Desperate for Sex

[SpottyDottyBanana]

Do other woman think about sex a lot?

My partner is waiting for the snip. I’ve had a really bad experience with different forms of contraception, which has got worse since the recent birth of our second child so he decided to get the snip. We’re both allergic to latex and to be honest condoms are really shit!

Not having sex is driving me crazy it’s literally all I think about! I’m used to getting it twice a week. He’s scared to get me pregnant as we wouldn’t keep it so is staying away. We do lots of foreplay but to be honest sucking him off just makes me want him more. He is brilliant with his hands but it just isn’t the same and makes me want him more. So now my day is literally filled with me thinking about sex. Vivid fantasies. Sometimes not even with him.

Do other woman think like this and we just don’t talk about it? Or am I weird?

Yep. My DH has a low sex drive. We’ve not had sex since December and before then I think it was the summer 😫

I even dreamt about sex last night - two gay guys asked me to join them for a threesome 😆. I woke up before “anything happened” but they were both great kissers.

Oh my gosh! Has he always been like this? How do you cope? Do you ever think about cheating - I do, I don’t think I’d actually act on it. Just a fantasy. Do we all think like this?

Edited as I seen your second post. Gutted for you that you woke up! 😩 Wish my dreams were this fun!

My late husband died in October and about a month ago widows fire reignited my libido. Fortunately, I have an old friend that always liked me that I see on weekends to douse the fire (lives too far away for mid-week visits around work etc.) Waiting a week can be diffucult, depending on where I am in my cycle. So yes, I get like that too sometimes.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm really happy for you that you've found a solution for widows fire.

I understand that a vibe isn't quite enough mid week.

Sorry to hear about your husband. ❤️

Thank you ❤️

Thank you

If by 'vibe' you mean vibrator, I don't own one

Maybe invest in one then. It might help relieve the mid week tension.

Every woman should have at least one. I travel a lot for work and one goes everywhere with me.

Whilst I agree that every woman should have one….I’m not certain on the travelling with a vibe idea.

I travel with work a lot, and my bag gets pulled on about 40% of my trips. I’m not sure I have the guts to style it out. Particularly as I’m sometimes at security with colleagues.

I’ve had a bag checked a couple of times, l just have a small bullet vibey in my make up bag and always remove the battery. It has never individually got pulled out, but l’m not particularly bothered to be honest. I get your issue with colleagues though.

An electric tooth brush with a plastic head cover can perform a trick or 2.

There was a wonderful thread on here once (might be in Classics now) about how to make your own vibrator out of an electric toothbrush. You will need: Scissors; Sandpaper; Nail Polish and an hour or two of your time.

Overly complicated is not a good thing. Some vibes may look like a rocket but it is not rocket science. I know l was the one who mentioned the toothbrush, but it is really easier to spend a few pound in Boots.

I think the thread in question was intended to be lighthearted Starlight! (Worked pretty well though, by all accounts....) 😉

I’ll spare you the horrifying details, but I bear my scars from a single encounter. I regret it: and I wouldn’t do it again. The sex wasn’t worth it, and neither was the guy.

So now, yes; I think about going elsewhere but it stays in my head. My choices are to stay put and live with it or leave. I’m early 40s but it already feels too late to leave, and there’s other factors at play as always.

I just try not to think about it 😂

I don't travel much and its only sometimes I get like OP. Usually around ovulation. I can wait it out as my work is hectic so the weekdays feel quicker.

It’s a comfort thing. I come from the school of though that if you have an itch you scratch it.

Surely someone has made a commercially available kit for this?

No idea! But I can imagine that a Customs officer might advise you to buy a new toothbrush if he saw one like that in your luggage.....

Probably something I should be prepared for in the event I don't have any sex options for whatever reason.

I think this is very typical! I haven’t had sex since the beginning of the year and even though I’ve sworn off men for the moment I can’t help but want sex. Very frustrating!

I work in admin for a large distribution business near Bristol, a large female contingent.
My point to the OP and others,
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
The two common most heard complaint I hear from gals in the restaurant

1. Im not getting
2. Im not getting any

I can't quite believe what I've just read. Seriously?

I mean, who found this out? 🤣

If you want to find it, the thread in question was called "Home made vibrator tip - it is brilliant" and dates back to April 2015.

It'll make you smile! 😊