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OMFG I need a rant.

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Iamnotagoddess · 30/05/2019 17:52

Step daughters here for half term, I am working their dad is not.

Came home from work today and their bedroom door is wide open so I went in to close the window, black sheets on bed COVERED in dog hair (we do not have a dog) and a pair of 14 yr old DDs PJ bottoms in the middle of the floor on full display covered in blood (they were clean, I washed them).

The bathroom has every kind of sanitary pad and tampon you could imagine for them and is it that hard to mention that this has happened as she clearly wasn’t embarrassed about it (nor should she be).

But thats really disgusting Envy not envy.

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slipperywhensparticus · 30/05/2019 17:53

Whose dog?

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Iamnotagoddess · 30/05/2019 17:53

Theirs at their house.

The car and the bed sheets always get covered in it, it’s foul.

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bumblebeetree · 30/05/2019 17:55

Surely she can’t help if her clothes are covers in hair, she’s not purposefully bringing it into your home.

Perhaps she leaked or was unaware she’d come on, although I would be saying to pick up dirty clothes and stick in machine or washing basket

Singlenotsingle · 30/05/2019 17:56

What, dog hair or blood? Or both?

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Iamnotagoddess · 30/05/2019 17:56

No it’s not their fault they are covered in hair, it just pisses me off that their mum is so bloody filthy.

I get that accidents happen, sure, but do something about it, don’t just ditch them on the floor.

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Iamnotagoddess · 30/05/2019 17:58

It’s two separate things. They are always covered in dog hair.

Always covering sheets and clothes on blood and just leaving it.

Had to teach them both how to fold up a pad and not just leave it on full display in the bin.

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Figure8 · 30/05/2019 17:59

Gosh.

I have a dog, and his hair gets everywhere. Can you ask her to strip the bed before she goes?

As for the stained PJ's, my DD has done similar. I think it's because to her, it's just another bit of dirty laundry that magically gets washed.
Perhaps she forgot they were on show?
Maybe instead of ranting, you could explain about soaking/ rinsing in cold water so avoid permanent stains?
She's relatively new to the period thing, so maybe give her a break?

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Iamnotagoddess · 30/05/2019 18:01

I have explained, again and again and again. And she started when she was 10.

Also I am not ranting to her am I? I am ranting here.

I do not know any other dog owners who cover others cars and bedding with dog hair.

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Iamnotagoddess · 30/05/2019 18:02

I understand the hair gets everywhere when it lives in your house, but not in other peoples houses and cars.

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doodleygirl · 30/05/2019 18:03

Don’t go in her bedroom. HTH

Figure8 · 30/05/2019 18:03

Ah, you're mad at their mum.

Please don't take it out on them.
If they haven't been taught, then for heavens sake, teach them!

Although I dont like the idea of leaving a pad unwrapped, some people do as they dont want to waste toilet roll.

Please don't shame them- be kind

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Iamnotagoddess · 30/05/2019 18:04

It’s a bedroom in my house which they sleep in when they are here. The door was wide open and the window was open, which I went in to close.

I wash all their clothes and bedding.

I would do the same in my sons room.

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Iamnotagoddess · 30/05/2019 18:06

I have taught them to wrap the pad with the wrapper of the new pad, not with loo roll.

I haven’t said I am going to shame her, I am pissed off as she knows better than that.

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Pantsomime · 30/05/2019 18:06

Tell her you are not washing them & if she leaves them as they are you’ll bag them up for her to take home next time. Give her the Hoover to hoover her stuff:room - make sure you follow threat up

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Iamnotagoddess · 30/05/2019 18:07

They have clothes here which I wash etc as they never used to bring what they needed or it was too small/dirty, so I will wash them and I don’t have an issue with leakage, it’s just ditching them on the carpet which has annoyed me.

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Aquamarine1029 · 30/05/2019 18:10

Where is their father in all this? Why isn't he teaching them what is acceptable levels of hygiene? This all sounds very grim.

Whenitallgetstoomuch · 30/05/2019 18:10

I feel your pain OP. My DSD left her used sanitary pads in an empty tissue box on her bedside table. I found them a couple of days after she’d gone home. The smell!!

I bought her all sorts of lovely pampering bits and pieces, face masks, posh soap, etc on a lovely basket and she just stared at me as she usually does.

I totally disengaged from her shortly agree that incident. She still comes but her and her brother go out with their dad where possible.

I’d love to say I enjoy having them around but I don’t, I hate every minute of it.

lifebegins50 · 30/05/2019 18:10

I think you are over reacting, not pleasant but they are teens and when you have heavy periods you can get immune to it.

Can I ask why black sheets, especially if the hair shows up?
I really don't think they can be blamed for transferring dog hair, they haven't done it deliberately and you should let it go.

Don't go into their room when they are there if it names your blood boil.. adults always get upset at teens rooms but they often grow out of it.

Refilona · 30/05/2019 18:11

OP I feel your pain, I had a 20ish year old housemate who would leave her bloody pads unfolded on display in the bathroom bin...

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Iamnotagoddess · 30/05/2019 18:12

They have no control over the dog hair tbf - it just winds me up (because I hate the smell and I don’t really like dogs).

Their dad and I both try to drum into them acceptable levels of hygiene but it seems to fall on deaf ears.

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Aquamarine1029 · 30/05/2019 18:12

Why are YOU washing their nasty clothes? They are more than old enough to be doing that. Either they do it or their dad does it. I'm sorry op, but you're kind of being a mug here! Stand up for yourself! Your husband isn't even working!

Figure8 · 30/05/2019 18:12

Teenagers DO need telling again and again and again. That is what makes raising them hard.

KeplerExoplanets · 30/05/2019 18:13

To find a partner that is childless...

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Iamnotagoddess · 30/05/2019 18:14

When I made the beds I just had black sheets (as have thrown out most of the whites ones because they got ruined with period stains!).

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Iamnotagoddess · 30/05/2019 18:15

I have brought up 3 of my own teenagers I am aware what they can be like. They are adults now.

My DH does work (away which is why I do a lot of the prep for the kids) he has this week off.

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