13 yr old Bed time?

[happygolucky0]

Hi I was wondering what time you think is a good time for bed. My son is 13 yrs old and it is such a struggle every night to get him to go to bed. He likes to go at 10pm. However I feel by Saturday he is shattered and doesn't want to do anything.

He tells me that that it is hard to get to sleep and his friends are watching t.v programmes that are on at 9 to 10pm. He is awake at 6.30am and is good at getting up in the mornings, I was just worried he is so tired at the weekends which is taking away family time as he is too grumpy and tired.
thanks for any replies

[sharon2609]

I agree Maryz. If I tried to send DD to bed at 8 or 9 we'd still be arguing about it at midnight! Def wise to pick your battles.

[mumsamilitant]

DS is 13 and has always found it hard to go to sleep. Used to drive me mad but managed to do the bath, reading for half hour and lights off at 9.30. That was before he became 13 (going on 18). Now its lights out at 10.30 but I'm sure he doesnt go to sleep some nights before midnight, what can I do? I have to have my sleep and cant wait around for him to go off. School around the corner so doesnt need to get up until 7.45. At weekends he goes to sleep when he wants as long as he gets up for Sea Cadets on a Sunday.

[MyNameIsCaz]

Hi my Ds is 12 and has never needed much sleep he goes up to bed on a school night about 10 but is usually asleep by 11, gets up at 7.30am. Weekends he goes to bed about 11.30 with us and is up about 8am he doesn't do lie ins, never seems to complain of being tired, if anything he has way too much energy! Thank the Lord for Rugby and stunt scooters!

[JulieAbbott]

My Daughter is 13 and a half she gets up on School-Days at 7.15am - no problem,She goes to Bed at 10.00pm on School-Days. Weekends she goes to bed when we do which is normally 11ish sometimes 12 and we say she can lay-in although she seems to get up by 8ish most weekends whatever time she goes to bed. In School Holidays we pretty much stick to the same routine otherwise she will get Ill and Grumpy if treated as all weekends.

[nooka]

I've a 12 year old and a 10 year old. They both go to bed at 9, lights off at 9.30, and get up at 7.30 for school. At weekends we are a little more flexible about bedtime, especially if they have friends over, and they sleep in for as long as they like (as I do).