I know what dadsy looks like and it ain't pretty....

[Chandon]

just for the sake of fairness and equal bashing, let's talk about really bad dadsy styles.

So, I will start: grown men in shorts and crocs. Cute on 3 year old, but I always flinch slightly seeing an acquaintance thus attired.

Men look so much better in nice long trousers or jeans, and closed toe shoes. ( big white hairy feet in sandals......NOOOOOOO)

But clearly they do not carevto dress to impress me, bastards...

So what is your definition of dadsy?

Good point and well said yoniTime

Early DH buys his own clothes. When he goes shopping, he'll buy multiple of the same cargo trousers. And then two years later, the same shop will still sell the same cargo trousers, which he'll buy another 2. He has 3 black berghaus fleeces. I think two are thinner and one thickner. They are all hang at our entrance. Ditto with the hiking boots. It's always the same pair from berghaus (or they look the same to me). He complains when they stop selling his favourite trousers or fleeces.

And DH has multiple drawers of t-shirts. There's one drawer for slightly nicer looking ones. Then they get retired to the lounging around home drawer. And finally end up in the DIY/sleepwear drawer.

Remember the Hugh Dennis sketch about the awful embarrassment of a Dad dancing? I think that involved a brown cardigan and slacks.

It's the cardigan, or it's modern equivalent, the zipped fleece, that shows the first surrender to Dadness.

However my dh spends an absolute fortune on his cycling clothes and everything has to be coordinated and is very expensive. Maybe I should make him take me out in his lycra !!

dexter my DH clothes are very expensive too. He buys them from active wear shop like cotswold outdoors. He has those fancy cyclewear too, though he's not into lycra exactly. Just the cycle jackets, the underlayers, the hats, gloves. Said hiking boots I mocked are waterproof. Which he took great pleasure in telling me when it's raining.

Spending a lot on clothes doesn't stop them looking dadsy. It's an eye and care for fashion they are lacking

The old practical and functional approach to clothing

My dh is in no ways 'dadsy'. In fact, he frightens small children despite the fact he's a brilliant dad, great with kids and a total softy

Everything from m and s blue harbour :)

"Everything from m and s blue harbour" Yes and the Debenhams equivalent, Maine.

That's, DH!

Why? because he never ever buys his own clothes never has in 25 years.

These places are guaranteed to fit, wear reasonably well, have no logo's he might not like and don't coast too much.

DH would much rather turn His clothes money into "Geek" (electrical, computing and technical stuff of every possible kind).

Why do some men not buy their own clothes? That seems very strange to me.

My dh loves blue harbour :)
I wear boot cut jeans and have been known to wear a fleece if its cold out.
So we are mumsy and dadsy :)

Dadsy

Yonitime, that was funny.

Some men (like DH) really struggle with "smart-casual". It's very hard to avoid chinos, polo shirt, in a place with a smart-casual code. It suits the tall and slim but less so everyone else.

(I don't buy clothes for DH, I'm not his mum)

One variant is pushing 50 and still dressing like your 8yo skater DS.

My DP wears the same type of clothes he wore a decade ago. He is rapidly running out of places to buy them from! He thinks he is too old to wear skinny jeans, brogues , plimsolls etc but too young to look boring and smart. He wears skate trainers (not too chunky, not too slim), baggyish jeans, t shirts (usually from threadless), nice jumpers and a snow boarding coat. He is stuck in the no mans land of the mid 30s scruff bag .

So just like all the mumsy thread. Don't wear this don't wear that. What are they supposed to wear?

My dh wears dark jeans, shirts or polo shirts (we argue about the polo shirts) joules rugby style jumpers and josef siebel rigger boots.
It's bland and probably dadsy but its also respectable and he feel comfortable in it. He would look at dick if he tried to be fashionable

Thisisaeuphemism my DH's idea of smart casual is a casual shirt, his usual cargo trousers with his 'going out' hiking boots. If it's cold, he'll add a fleece. Ditto the raincoat. Basically it's his normal clothes, but swapping the t-shirt for shirts.

The shirts look like
www.fatface.com/men/shirts/icat/mensshirts/

DH (43) loves those fat face tops in the first link, with M&S chino trousers and then quite nice shoes - not lace ups as they make his feet look like boats. And he probably is Dadsy and was long before the DDs came along. But he feels good in those tops. He tried one on and his face lit up at the comfort and weight of the material and that's probably why it works and is right for him.

He's one of those big-bear type men. Barrel chested, bit of a tummy, 6ft 4inch tall. The look suits him. If he wore trendy jeans and naice t-shirts he'd look terrible.

They bloody love those FF tops don't they?!! That is why I said it was dad style, because so many of them wear it. I think they look good but it just amuses me sometimes when you see a group of the dads at an event and they are all wearing the same top (but maybe in a slightly different colour)!

Hey nobody says they don't look good. The clothes just speak DAD.

This is a tongue in cheek companion to the mumsy one. I doubt our DH cares a bit whether they look dadsy!

I don't know the mumsy ones are very disparaging and this was paired with them

When and how do men buy their own clothes?

There's no where near work. If I sit DH down with the next catalogue he just turns to the women's underwear or the cameras. He just isn't interested.

I can't conceive of DH choosing to go to town at the weekend unless he took me and the girls shopping with him. Then he happily walks around all day looking at women and children's clothes, TVs, computers, cameras, chocolate, books etc. He has to be forcibly pushed into men's shops.

I married him straight off a postgrad course and all he wore as a student was what his mother bought him and DMIL was as disinterested in clothes as he is so this was checked shirts, some plastic easy wash M&S trousers in bright colours and several thick knitted jumpers because his parents house was freezing. Oh and a horrible washable suit.

The only nice clothes he owned was a proper dinner suit, shoes, shirt and collage bow tie. He looked very good in them, but I could hardly take him down the pub.

Thus I've just taken over DH clothes buying and now DD2 joins in.

If I stopped buying him clothes tomorrow, he'd just wear what he's got until it fell apart. The only thing he might buy is white shirts and dark trousers to look acceptable for work, but that is it.