Just to set the scene, I have recently moved in with my partner who is divorced and has an 8 year old dd. She does not live with him full time but more or less stays over 3/4 times a week.
I find the time the time that she is with us quite difficult sometimes for the following reasons:-
- He is pure disney
- Nothing she does is wrong
- He over praises her..every thing she does is amazing...wonderful..fantastic...even if she finishes her dinner she gets a "well done..good girl"
- She gets her own way in a sneaky underhand
way
-he always says how stunning she is!
-She is very manipulative
-She mimics my actions..strokes his face..holds his face in her hands an kisses him...strokes his chesthair!! ugh
- I feel like a gooseberry while they have their little love-ins
-Dp not very affectionate with me but so gushy with her.
This is not a full list but writing it down is almost theraputic.
Anyway tonight at dinner she said that a friend at school kept calling her chunky monkey or something similar..which is not true or nice as she is a slim girl. Anyway my dp came back with
"well R that is not true as you have a beautiful figure"....and then told her to tell him he looked like....someone on the tv who is not particularly attractive.
After she left the room I mentioned that saying your daughter has a beautiful figure was not an appropriate thing to say to an 8 year old. Not in a pervy way just wrong. I felt a bit weird when he said it. Maybe if he has said she was slim and had nothing to worry about? That would have been better.
He retaliated by saying I am sick in the head and plainly jealous of his daughter.This is not the first time he has said this.
Am I jealous?Maybe I am?? But sick?? That is harsh. I have an 18 year old dd myself so know what little girls are like and how they think.
I feel pretty upset tbh :-(