DSS is about to turn 18, DSS has lived between us and his mum since he was little. She is a difficult individual who has struggled, despite loads of financial support and physical support from DH and I. DH has been clear that support will be reduced at the end of Jan now DS is out of school / and is 18. Money will go direct to him.
DH has had a request for help buying DSS a 1k gift for Christmas, claiming that money has always been tight and this will support a hobby of his that he’s always dreamed of, but not to talk to him
about it to him directly for fear of ruining the surprise. Also requesting we buy him an item of essential clothing for Christmas from us as she cannot possibly afford to do so? Is this just a guilt trip to get more money?