Hair Pulling during sex - is this commonly liked?

[Joey699]

Just to preface, I’m male.

My female partner likes her hair being pulled slightly during sex, at first I noticed she was pulling it herself, then she encouraged me too do it & we talked about what she liked etc & it’s all good 👍🏼

I have asked why she likes it, but she cannot really explain other than it feels good, which is fine by me.

so I suppose my question ( to a female audience), is , is this quite common thing for women to enjoy, it’s my first partner ( not had that many) , who has asked for / enjoyed this
just to add, it’s not really a “pull” as such- just some general pulling pressure if that makes sense

I love my hair being played with/brushed. I find it very sensual. I believe that is common

Gentle hair pulling during sex is just an extension (ha!) of that. With added power play dynamics

Same for me. But I don't want it every time we have sex, just now and again and he would only do it if I asked

I love it, can't explain it but it is a real turn on.

Yes I like it as well. Sometimes that is. I think it is something to do with being held captive or controlled rather than pain.
An ex used to enjoy some pain. I would bite at the base of his thumb the thick pad. Or his chest, enough to leave a big bruise.

I like it when he tugs my hair during sex or runs his fingers through it but not pulled as in hurts.

Definitely not!

…there is a fine line between being brutalised and dominated, hair pulling has to stay the right side of that, but I love the way it makes my spine tingle, the firm, desirous way a competent lover can put my head exactly where he wants it…
I also love my hair being gently played with.

I always assumed that I would hate it but the first time my hair was gripped with someone's big fingers through my curls and against my scalp... wowser. Agreed it's a sensual restraint thing, nothing to do with pulling really.

Oh yes. Definitely hair pulling - not hard enough to pull it out or sting though! Just a few gentle tugs. It’s nice if someone takes a bit of control…..: just go with the flow and see where you find yourself. Enjoy!

not my thing but if your oh enjoys it and you Don't mind doing it then I don't see any issue

i love it

@PermanentTemporary You said it right "with someone's big fingers through my curls and against my scalp... wowser. Agreed it's a sensual restraint thing, nothing to do with pulling really.

It's a no from me. Stroking my hair, running his hands through it, yes. Pulling my hair is in the same ball park as choking and slapping for me and not something I'd be at all comfortable with.

Loads of nerves I imagine is helping (being the boring reason) I love it it’s feels good and I just generally love my hair being played with. Love a good head massage

Thank you for all the comments and feedback, very interesting to read them al

Thank you, very interesting response, certainly something for me to consider.

Yes I like it
Years ago my USAF policeman lover would cuff my hands behind my back and pull my hair whilst in “that” position so was supporting my weight somewhat as my hands were otherwise engaged lol
Certainly was erotic as he has a mirror at the end of the bed and I could view everything x

Yes, same for me, I love it. Definitely nice if someone takes a bit of control.

Just make sure you pull gently but firmly while holding it close to the scalp, as a fist full. Pull from the end and it feels like more of a school playground jolting tug!

People are going to call me a killjoy here, but l’ve been shot down in flames before, l can live with it.

Before you pull anyone’s hair, make sure you have consent to do so. If anyone pulled my hair they would be on a flight through the bedroom window.

Thank you, but she was the one encouraging me to do it .

My FWBs have absolutely loved having a hair pulling doggie fuck. It arches the back and intensifies the stroke of the pens along the top of the vaginal wall. By 'hair pulling', I mean bunched into a knot and used as a handle - and absolutely not pulled from anywhere other than the base of the scalp.

Not for me.
i remember asking a lover to be a bit rougher with me and was appalled when he tugged sharply and painfully on my hair!
We had to redefine our terms…

Always, always ask for consent before doing anything like hair pulling.

The correct technique is to keep your hand near the scalp… don’t pull on the ends.