Friend keeps going on about my 9.5m olds naps

[tiredmama2020]

Real life experience wanted please! My DS was a terrible sleeper up until about 8m. He’s now 9.5m finally setting well and content - all naps and night sleep in cot rather than being held.

Currently:

• wakes at about 6/6.30am
• naps about 9/9.30am for 1-1.5h
• naps about 1.30/2pm for 1-2h depending on how morning nap has gone
• sleep at 7/7.30pm

Naps usually total around 2.5h (3h maximum)

Everything I’ve read about what he “should” be doing at this age says he’s doing fine but I know these books etc aren’t very realistic. I’m happy with his sleep anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️

Close friend has a DS who is 21m and she will NOT stop going on about my DS not getting enough sleep - I’ve started avoiding seeing her because we keep arguing over it 🙄

Her 21m old wakes at 7am, naps 9.30-11am AND 2-4pm and then is sound asleep for 7pm. So he’s doing 3.5h naps and 12h solid at night. Personally I think that’s an awful lot of sleep for his age but I’d never comment on it to her because every child is different and it’s really not my place to comment!

Why do people feel the need to interfere?! Is this common for friends to start judging parenting?! 😳

I don't understand why it's any of her business anyway! Seems really weird behaviour to be obsessed with someone else's child's nap schedule. I agree that she is insecure about what she is doing and projecting on to you.

When my eldest was 21 months her sister was born. Vividly remember eldest being like a little wind up toy, busy busy all morning and then conk out for a snooze sometime between 11 and 1. As littlest got older it was such a treat when they'd nap at the same time. Sometimes I'd join them, all in our big bed. I miss the 80s 😅
Anyway, it seems that friends baby sleeps a lot, and that yours has got the right idea now, and it's a shame that she's giving you a hard time about something entirely normal.
I'd avoid a friend who carried on like that too (actually I did have one who had an opinion on everything, and now we have social media she's there with her conspiracy theories, so I blocked her!)

DS dropped all daytime naps at 19 months. DD needed naps until she was 3yrs +. Every child is different.

@tiredmama2020 aw thank you that’s nice to hear! I’d take another 6 weeks of this for sure, I’m just worried it could go on for another year! 😭

My 9.5mo DD sounds just like your 9.5mo. I will say my DS was on 2 naps a day until he was 2! He just seems to need his sleep more. I know he is unusual with that. He’s 2y8mo now and still naps 2-2.5h in the day and 11h at night. That’s just him. I wouldn’t judge anyone else’s baby though!