Easter next week, dhs ex has asked if he can have dss for any of it which of course is absolutely fine. We usually have him half of the week in holidays.
Dh is waiting on wether he is working or not so he said of course he can come and stay with us but hes just waiting on the days he is working. He should know by the end of the day. He was going to contact her regarding when dss could come, he was just waiting to find out his hours which he will do today.
Ex replied with 'well can op not just have him?' With a stroppy attitude in her voice. I heard it through the phone call.
Now let me just say, I have dss all the time. He's coming Friday and I've got him over night on my own as dh is out for the evening on a works day/night away. I don't mind at all. We don't have much of a social life.
We have dss every weekend and as sometimes dh works (only half a day on a Saturday if he does) I look after dss and take him places along with my own dc. I really don't mind doing it, it's not an issue.
I just don't appreciate the 'can't op just have him?' From the ex. Would this bug anyone else or is it just me? She knows I will have him, it's fine. But I'm starting to feel like I'm being taken advantage of through her.
After the phone call I said to dh, of course I will have him if he has to work. We have things planned with dcs next week and he will have a lovely time with us. But I just don't like her attitude towards me. I can't explain what I mean but does anyone get me?
It's happening more often at the moment. Last week dss came for tea and she was dropping him off with us. I said to dh I will be in just after 5 as I need to pick dd up from dancing at 4.45. Dh doesn't finish work until 5.30, home for 6. He told her anytime after 5 is fine to drop dss off. Her reply was ' I need him dropped off for 5, can she not pick dd up slightly early?' This is not a usual night dss comes to us, it was only decided that morning he was coming for tea.
She was expecting me to have dss all day tomorrow as well and it's the first time ive ever said no. She rang dh last week and said 'I know you are out for the day so shall I just drop dss with op at 10am seen as it's good Friday?' My dcs are with their dad and I've decided to go out for the day with my mum and sister. I'll be home for 5 and she can drop him after which is the usual routine on a Friday. It would be different if dh was at home. Dss would definitely be here but this works do has been planned for months. I know that's frustrated her.
Her attitude towards me is really starting to piss me off. I know I am his step mother but she could just treat me with a little more respect? Or am I over reacting? I've tried to turn it around and imagine my dcs with a step mother but that's very hard for me as dcs dad isn't really interested in dcs so all I can think of is how lucky dss is to have a dad that does everything he can to see him and actually wants to be in his life. My dcs don't really have that.
Also, I don't want to make out that dh never has dss. He does, it's just his work hours mean that he's not often home when dss is dropped off. He's home within an hour. Dh then drops him back off with his mum on a Sunday evening.
I don't know if I'm being petty here or if I need to start watching my back. I feel like she is going to start walking all over me.