I dont want to keep wearing Black Black Black, but dont know how to stop now, Too fat to wear colours!!!

[humblemum]

I am too fat to wear colours so i just wear black. My whole wardrobe is black! Im size 18/20 and 5'4". I just feel like I will stand out if I wear anything other than Black. please help me.

[CybilWrites]

Nonsense woman. It's not about colour or black or even size , it's about confidence.

[southeastastra]

buy a nice scarf and us it to find out what sort of neckline/shape suits you best. if you like black try neutral colours - khaki is surprisingly flattering

[stakethroughtheheartofgold]

what colour are your eyes? that's often a good sparking off point for a colour you can use as accents that will suit you. what's your favourite colour?

to introduce it gradually you could try accessories - there's a lot of bright plastic jewellery around, or how about tights, if you wear skirts/dresses? so it doesn't cost a fortune but you get a feel for something that can lift your outfit and your mood.

[Morosky]

I am a size 18 and own hardly any black clothes. I live in colour.

[humblemum]

My eyes are very blue. I have got scarfs and coloured necklaces and i team them up with my Black tops, trousers and jackets. I have a pair of greyish trousers (Linen) and a grey long slinky cardigan which i love, but still feel very scared!!! Whats wrong with me?

[CybilWrites]

change your name to confidentmum for starters

[CybilWrites]

with blue eyes navy/teal would be nice

[humblemum]

I wish I could Cybil but it just wouldnt suit me!! I come across as very confident but underneath Im screaming and just want to hide. Im told im very attractive and yes facially I suppose I am, but the rest of me....I hate it!

[overmydeadbody]

It's so untrue that black is more flattering or something.

With blue eyes you can wear bright blues, turquises, and pinks.

Wear sme colour, if you feel better about yourself you will look better as a result.

And for goodness sake change your name!

[LetThemEatCake]

yes, and where navy/ teal goes, chocolate brown follows. Not scarily colourful, yet not black.....

[CybilWrites]

what are you scared of exactly? it's not like you'd be the only size 18/20 person out there

[overmydeadbody]

It would suit you though, you just keep telling yourself it wouldn't.

You are the size you are. You can't hide that. So stand tall, be proud, wear lovely colours, and if you want to start tackling your weight, without hating yourself for it.

[humblemum]

Im scared of being noticed I suppose. If I wear bright colours people will notice me.

[CybilWrites]

This about soo much more than what you wear, I think

[LetThemEatCake]

Nonsense. People notice people who are trying not to be noticed. It's an aura thing, not a colour thing.

[stakethroughtheheartofgold]

but you said yourself, you come across as confident and facially you're very attractive - you are already being noticed (and we are ). accept it. embrace it.

[LetThemEatCake]

Although, like, aura is kind of about colours too, hey

[CybilWrites]

That's 2 Nonsenses you've had now. that's the MN equivalent of a slap around the chops

[humblemum]

Maybe Im on the wrong thread Cybil?

[CybilWrites]

yes maybe you are. There is no point in us dishing out EXPERT style and beauty advice to an atttractive larger lady who doesn't want to be noticed.

It's all about being noticed baby!

[CybilWrites]

Do you want to lose weight? Would you feel better about yourself if you did?

[stakethroughtheheartofgold]

oh no you don't get away from us that easily. we'll stalk you across the boards and proffer plum tights until you're unable to resist any longer

[humblemum]

Well thanks for your replies anyway.

[stakethroughtheheartofgold]

actually no, make that teal tights, with your eyes...

[stakethroughtheheartofgold]

hm we haven't scared you off have we?