Fat, 50 and going clubbing . Help 😱

[MeMyElfandI]

0ff on hen weekend soon. Will be mainly very lovely 20 somethings with a sprinkling of oldies. I fall into later category. Fat and 50. Going to wine bar and then off to club, it has been decades since I went clubbing and very rarely get out to wine bars these days.

Can I get your thoughts on this outfit, is it ok so out of touch. 5'8" and size 18/20.

These trousers in black www.baukjen.com/uk/shop/baukjen/jumpsuits/liana-jumpsuit-darkest-navy.htm with this top www.mintvelvet.co.uk/product/yolanda-print-cowl-neck-tee/10594, these shoes www2.hm.com/en_gb/productpage.0355417001.html#Black and this jacket www.marksandspencer.com/ruched-sleeve-blazer/p/p22504316?image=SD_01_T59_3500J_K0_X_EC_90&color=CREAM&prevPage=plp&pdpredirect and this clutch www.houseoffraser.co.uk/bags-and-luggage/michael-kors-jetset-travel-crossbody-clutch-bag/d778825.pd#264076502.

Is this ok or am I on wrong track all together.

Definitely clubbing not wine bar disco. Although my legs are quite shapely for my size and I have tried blacked waxed skinnes on before believe me it's not a sight a want to inflict on the wider population. 😄

I also have the trousers on navy as well so could go down the blue route instead of black. It's the damn top that is the problem.

Thanks Purple I looked at John Lewis but all the ones that fit the bill are either not in my size or out of stock.

Don't know why I am worrying so much it is not as if anyone will be paying much attention to what I look like anyway, I guess it is just a confidence thing.

What about this,

www.madeleine.co.uk/Clothing/Shirts-%26-tops/Short-sleeved-shirts/Top/k/0486576

and a fab necklace? :)

I think fold up pumps and the original outfit - job done. I love it and I'm 32. Classy and trendy. And I've never had a problem getting a jumpsuit on and off for the loo even when very drunk!!

Right I have spent way to much of my day trawling through the Internet in bid to find tops.

This is the best I can come up with.

Navy top (I have the same trousers I posted up thread in navy and black). www.mintvelvet.co.uk/product/ink-shimmer-cowl-neck-tee/9892. It looks to be a fine linen knit with a sheeny finish. Would it be too casual for wine bar and night club? Would wear with same jacket etc.

Or do I embrace the fat arms and wear something like this as will keep jacket on until I have consumed that many cocktails I won't care what I look like www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_028030811960_-1.

What do you think or should I stick with original choice.? Tried jumpsuit on and although looks ok from front I think side on there def is a bit of the telly tubby going on.

Can't help with the outfit (your choices look great) but I just wanted to say that you sound really nice and fun and I wish I was coming clubbing with you Hope you have a great time!

Aw thank you Angel. I used to the life and soul of the party but sort of lost my way in my mid 40s. My dad died, work shit, blah ,blah, blah. Ended up with depression. Still got it but not as bad but confidence knocked to shit. Was very close to saying no to hen do but can't be an oddity for the rest of my life.

I guess that is why I'm getting so worked up about what to wear, silly really.

It's not silly at all- it's hard to get out and about after all that you've been through, give yourself a pat on the back. Clubbing is one of those things where it really feels daunting what to wear, I'd feel the same. Once you get there I bet you won't even think about it and you'll just have a good time with your pals. Remember that other people there will feel a bit self conscious as well about what they're going to wear, most people do. Have a great time