Someone said I looked old. How can I look young again?

[FeelingOldnGrey]

My BIL came to visit at the weekend, very tacful man. Not. Anyway, DP was still at work when he arrived. I have not seen him for 8 months when my DD was 2 months old, and I still had the youthful look of a new mother about me. Since then my mum died, I returned to work, am preparing for a wedding and generally being run into the ground.

He said to me that I was looking a lot older than last time he saw me. He said 'dont mean to be offensive, but you do, dont worry I do too' .

Now its not that he said it that upset me, although it did upset me that he felt it ok to say it, as he hardly knows me. But its true, and I think that upset me more.

I am 29, almost 30. I have a lot of grey hair, my hair is limp and scraggly (I am trying to grow it a bit). I have dark circles under my eyes. my skin is quite dry and blotchy and red at the moment, I seem to have developed some lines around my face recently, my skin is generally not in a great condition, I keep getting spots, esp on my chin and they have left marks. I have been breastfeeding my LO, and my boobs have now started to reduce in size as I only BF twice a day now. My hands look really old, skin over my fingers seem dry and wrinkly.

I am getting married in september and really wanted to look good. My DP said I do look good but I know he does not mean it. He knows I am a bit depressed as still getting over my mum and is being nice.

I am not complaining about my life, I have a wonderful life, tiredness is a problem, but no more than for any other mother who looks good. I would just like some advice on how I can make myself look and feel a bit more youthful, plump fresh faced and glowing? I dont necessarily want to look younger than I am, just not to look older than I am.

Any advice?

la senza is good if you are a pert little teenager. after children you need matronly woman to measure you and tell you what bras to wear. M&s and debenhams should do the trick. once you know your size you can venture into la senza if you must!

You sound great!

With regard to exercise, have you thought about yoga? I hate the idea of being in a sweaty gym on 'machines', so i walk and practise yoga.

For me, its good for strengh and bendyness and i have a real sense of achievement as well as feeling far more grounded mentally too.

Have fun on your shop!

pesme - I shall go the debenhams then!

Sorry, quick hijack! - pesme - I'm having trouble you sending you an email, have you changed your address?

furball.

You cant come back without saying how great my hair looks now! hehe!

it does sound good, stick a picky on your profile as well!

Now you need to change your name to something like feelingyoungandspritely

sorry - I'm really lagging behind today, you have changed it......although my suggestion has a better feel

sorry furball, email should work now.

agree with namechange and before and after pictures (if you dare!). good luck with bras.

I use the cleansing/toning cloths, boots or wilkinsons do offers and i keep them in my bedside cabinet so I get into bed and off comes my makeup, my mum and sister both use nivea which isn't wildly expensive and I think is a good all round moisturiser. No matter what I always moisturise morning and evening and my dd is 2 and she is usually sat playing in front of me or running about, a couple of little pamper treats and you'll feel better in no time, since xmas i made a promise to myself to look after me more as I had concentrated so much on my dd and neglected myself but now i feel much better and happier and it shows go shopping alone or with a friend and wander round boots trying/testing the creams I love doing this, hope you feel better soon just think me me me for a while