Hi there, long time lurker here.
I am married to a wonderful man who has two teenage children with his ex. We also have a toddler. It's all working out pretty well: of course we have the usual issues raised in this forum (well the milder ones!) or I wouldn't be reading...
Anyway, I saw some mum friends in the park today and one was pregnant with her fourth child. For the first time it occurred to me that I might, all things being equal, have chosen to have a large brood myself. I didn't think about this when I met DH -- I hadn't been the type to plan how many kids I wanted and was only just getting into the idea.
We plan to have two together, but haven't discussed more, I think assuming that would be enough (including his others especially). I'm not going to broach it with him now, but I was just wondering if there were others who might naturally have wanted a large brood and then had to navigate this in a second-marriage situation. I guess that by the time a second marriage is underway people are often too old to have more than two.
Interested in hearing about others' experience.