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HELP WITH ANAL

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JDR97 · 05/10/2022 19:00

First of I'd just like to say I'm not great at writing and spelling soplease don't troll me it's just unneeded,had it before and on here and it's just not nice!

Anyway Me and my boyfriend have been together 10 years and enjoy anal probably every 2 months ish I enjoy it so much but the first 30 seconds of pain till I relex really puts me off...I've been looking in to more prep work to make it a bit more smoother should we say but we had a bad experience about a year back were we put the anal beads in whilst we did a couple house chores until we went to do the deed and my bum had completely swallowed the lot pull cord aswell😬 fast forward to now where I'm thinking maybe stretch my bum with butt plugs but I'm terrified incase something like this happens again, how do you all go about it???

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randomusername02 · 05/10/2022 19:26

Take the first 30 secs of pain as my body telling me that nothing is supposed to go up there and pay heed to it?

B1rd · 05/10/2022 23:18

The secret is to massage the opening first. I've never been a great fan of anal. But there was one man who managed to relax me enough with his fingers that he just slid in. It took 20 minutes, but the feelings were amazing. Plenty of lube too.

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JDR97 · 06/10/2022 07:13

I've just ordered order a couple of different lubes and a plug that has a big handle on it for my peice of mind😂😂..never really thought about massaging it first,I'll be trying that!!

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MrsBrollie · 06/10/2022 09:05

I like to think of my self as very experienced when it comes to anal sex, my husband and I do anal sex at least 4 times per week and have done so for the last 5 years or so. The biggest tip I can give is to make sure you are gently pushing out while he is entering you this will really help your sphincter relax.

Butt plugs are very good for relaxing the internal sphincter and that’s the one that is slightly more difficult to relax. Also feels great doing PIV with a butt plug in. As other have said as long as you have a plug with a wide base it’s very unlikely it will be swallowed up

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JDR97 · 06/10/2022 12:10

Does anyone douche? I've bought one to try aswell

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MrsBrollie · 06/10/2022 16:17

I have used a douche bulb and a shower enema in the past, I don’t really see a need for them, my husband enjoys helping with them ( he likes any excuse to stick something up my bum sorry tmi lol). If you do use them make sure at least an hour between using it and penetration I always find there is residual water and it needs a chance to make its way out.

namechangesexboard · 06/10/2022 20:25

@MrsBrollie never really heard of someone having anal as frequently as this. Do you mind if I ask if it has changed your sphincter muscle at all and if you notice any change in bowel movements etc?

MrsBrollie · 06/10/2022 21:22

I’m sure we are definitely in the minority by a long way with the amount we do anal, but there are probably gay men that do it as much as us. It’s just what works for us and we both love it.

Absolutely no change at all. Your sphincter is a muscle like any other in that it can be trained. As much as we do anal, I still struggle to take slightly larger toys and don’t really enjoy the sensation of being stretched.

1245J · 07/10/2022 06:57

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Brillantine · 07/10/2022 07:06

MrsBrollie · 06/10/2022 09:05

I like to think of my self as very experienced when it comes to anal sex, my husband and I do anal sex at least 4 times per week and have done so for the last 5 years or so. The biggest tip I can give is to make sure you are gently pushing out while he is entering you this will really help your sphincter relax.

Butt plugs are very good for relaxing the internal sphincter and that’s the one that is slightly more difficult to relax. Also feels great doing PIV with a butt plug in. As other have said as long as you have a plug with a wide base it’s very unlikely it will be swallowed up

Pbi
I have seen plugs in flexible silicone, metal and glass- are any better for wearing during piv?

MrsBrollie · 07/10/2022 08:28

I have used all kinds, but I prefer the flexible kind for using during PIV, I think my husband does too.

We have a glass one that is slightly curved on the end and has a ring for a handle, it’s amazing to have inside and the twisted round while receiving oral, I tend to orgasm and squirt with in minutes.The glass and metal ones really feel very solid and kind of rubbing up ,well, a piece of metal. The metal ones with a jewel look pretty though, my husband loves the idea of me secretly wearing one out of the house to do shopping or some other mundane chores but I just don’t have the courage to do it.

Joey69 · 07/10/2022 08:51

My exPartner used to like wearing a butt plug during PIV sex, she also liked to use the silicone ones during sex as they moved with her, whereas she said the metal / glass ones could pop out,

Andypandy799 · 07/10/2022 17:37

@1245J just spat my tea out thanks 😆😄

Catzlife · 08/10/2022 11:29

It is a lot easier with modern diesel trains.

I'm calling BS as modern trains are ellectric :)

WalfordBarbwireFence · 18/02/2023 02:19

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SchoolTripDrama · 18/02/2023 02:52

MrsBrollie · 06/10/2022 09:05

I like to think of my self as very experienced when it comes to anal sex, my husband and I do anal sex at least 4 times per week and have done so for the last 5 years or so. The biggest tip I can give is to make sure you are gently pushing out while he is entering you this will really help your sphincter relax.

Butt plugs are very good for relaxing the internal sphincter and that’s the one that is slightly more difficult to relax. Also feels great doing PIV with a butt plug in. As other have said as long as you have a plug with a wide base it’s very unlikely it will be swallowed up

I'm sorry but anal 4 times a week? Sounds like your husband could be on the wrong bus??

Gribbit987 · 18/02/2023 03:06

MrsBrollie · 06/10/2022 21:22

I’m sure we are definitely in the minority by a long way with the amount we do anal, but there are probably gay men that do it as much as us. It’s just what works for us and we both love it.

Absolutely no change at all. Your sphincter is a muscle like any other in that it can be trained. As much as we do anal, I still struggle to take slightly larger toys and don’t really enjoy the sensation of being stretched.

amp.theguardian.com/society/2022/aug/11/rise-in-popularity-of-anal-sex-has-led-to-health-problems-for-women

Men and women’s bodies are not equally capable of tolerating anal.

The above article is pretty sobering…

MaireadMcSweeney · 18/02/2023 05:00

SchoolTripDrama · 18/02/2023 02:52

I'm sorry but anal 4 times a week? Sounds like your husband could be on the wrong bus??

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Don't be ridiculous
anal is amazing. Liking anal doesn't make a man gay. Am I a gay man too because I love it? (Hint, I'm not)

MaireadMcSweeney · 18/02/2023 05:01

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Just like any sex act between a couple the key is communication. If she wants you to do something that you don't enjoy (go in dry) and 'bitches' when you don't do it then she's not a respectful and decent partner.

Finallygotpartnertoagreetotryplug · 18/02/2023 06:08

But plug, but plug but plug! It’s the only way forward. It took us ages to get there too but it’s amazing! Loads of different sizes and if you are that way inclined you can wear them out in public with only you and your dp knowing. Lots of lube too

HerbalTeaAndCake · 18/02/2023 06:15

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dontholdback1 · 18/02/2023 06:23

@HerbalTeaAndCake I love you Grin

ScottBakula · 18/02/2023 06:24

@HerbalTeaAndCake umm is that a recipe for lube ?

Partnerfinallytriedplug · 18/02/2023 06:31

If only you had put a recipe for cake :) everyone loves eating cake…
incidentally, relèvent to this threat, at uni we once experimented with food and food products. I would NOT recommend.

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