Do you just order lots of dresses?

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There's hardly anywhere to shop in my local town. There's a New Look, River Island, Yours and Primark. That's it!

I'm going to a wedding soon and need a dress (none of mine fit - thanks Mounjaro!)

I've no idea what will suit me now so do I just order loads and return lots??

I'm 47, size 14, big boobs and mum tum. 5 foot 2 if anyone's bought anything fabulous lately?

No, I do about 95% of my clothes shopping online and I’ve never ordered multiple things at once with the intention of returning most of them.

Obviously you have the pleasant complication of weight loss, so the first thing you need is a good tape measure. And time to spend on careful browsing. Don’t bother with any site that doesn’t give clear and comprehensive garment measurements - and preferably videos of clothes in movement.

Do you have a budget? And what’s the wedding context?

What kind of wedding?

Posh wedding on a boat hotel in Edinburgh. We'll be there all day

I'd love to rock up in an edgy version of a tulle skirt (i have pics in my head but can't find what I'd love) but fear I'm too old, too short and still too fat so may need to go for a more predictable number.

Hundred quid ish budget but that's not set in stone.

Like an older lady, more cool, short arse version of this!

Bit too try hard though I think.

Why would anyone not want to try hard to look good at a wedding, though?

Depending on proportions, this could be magnificent:

Mango dress

I order 2 or perhaps 3 and keep what fits, I never order more than I’d be prepared to buy though so if I only want one dress I order one dress

Try coast for that style if it’s still online or on Vinted?

and yes I and many people order lots!

Eh?

It's gorgeous. I struggle with high necks though - I'm a 34h ish now so look like I'm smuggling cushions!

Yes I order 8-10 dresses at once if looking for an outfit. Hate people hate changing rooms and also like you have no shops locally anyway.

hope you get something lovely to go with your weight loss :-)

I am between sizes now after Mounjaro. I needed a new dress for a funeral this week - I ordered several styles in 2 sizes, kept one and returned the others. I do worry a bit about parcels being lost on their way back when there is a lot on my credit card to be refunded - but it hasn’t happened yet! Good luck with your shopping, enjoy your new figure.

I ordered about a dozen for the last wedding I went to. It’s frustrating as they all now charge return fees but it’s that or pay for parking in town so it balances out.
I bought something from girl in mind in the end.

In a similar position a friend of mine used vinted to order a few dresses cheaply - she’s enjoying having lots of nice new dresses , only one of them was a big fail

Yes I order loads from ASOS mainly and return most of them.

I saw a nice chiffon skirt on the FatFace website...it comes in gold and navy

www.fatface.com/style/su575255/an8884

No clue on quality or refunds but I love this;

https://www.velanora.nl/en-gb/products/glamorouschic-verloop-tule-midi-rok?currency=GBP&country=GB&variant=48897208123729&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Google%20Shopping&stkn=ca9957c4039d&utm_campaign=22927695839&utm_ad_group=&utm_ad=&utm_source=google&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22931769532&gbraid=0AAAABAW3MmuZ4oOhhlAaHBfntiOwWIwn0&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIl4e9nM_ljwMVuIdQBh2nMhRiEAQYCyABEgJQJ_D_BwE

This?

https://www.massimodutti.com/gb/long-flowing-dress-with-ruffle-detail-l06640505?srsltid=AfmBOopDw1yXb5bc9R92xcPpYDqT6FOu-0TuDuJYGhkgWlr7y7wbI4NS&banner=true

I'd look really, really awful in this 🙈 🤣

A tulle skirt at a wedding could look a bit bridal/ bridesmaid. Could you get to a city for the day to try stuff on, maybe a John Lewis personal shopper? With delivery & return costs it might be cheaper to just go to the nearest city in person.

Yea, that's true. I'd like maybe an animal print one but can only find Shein whixh definitely isn't what I want. I think what I'd like only exists in my head!

I could have gone to a local city if DH hadn't accepted the invitation months ago but only told me this week - the wedding is in 3 weeks and I'm away the next 2 weekends!

Yes. You have to order lots. There's nothing in the shops.

It's an expensive business.

Yes I order 6-10 at once or what my credit card will tolerate, if possible at the right time of the month so the returns can be refunded prior to my statement being generated. At least I’ve found a go to shop now where I know what dress size they think I am, before that I would have to repeat multiple times across multiple shops.

I remember a shop assistant in Next appearing quite disgusted/disdainful when I collected a click and collect of about 8 pairs of shoes, took them into the fitting room, and came out to return seven. What do they expect me to do when my feet are wide and different shapes/sizes and they don’t stock any wide shoes in store? There is no knowing which will fit until I try them on. No shop in our town had any suitable shoes in stock that fitted me- Clark’s measured and said sorry we can’t help you! This is reason #567 why I want a time machine so I can go shopping in the 1990s. Good luck OP.

have you looked on the Outnet - tons of options, filter by colour & size & price & see what you can find - much less likely to end up in the same dress as another guest!

I think generally if you use a tracked service the retailer covers any losses.