What would other posters do in my position? DH has a fully grown-up child whom I've known for many years, since early teens. The child (calling them X) has been unlucky in that they don't earn much money and lives alone. However for many years X has been coming to my DH with requests for financial help, started small and boy, is it getting bigger, it appears we are now at the point where we are actually financing X's life......I mean right down to weekly grocery shopping! None of my DC have ever, or would ever ask for cash, if we see they're strughling we try to help, my DH is always willing to do this, but they rarely accept, as they are very independent.
It's a difficult topic for us to discuss, because a) it makes me angry to see him being treated like a cash cow, and b) because although he's admitted he's fed up with the situation, he gets defensive about X, (which I really do get) and changes the subject...but the fact remains, he still goes along with it! I really don't know how to speak to him about it, and he insists that I must NOT, under any circs discuss it with X! Help!!