first weekend with step kids

[mistressmiggins]

Hi girls

have asked your advice b4 over last 8 months so if you could just spare some reassurance

my children (4 & 2) have arrived at daddy's house - this is the first weekend where daddys "friend" (as DS 4 calls her) will be there all weekend. My ex hasnt told the kids anything - I have to fill in & explain things....DS knows SHE is living with daddy now

just a little anxious....DD (2) ususally comes in when she wakes up - its going to be weird seeing another woman in daddy's bed

Im hoping they will take it in their stride....to be honest, when they come home after a weekend with daddy, I have bed wetting, weeing during the day and early morning coming into my bedroom crying for me

Im OK - just cant help worrying about the children... SHE has not exactily gone out of her way to introduce herself to the childrne

oh well they weill be back Sunday lunchtime

well my ex is such an insensitive self absorbed tw#t that he needs things spelt out

today my DS (4) handed me the phone and said "its your husband" and my ex was LAUGHING - when I asked why, he said "it sounds cute"
"will it sound cute when he says "Its your ex husband" I asked him?

what a knob - sorry but he is

I only do any of the things I do cos you lot have made me realise how hard it is to step parent and I want to make my childrens' lives as easy as possible

as for the snogging, he keeps making stupid "women are all..." so am going off him rapidly

think he was a good ego boost; good to know I can still get out there but am going to concentrate on ME for once

hope all you step mums have a good weekend

We haven't had this yet as my ex hasn't once in 3 years had any of the 5 children to stay. Idiot. What kind of father is that? The youngest did see him with a woman a couple of time without any explanation (he only sees them for about 2 hours once a week, if that) but they were too young to think much about it and they were with her and her children swimming. I have no idea if she was a girl friend but presumably she was. He never speaks to me.
It must be particularly difficult if it's the "other woman" he's with. I suppose arsenic in her tea or sticking pins in a wax dummy are two methods.