Too many kids and not enough room

[stressedmum2024]

I lived alone with my 3 kids for many years then met current OH two years ago. He has 5 kids and never once had them over night before we met at his place. He then moved in with me and all we do is argue about his kids and him saying they coming over to stay! There is no room at my house (where he moved in) as teenagers in one room and adult child in another room. His answer is we need a bigger house but i refuse to move as i surely cannot afford too and i am settled, plus would unsettle my kids. Should i tell him to move out and sort himself and his kids out as im sick of having the same arguements but this will be the end of our relationship if i do this.

Sorry OP but another one here who thinks you need to end this.

Your and your kids home is far far to precious to be taking any sort of risks with.

This is going to end in a shit show if you don’t reclaim your house and ask him to leave.

Even if he were the most perfect father, you still have too many children between you to ever make it work.

Even if he was a good involved father, I wouldn’t be budging for him and his kids. It would be like an invasion.

The question is why did you even enter into a relationship with a man who has fathered 5 children but never looked after them over night?

Second question is what did you think would happen with you ask him to move in? Him never to see his children again?

He has 5 children and you have 3 so you'd need a huge house to accommodate them. Is he paying for this house? Or is he the ideas man and you the executioner and payer? Are you the staff there to look after all these DC?

Get him and his 5 DC to move out and concentrate on your own.