This thread has been deleted at the OP's request. (We don't normally delete whole threads but we will do so when it is to protect a poster's privacy.)

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why does MNHQ do this when it's nothing to do with protecting a poster's privacy and all to do with them not liking the response their thread got?

Was it the nursery one?

Possibly because the OP messages them and claims that they are identifiable and they would rather err on the side of caution?

and what nursery one?

I have known MN to refuse to delete whole threads when requested for this very reason. So I would always assume that if the thread is deleted then the posters privacy really is an issue.

Why does it matter to you so much?

The nursery one was deleted because OP started two threads asking the same question and the second one was zapped.

i've reported my own OP to ask MNHQ to explain it to me.

no not the nursery one. i didn't know it had been deleted. sparked by another today but i've seen it a few times recently and it never seems to be consistent.

yes beertricks. that one.

I'm baffled by what thread I was looking at when I got that message. It's bothering me hugely that I can't remember.

I think this was about showing affection in front of DCs with a Dom/Sub theme. I only read page 1 and 2 of 5 but perhaps the OP was worried she could be identified. She was getting a hard time though.

If we're thinking of the same thread, then there are more identifiable things in the OP's previous posts then on today's one.

Was this the 'expressive' OP in relationships? I didn't see anything that could have identified her in her posts or the responses. Thread wasn't going her way though, quite rightly IMO.

I've seen tens of a few threads where the poster has not got answers they like and suddenly the thread is deleted to 'protect privacy'. Protect ego, more like, but there you go.

yes the 'expressive parents' one.

It does feel a bit like the poster wasn't getting the response she wanted. However it could be that the information in that thread plus information in previous threads made her identifiable.

Oh of course. I was reading it in the supermarket...leather, right?

Hmm.

That was a bloody worrying thread.

yes caja.

but not just that thread. i've seen it quite a few times recently. poster's privacy wasn't the reason i was expecting that particular thread to be zapped for. i'm guessing MNHQ aren't tied to any code of having to report what that OP admitted to, to any authorities?

Hi everyone,

We deleted that thread due to a combination of too much personal info from the OP, and we could see the thread descending into a bun fight - and overall we thought the nature of the thread wasn't really in the spirit of the site.

We should have been clearer with our deletion message though - and we can see why it would cause confusion - sorry.

People were talking about SS on the grounds that her hubby wears leather wrist bands at home as a sign of submission. Maybe Towers thought that threats of SS was a bit over the top given that she never said they had the whips out in front of the kids or anything like that.

Cross post with KateMumsnet.

Now a question for KateMumsnet. What about it wasn't in the spirit of the site? it was about parenting and you don't seem to think it was a bridge dweller?

I miss all the fun

Get your DP some leather wristbands Exit and start your own.