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I know what dadsy looks like and it ain't pretty....

77 replies

Chandon · 30/04/2013 10:52

just for the sake of fairness and equal bashing, let's talk about really bad dadsy styles.

So, I will start: grown men in shorts and crocs. Cute on 3 year old, but I always flinch slightly seeing an acquaintance thus attired.

Men look so much better in nice long trousers or jeans, and closed toe shoes. ( big white hairy feet in sandals......NOOOOOOO)

But clearly they do not carevto dress to impress me, bastards...

So what is your definition of dadsy?

OP posts:
Hopefully · 30/04/2013 10:54

Dad style

YoniYoniNameLeft · 30/04/2013 10:55

Simon's dad in The Inbetweeners. He is what I would think of for Dadsy.

Original poster
Chandon · 30/04/2013 10:56

That is better than crocs, IMO

Much less offensive

OP posts:
MarshaBrady · 30/04/2013 10:57

Flip flops

Shorts with side pockets

T shirts with semi ironic pictures

VivaLeBeaver · 30/04/2013 10:58

Brown slacks and a short blue anorak is what my dad tends to wear.

Dh wears awful dad jeans. Really untrendy ones in the same style as he's worn for 25 years. But he's happy.

dexter73 · 30/04/2013 11:00

Fat Face sweatshirt one size too big with cargo trousers and trainers.

MolotovCocktail · 30/04/2013 11:02

Dadsy - definitely trickier to define than Mumsy, IMO.

I would say however, that Dadsy is chinos with open-toe sandals and a nice sensible T-shirt from Matalan.

Just for a laugh, I saw a heavily-suntanned, silver-haired man who I'd age as late-40's, rollerblading with (who I assumed were) his 2 teenage daughters and chihuahua wearing:

  1. a cerise pink sweater with a blue check shirt underneath.
  2. short shorts

Now there's a dude desperate to break out of the Dad Brigade Grin

CambridgeBlue · 30/04/2013 11:02

I just posted this on the Mumsy thread...

I do think there is a 'Dadsy' look and I know this because my DH wears it. It's not his fault bless him but he moved into a job where the dress code excludes jeans but isn't smart enough for a nice suit. He ends up in sort of chino trousers (but not the trendy kind because he's 40 odd and doesn't want to dress like a teenager) with a plain or checked shirt and lace-up shoes - it's the Mumsy look encapsulated for men - comfy, inoffensive but rather dull and unflattering. I don't think any of his friends or colleagues have either noticed or could give a toss though.

I also think too much outdoor wear worn for occasions when you're not doing anything active - most things from Trespass/Blacks etc. And anything that can be bought from the back pages of the Sunday supplement. But if you're buying clothes from there I think you're a lost cause really :)

ShatnersBassoon · 30/04/2013 11:10

DH is the epitome of dadsy. Lots of Rocha.JohnRocha (shirts made from blouse fabric), M&S North Coast jeans (safe, but slightly trendier than Blue Harbour to his mind), Joules bodywarmer ("Designer, this is"), Camper trainerish shoes, always has to have a collar because T-shirts are for 'youths'. He always looks presentable, to be fair to him.

YoniTime · 30/04/2013 11:25

Fat Face sweatshirt one size too big with cargo trousers and trainers.
These men are ten a penny where I live and personally it makes me want to weep. Because every man can look good with a bit of effort and imagination. All men have something beautiful about them. All of us have good points we can emphasise.

But hey, I get it that some people care a lot less than others. And I'm sure that many of these men are perfectly content with themselves and their lives and would just rather spend the time they could be using to style their hair and put some thought into their clothes and make-up, doing something else. Fair enough.

(Shamelessly stolen/sex switched from the other thread, sorry I thought this thread needed it too Grin)

AgeingFop · 30/04/2013 11:33

Just posted on the other thread before I noticed this one. I'm guilty of the "dadsy" look at work, but try harder at the weekend!

Like the OP, I avoid crocs - vile on anyone. I also avoid open-toed sandals and flip-flops. This does rather restrict summer footwear! Currently investigating espadrilles.

I'll do shorts when it's very hot, but the slim-fitted to-the-knee ones, not baggy cargo ones.

woozlebear · 30/04/2013 11:35

Way to go. Let's make up for making one lot of people feel bad about their appearance by doing it to another group as well Confused.

Oh I get it, it's ironic and tongue in cheek and funny.

OneLittleToddleTerror · 30/04/2013 11:40

dexter that's my DH lol. Just replace the trainers with hiking boots. And add fleeces for winter. Or add a waterproof jacket if it's raining. He's in the same clothes all year round.

OneLittleToddleTerror · 30/04/2013 11:42

BTW, he's improved slightly after all these years together. Now he has two pairs of hiking boots. One without mud and crap for going out, and another pair for when it could get dirty Hmm

ShatnersBassoon · 30/04/2013 11:42

It's not tongue in cheek or ironic to me. My husband dresses like all of his friends. I dress like all of my friends. We're all mums and dads. There's no shame in wanting to be comfortable in reasonable quality clothing Grin

LRDtheFeministDragon · 30/04/2013 11:43

Yep, my DH is definitely 'dadsy'. Especially according to this thread. He won't wear jeans and has a lot of John Rocha. He also has a jacket from Gap with elbow patches.

In fact, those jackets in sort of suit-y grey tweed, that aren't suit jackets? Those are dadsy.

No crocs, though.

I don't see what's wrong with it, though. He looks nice and comfy and I think he would be quite pleased to think he looked dadsy, TBH. He enjoys being prematurely middle aged. Grin

ShatnersBassoon · 30/04/2013 11:43

I love the spare hiking boots 'for best', OLTT Grin

dexter73 · 30/04/2013 11:44

It's virtually every dh here, OneLittleToddleTerror! I don't think it helps that the only mens clothes shop in my town is Fat Face. I think it looks ok it is just that they all wear it!

dexter73 · 30/04/2013 11:45

My dh has 'going out' trainers and 'everyday' trainers.

EarlyInTheMorning · 30/04/2013 11:46

Are our DHs 'dadsy' because we dress them? I mean, I buy most of my DH's clothes because he absolutely detests shopping. Anything too trendy or fashionable or over-styled or with visible logos will have to be returned. So yes, chinos and unoffensive fat face shirts/tops tends to be the 'uniform'.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 30/04/2013 11:47

Nope. DH was 'dadsy' when I met him at 21. Smile

YoniTime · 30/04/2013 11:47

That quote sounds strange when you replace the sexes doesn't it?
I picked it because I think it shows a common attitude to women and looks. We are all beautiful, we should show our beauty...but what about men, are they beautiful, should they show their beauty?
Men simply aren't supposed to work on their looks and beauty are they, but women are. Men aren't judged like that. Will a man instead be judged if he wears pretty clothes?
I think I'm also getting a bit too deep for my own shallow brain so i better stop now.

dexter73 · 30/04/2013 11:48

I don't buy my dh any clothes - not for birthday or Christmas or any reason. He chooses all his own clothes, and has a penchant for t-shirts with various cycling images on them! He hates shopping too so only buys clothes when absolutely necessary.

ShatnersBassoon · 30/04/2013 11:48

My son is already dadsy. He's still in junior school. It's born into the men in DH's family.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 30/04/2013 11:50

My DH is terrified of Dadsy....he actually asks me "Do I look Dadsy today?"

He wears nice shirts and jeans generally...he's a lot more stylish than me. I live in skinny jeans, boots and a gilet with an arse covering top. Except when I am home and can release my poor scarred midsection from the skinnes....then I wear Primark pjs.

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