Over in www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3834408-To-not-upgrade-the-phone I had a post deleted, and another poster commented "you should be ashamed of yourself". I'm a bit aghast, as I certainly wouldn't have intended to say anything deserving of deletion or that comment... but buggered if I can remember exactly what I said, I thought it was something fairly innocuous about OP's kid being a CF and they can get a new phone when they can afford to pay for one.
So I went to see if I'd had a warning email. Not that I can find.
I had a think about this, and the situation is that I've had a comment deleted, replaced with the usual "Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.". But if I don't get any notification then
a) I only know that I've been deleted if I happen to go look at that page of the thread again, which is by no means guaranteed.
and
b) I have no idea what I said, so can't even learn from the chastisement.
I'm pretty sure this could be handled better so posters could learn from feedback rather than blithely continue to give offense.