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Can't sleep... the night before our holiday, what tricks will she pull?

68 replies

ThisMustBeMyDream · 30/07/2021 00:00

DP's ex always tries something when it comes to holiday time (both standard school holiday split and actual going away holidays). This will be our first holiday since pre-covid times. We are travelling in the UK to spend the week with DP's extended family, and have lots of lovely day trips planned. DSD hasn't seen them since Dec 19. She is 4.5 so will barely remember them.
I just know something is going to go down. Me and DP are just guessing at what she might try. Which is awful, isn't it? That we can't relax the night before our holiday... because his ex just wants to sabotage at every stage she can. She has mostly been scuppered in her schemes, but it shouldn't be like this!!!! Back to court in just over a week... for enforcement due to her breaches (multiple, including for extended periods). Surely she won't try something this close to court?! Sad

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RosesandPumpkins · 30/07/2021 09:35

Urgh know the feeling.
I have a very tricksy ex too. I can never foresee it but am never surprised when it happens!!

Please let us know that you collected ok and are off on your lovely hols

ThisMustBeMyDream · 30/07/2021 09:44

He is on his way now to collect. He text at 8am to confirm handover time and place (same place as court ordered). She saw it, but no reply. She has in the past claimed she didn't go because he didn't confirm on the day (despite the court order and previous discussions!). So covering that base at least...

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Teapotsandtablecloths · 30/07/2021 09:57

I hope hes able to collect and you have a lovely holiday op x

Notthisnotthat · 30/07/2021 10:02

I hope you all get to enjoy your break.

MarshmallowsOnToast · 30/07/2021 10:12

🤞🤞🤞🤞

notapizzaeater · 30/07/2021 10:15

Fingers crossed 🤞

RandomMess · 30/07/2021 10:18

I hope she sticks to the court Oder!

blahblahblah321 · 30/07/2021 10:29

Fingers crossed she isn't playing silly games!

MzHz · 30/07/2021 10:47

Were you the fucking OW?! Wow! What an absolutely appalling post and proof of the absolutely unfounded and frankly ridiculous attitude towards step mothers

@MumsnetHQ, seriously when are you going to do something about this!? It’s out of control!

People post here for help, and mostly it’s well founded, mothers of children who become our step kids really CAN be awful, without any reason other than because they can. We are always saying to ‘believe her’ but why does that get reversed when the poster is a step mum?

@ThisMustBeMyDream I hope throat dsd is now on board with dad, and all is going well

Poor kid. If only the mother could think for a second about what she’s doing to her own child with all this bitterness and evil.

MzHz · 30/07/2021 10:47

That not throat!

mcmooberry · 30/07/2021 10:53

Keeping my fingers crossed all is well!

ThisMustBeMyDream · 30/07/2021 10:53

We have DSD, we are off now!
She just tried to get DSD to say she wouldn't come if my children were going. Safe to say, that didn't work.

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BlueSurfer · 30/07/2021 10:56

Enjoy your holiday.

tinydancer88 · 30/07/2021 10:59

@ThisMustBeMyDream

We have DSD, we are off now! She just tried to get DSD to say she wouldn't come if my children were going. Safe to say, that didn't work.
Poor DSD. That's a lot of pressure for a small child. Enjoy your holiday.
DancesWithTortoises · 30/07/2021 10:59

@Notawriteryet

Were you the OW?
Stupid post of the day prize winner right there.
Jocasta2018 · 30/07/2021 11:01

Have a good holidaySmile!!!!

clickychicky · 30/07/2021 11:03

Yay! Enjoy the holiday! What a cruel thing of mum to do.

nevergoesaway · 30/07/2021 11:11

@MzHz

Were you the fucking OW?! Wow! What an absolutely appalling post and proof of the absolutely unfounded and frankly ridiculous attitude towards step mothers

@MumsnetHQ, seriously when are you going to do something about this!? It’s out of control!

People post here for help, and mostly it’s well founded, mothers of children who become our step kids really CAN be awful, without any reason other than because they can. We are always saying to ‘believe her’ but why does that get reversed when the poster is a step mum?

@ThisMustBeMyDream I hope throat dsd is now on board with dad, and all is going well

Poor kid. If only the mother could think for a second about what she’s doing to her own child with all this bitterness and evil.

I agree with this. What a terrible response to someone looking for support and advice, and actually completely irrelevant. Glad it’s been deleted.
Nowthisisme · 30/07/2021 11:19

OP glad you are on your way! Have a great time!
Please - to help clean up this board, don’t ever answer the OW question. When asked it is almost never relevant to the thread. Let’s grey rock this question out of the board!!

yoursfroobly · 30/07/2021 11:29

Excellent news! Enjoy your holiday. I'm sure DSD will have an amazing time Smile in fact, if mum was to receive a postcard from her DD telling her how much fun she's having she would LOVE it (petty heh)

YetAnotherSpartacus · 30/07/2021 11:32

I'm so pleased OP!

Let's hope that there is no drama-rama while you are away.

harriethoyle · 30/07/2021 11:41

@MzHz

Were you the fucking OW?! Wow! What an absolutely appalling post and proof of the absolutely unfounded and frankly ridiculous attitude towards step mothers

@MumsnetHQ, seriously when are you going to do something about this!? It’s out of control!

People post here for help, and mostly it’s well founded, mothers of children who become our step kids really CAN be awful, without any reason other than because they can. We are always saying to ‘believe her’ but why does that get reversed when the poster is a step mum?

@ThisMustBeMyDream I hope throat dsd is now on board with dad, and all is going well

Poor kid. If only the mother could think for a second about what she’s doing to her own child with all this bitterness and evil.

Absolutely agree @MzHz

@mumsnetHQ this really is getting beyond a joke now.

Beamur · 30/07/2021 11:46

Yay! Hope you all have a nice holiday.
Rise above the baiters! Both irl and on here..

KeepItConstructive · 30/07/2021 13:12

I have just started a thread in site stuff asking MN to ban "Were you the other woman?"

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/site_stuff/4310089-Can-we-ban-Were-you-the-other-woman-OP?watched=1

crabbingbucket · 30/07/2021 14:55

@yoursfroobly

Excellent news! Enjoy your holiday. I'm sure DSD will have an amazing time Smile in fact, if mum was to receive a postcard from her DD telling her how much fun she's having she would LOVE it (petty heh)
So sad that some mums would actually not want to receive a postcard saying their kid's having a nice time while they're with their SM

My dsd wasn't allowed to say anything positive about her time with us because it upset mummy