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Is a 9 to 10pm bedtime suitable for a four month old?

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sweetbabyangel · 18/07/2026 21:51

Hi everyone, forgive the probably very stupid FTM question, but looking for some advice about bedtime please. My LO is 4 months old and I currently put her to bed between 9-10pm. I know this is significantly later than many others, but it suits my partner and I for her to wake up slightly later (8-9am) as my partner works very late nights so we have never transitioned away from our newborn schedule of late nights.
My question is whether this is likely to harm her sleep? Do babies naturally want to go to sleep earlier and are we therefore working against her natural body clock by keeping her up late? Or do most parents just enjoy getting their children to be nice and early to make the most of their evenings? The other consideration is that, in about a year, she will be starting a couple of mornings ay nursery, and so we will have to look at adjusting the schedule then, so that she’s able to wake up earlier for nursery. Thank so much in advance for your advice.

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toastofthetown · 19/07/2026 05:14

A lot of babies can only sleep 9-10 hours overnight, and early bedtimes can lead to split nights, early rising and/or excessive night time wakes. Babies also all have individual sleep needs. We have a 9pm bedtime and 7am wake for my 15 month old and that works well for us. I wouldn’t bother at all with worrying about what your days will look like at nursery in a year! Just do what works now, and you can figure out that later.

OhBettyCalmDown · 19/07/2026 05:23

At 4 months it’s a usually a case of do whatever works for you but longer term yes this needs adjusting by a couple of hours.

ktopfwcv · 19/07/2026 05:49

My dc at 4m slept at any hour in a 24 hour period.

unlimiteddilutingjuice · 19/07/2026 06:02

My DS had much the same sleep schedule as a baby.
As he moved through the toddler years, his afternoon nap just naturaly shifted later and later. Until it sort of merged with his nighttime sleep. Leaving him with s normal bedtime in the end

chirrupybird · 19/07/2026 06:05

My 4 month old hardly slept, bedtime was a thing for the distant future so that would have been absolutely fantastic.

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