DD is 8 months. She is breaking me. I've tried so so hard. I know the right things to do but it just isnt working.
She is on 2 naps a day. I actually think she needs a 3rd but she wont fall asleep til gone 5 and then everything just gets stupidly late.
We were cosleeping up til about a month ago. She was waking every 2 hrs to feed and it just wasnt working. So we tried the cot. It started off well. I gradually reduced support so often she was falling asleep just with a hand on her. I started trying morning naps in the cot and she was doing an hour. But now it is usually only 30 mins. I'm doing lunch naps in the sling so she gets a good 2 hours.
But now it's like I can't do anything. She wants me to cuddle her but then wont even settle like that. I then have to lay her down and sometimes she will settle and other times will cry again til I pick her up again. Last night I had an hour of screaming that i couldnt stop. On a good night she wakes 4 times. On a bad one could be 10.
We had a sleep consultant for our first and they said:
Go to a 2-3-4 routine doing whatever you need.to do to get good naps.
Night wean
Then gradual retreat and then once you've started do naps the same.
But I cant seem to night wean her..I'm broken from trying and failing. I cant keep doing sling naps, I have a toddler too.
I honestly want to hurt myself.
Then gradual retreat.