Aibu

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My partners kids have started only coming every other weekend when my children are there. When they aren’t there they don’t come. Whe thy are there all they do is stay awake most the night gaming, sleep until 2/3 so we can’t go our (as he feels guilty leaving them home) and then they go again Sunday. They never know what they want for food as they choose etc. anyways I have just been to Florida with my kids, the ex wife asked when I was going and basically said it was to prepare her for backlash from him as we weren’t around. Well he has been great messaging and didn’t make me feel guilty, didn’t drink however when his kids turned up for both the two weekends and again he was stuck on all day etc and he was bored (he actually said apart from seeing them he had been alone) he was then drinking and I toot bomabrded with messages.
Anyways we fly back today and I have asked if this weekend as my kids are at their dads could he ask his to not come. I want a conversation with him about our weekends and how we need to put rules in place to be fair on all the kids and ultimatly if his kids decide to stay in bed all day we need to just go out with mine as we can’t be couped up all weekend or I will take my kids out. I also would like the weekend just the two of us as o haven’t seen him for 2 weeks and I don’t have jr in me to be dealing with his kids. I ultimately am at the point I will just stay at my own house. Aibu.

Stop dragging your children out of their home half the week, they spend EOW with their dad and more than half the week at your boyfriend's, when are they at home poor things? You are also really vicious about your partner's children. They are his children and should be his priority not you and your brood. He also sounds like a nightmare , sole care of his children and he's getting smashed, not the kind of man I'd be with.
The ones suffering in all of this are the children and yet your anger seems targeted at his.

Do you have permission to record these kids? Just stay in your own house and don't worry about the boyfriend or his kids.

It doesn't matter HOW MUCH you recorded. She was in HER DADS house... having a PRIVATE conversation with HER MOTHER and you decided to start recording so you could tell tales on her.

I never say things like this but STAY IN YOUR LANE... or preferably in your house far far away from his kids. You are completely and utterly damaging them. It's no wonder they use their dad when you won't allow them to have any tiny but of relationship.