AIBU DH ex overstepping

[Tishtun]

Hi all,

Just here to vent really. For background I've been married to DH for 3 years and together for 6.
He has two children from a previous relationship that was short lived. They are now aged 9 and 7.

We have regular contact EOW and holidays. DH pays maintenance above what is calculated.
Recently 9 year old DSD got a phone which DH brought and he pays the contract.
The ex has been using this phone to contact DH and says to him her phone is broken and her phone was also pay as you go which she didn't top up regularly . She is now using DSD's phone. She openly told DH this and didn't say she plans to replace her phone. DSD mostly used her phone for games and got a switch for Xmas so isn't on the phone as much it seems.

Naturally DH was annoyed and wanted to stop paying the rolling contact. He didn't get into an argument as it was Xmas and it never ends well. However I am equally annoyed. I don't really want my husband paying for his ex to have a phone. Its inappropriate that she is using the phone full stop. And the audacity to just tell DH and not think its a joke baffles me. AIBU.

@Tishtun parental controls is the answer. DH should not have given a child a phone without parental controls installed. He also shouldn't have given her a phone with a monthly Contract. Just not needed for a kid. I gave mine giffgaff SIMs which were super cheap and also then I could control the data usage too.

Instead of making this about the Ex. Get your DH to ask DSD to bring phone over on next contact and then he sets up the parental controls. Ex will soon stop using it !

Agree completely. The error was not having all that set up at the start.