Feel like I'm going mad please help

[Nonmotherof3]

My boyfriend's three kids came to live with us full time at the end of last year. Mum hast seen them since they came.

Their granny (her mother) wants to visit and stay In our home?? Am I being unreasonable thay I don't even want her in our home....let alone sleeping here?

Please help me. I know they have to see this family but don't want to be part of it. Now I'm worried it's going to affect them if I don't accept her into my home.

Thank you all.

She is coming, we paid for her trip but she won't be coming to the house. We have told her to sort accommodation.

I am so stressed about it all it's horrid.

Op - it’s nice that you paid for her trip but why? She will be expecting hand outs every time now.

Agree with Oreo- in this visit i would make her aware that you paying is a one off and it won't be happening again. If she wants to maintain contact she will have to pay for it.
Good luck OP.