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DD 13 has facial hair..WWYD

32 replies

trickynicky · 28/04/2017 17:00

DD is being teased at school for her moustache. She is olive skinned and definitely has a distinct amount of hair above her lip... Also a few small spots around her top lip. I am pale skinned and have never jhad to worry about this so I am a bit worried about the best way to deal with this. I have obviously googled and it seems that Nair may be a good remover?? I don't think that bleaching will work well as I understand you can still see the hairs and DD wants them gone! Waxing fills me with dread!! Can anyone recommend or confirm that Nair might work and is there anything to be aware of when doing it? Sorry to sound so dense on this but it is a whole new world for me!! Thanks.

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nancy75 · 28/04/2017 17:04

Can you take her to a beautician? Don't try waxing at home! Hair removal cream is an option but it can leave your skin sore.
I am blessed with lots of fur ( dark hair, olive skin, bushy faceAngry) I'm happy for your dd that you are helping her out with this, my mum was useless at this stuff & I hated being hairy but at that age didn't know what to do about it.

statetrooperstacey · 28/04/2017 17:05

Shopping centre threading or local beauty place threading about £6. I really wouldn't cream it it heaves a horrible red raw shiny patch very obvious. Or wax strips.

HeyMacWey · 28/04/2017 17:08

I'm a hairy olive and use an epilator on facial hair (and legs etc).

Once you've got the first few goes out of the way it doesn't hurt as much.

Make sure she pulls the skin taught by pushing her tongue on the inside of her lip.

It only takes seconds to whizz over the area.

Cel982 · 28/04/2017 17:09

I had a dark 'tache at this age and was very self-conscious about it. Creams do work but can be very irritating to the skin (I got a kind of chemical burn once which looked terrible) and the regrowth looks worse because the ends of the hairs are blunt.

I would take her to a beautician to get it waxed professionally; it's very quick, the results last for weeks and over time the regrowth will reduce.

Whoverville · 28/04/2017 17:12

Hiya I've spent my whole life dealing with this issue. And I also got teased about it at school too. Just want to say what a lovely mum you sound for supporting your dd with this. I've used everything over the years so hopefully my advice is useful. I now use a combo of waxing and tweezing. The wax I use is the strip less microwave kind which you can get from most supermarkets/Superdrug etc. Veet and Nair do one. Then I normally tweeze any new offenders if needed in between. If you do use hair remover cream I'd be very careful about timing and get one that's designed for the face (remembers shocking upper lip rash in my secondary school first year photo 😂) Ive heard that bleach can also be good, but it wasn't great for me personally. I am finding over time with waxing that the hair is growing back lighter and finer. It does hurt for a split second but is so effective I honestly wish I'd started doing it ages ago.

EatSpamAmandaLamb · 28/04/2017 17:15

I found the creams inflamed my skin when I was a teen and prone to spots. I ended up getting it threaded - after having my eyebrows done first to check it didn't leave me with redness.
I had my facial hair threaded until I was about 30 and for the last 4 years I have been using one of those at home laser treatments which are amazing but I'm not sure if they would work on olive skin as well as pale.
I feel for your daughter, it's a hard lot to be dealt at that age.

BusterGonad · 28/04/2017 17:15

I would try bleach first and see if that's enough to hide it, if not skip the hair removal creams as they sting like shit and go to get it waxed off. If you are bleaching Joleen is horrible, go to Boots and get their own brand which is 2 tubes of cream. Joleen is a cream and a horrible gritty powder that stings.

Cremolafoam · 28/04/2017 17:17

Épilatior gadget from Amazon or take her to a kindly threading lady , but stand over her as they often do the hard sell and deforest you completelyGrin

EatSpamAmandaLamb · 28/04/2017 17:17

Btw threading or waxing costs me max £7 for my top lip, usually £5 or £6. Tell her not to be embarrassed, they are highly trained and spend good chunks of the day waxing minges so a the beauticians wouldn't bat an eyelid at a top lip.

KatyS36 · 28/04/2017 17:23

I have this now in my 40s. Hair is soft but dark. I dry shave with battery razor. It takes 5 seconds every few days, no regrowth issues and is free (after buying razor).

TwentyCups · 28/04/2017 17:26

I get my top lip and chin threaded along with my eyebrows. Hurts a bit but lasts for a long time and grows back finer.

OlennasWimple · 28/04/2017 17:28

The epistick is great - very painful at first, but it gets better

junebirthdaygirl · 28/04/2017 17:28

My beauticians advise is no threading or waxing as you are increasing the size of the problem area. I have had problems with this all my life. Spent 1000 on laser but still came ba k. Have now had success with electrolysis. But your dd is probably too young. See a very reputable beautician before doing anything.

Bobbins43 · 28/04/2017 17:29

Get it waxed. Benefit brow bars are great and do a really professional job.

RTKM007 · 28/04/2017 17:32

Also take to GP to see if she has PCOS

btw you do sound like a lovely mum Smile

prettyinpinkandgold · 28/04/2017 17:50

Depending on where you live you can try threading. It's the best. And if your daughter would like she can watch YouTube videos and learn threading so she is in control.

INXS · 28/04/2017 18:16

Isn't there a gadget with a spring that you sort of roll around on you remember top lip and it pulls the hair out? Costs about a pound?

INXS · 28/04/2017 18:16

*on your top lip

OlennasWimple · 28/04/2017 18:53

Yup, INXS - that's the epistick I mentioned upthread Smile

dailystuck71 · 28/04/2017 18:56

Get it waxed off.

Lovely that you are supporting her.

INXS · 28/04/2017 18:59

oleanna oh, right - that makes more sense than the epipen I was imagining when I read epistick! Blush

Hulababy · 28/04/2017 19:03

Most threading places offer this. Some of DD's friends have this issue - they have it threaded very so often.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 28/04/2017 20:00

I used to bleach mine but I developed eczema so now I just shave. It's annoying but I'm too wimpy for threading (had my eyebrows threaded once and it killed!) and am allergic to the wax they use on eyebrows so don't fancy risking it on my lip. I have sideburns and a beard if I don't shave regularly Blush thanks to PCOS.

Ohyesiam · 28/04/2017 20:12

You are a lovely mum to take this on.
I've found creams are too irritating, professional waxing is good, and threading too. I also shaved for years, and it didn't " turn it into a proper man's mustache " as my mum said it would.
Bleaching and then trimming is good.
If she feels self conscious going to a beauty salon, show her their price list, lots of what they do is hair removal, it's really a hair removing clinic.

Crispsareafoodgroup · 28/04/2017 20:16

Epistick from amazon is about £1 and works well - a bit like threading but you can do it at home. Some YouTube videos show you how to do it. Once you get the hang of it it's pretty easy.