Help me find a stunning, head turning dress!

[Violettaaa]

This is the brief:

• Long/maxi dress (black/white tie dress code)
• Summer (weather should be hot/very hot)
• Body type: the plus: tall/very slim, the minus: no boobs
• Age: mid 40s
• as an absolute must the dress should be 1) very fitted at least around the upper body and waist all the way down to the thighs (not ruling out see through parts), then bottom part can be a bit looser. (no loose dress) and 2) allow me to wear a push up bra. 3) neckline - slightly plunging or not at all, both can work but an overall balance should be achieved
• colours: fairly open but no sequins/glitters. Ideally no black but navy ok. Summer colours welcome
• not too fussy, not too much unnecessary fabric
• context: this is not a wedding, more like a summer party for a special occasion with friends (I won’t know everyone, far from that). My husband will wear a tuxedo.
• need to be high quality/classy. Price not really an issue but unlikely to spend >£2k

thank you!

I really like the Balmain one!

I quite like the look of them, need to look at them in more details and see if I could dare and if my small boobs would not look too awkward in them.

Some good points… Strapless doesn’t really work with me. And in hindsight a long gown sweeping the floor wouldn’t make much sense as I’m sure part of the evening will be outside.

@TheSquareMileI love it!! Thank you for suggesting, this is quite my style, really love the back in particular! I need to check something about the venue to make sure the length would work.

I love that one too! Don’t let a comment about your boobs affect the dress that you wear- you’d look stunning in that I’m sure

I didn’t ask for something “flashy”. Quite the opposite. In my initial post I mentioned “no sequins/glitters” (but then changed my mind after looking at some suggestions 🙃) and “not too fussy, not too much fabric”. You obviously took my title quite literally, I am indeed the opposite of “flashy”. But I like to be well dressed, look good… My daily go-to style is usually fairly simple (some would say “plain” ), probably to avoid attracting unwanted attention…. But it fits well and I am also often complimented.
I have the opportunity to have fun one weekend, the dress code is actually along the same lines of my title and I want to play the game. There are things I don’t like about me but I can’t complain about my body (except the boobs!) so I want to find the right dress to take advantage of it.

Me, too 🤗 It's one of those dresses that many might say you can get for £80 at a high-street chain, but you can even tell from the photo that this one's just better. I don't always think price reflects quality; it often just reflects ambition. I'm willing to bet, though, that if a twin wore this alongside her sister in a knock-off, you'd immediately know which was in the Balmain.

Glad you seem to have found a "really you" dress, though! Your event sounds fun. Enjoy it!

Honestly - i’m a bit rubbish at finding dresses. Like you, I go to others to help me find them. The time I realised that my flat chest didn't matter was when a friend took me shopping and forced me to try on something that I would never have dreamed of wearing because I couldn't wear a bra that gave me some boobs. When I put the dress on, It was still apparent that I had a flat chested but i loved the dress so much that I didn't care that I had a flat chest. Kind of had this realisation of ‘well i’m buying the dress, not my boobs!’
I tried to find a photo of that dress online but I can't.(it might not be what you’re in to regardless) It wasn’t a million miles away from the one I've linked below. It was a maje dress.

https://us.maje.com/en/p/long-floral-dress-with-cut-outs/3661601864452.html

Love the Balmain but the Cavalli dress is gorgeous imo.

The Balmain is lovely....stunning

In your opinion. We only have your word on that. And this thread isn’t about you or what you like. Your previous response was disgraceful and the op showed more grace in her response than I would have. Personally I think the first dress is gorgeous and elegant. Disagree it’s too showy.

This one is summery and eye catching. You perhaps could use a stick on push up gel bra? It comes in various colours but I love this green

www.thereformation.com/products/anaiis-silk-dress/1314547.html

This one looks like something Sarah Ferguson would wear it’s v frumpy. Lots of much nicer dresses on here and I’m afraid I don’t like first one either.
https://www.lorettacaponi.it/shop/pietrasanta/

I am entitled to my opinion and cannot understand why someone would want to be head turning and standing out, for me it is a sign of insecurity or narcissism.

I think when you get dressed up for an evening out you are head turning? Even if you don’t want to be if you’re looking amazing people will look at you. So why not enjoy it by wearing something you love?

I’ve reported your post @1mabon the OP did not ask for your opinion on her psychological wellbeing. HTH.

83 years old and unpleasant. Maybe you have never been able to turn heads but your unpleasant attitude certainly makes you stand out.
Enjoy your evening.

https://app.houseofcb.com/seren-pistachio-floral-lace-back-maxi-dress

@1mabon

I associate narcissism with an inability to care about the feelings of others and an unreasonably high sense of self importance.

I’m afraid only one person is coming across that way on this thread and it’s not the OP.

As you're tall/slim, maybe a simple & elegant slip dress would look good? Misha dresses are lovely & not ridiculously expensive.

www.harveynichols.com/misha/vida-satin-maxi-slip-dress-2581-teal-juniper-green-186416/

I’m surprised you follow Style and Beauty tbh.

I’m slightly addicted to looking at designer £2000
dresses!

I hope the op picks the roberto cavalli dress with the roses. I think I would actually kill to be able to 1- afford it and 2- fit in to it(never mind look as good as I am sure the op will in any of those dresses)!!!!! I’m sure she will have an amazing night (looking at designer dresses gets addictive very quickly though 😅)

Me too!