yo son doesn't have a girlfriend, but he has texted his best friend between 30-50 times since they got back from school at 3:40!