Sex clubs

[Battytwatty]

DH and I want to spice up,our sex life and are tempted to join a club that’s in the next town to us. I was wondering if anyone on here is a member of a club like this and what we could expect? This is all very new to us and we have had big discussions about what we are comfortable doing etc.

Thank you

@Melkam

I have always dreamed of doing something like this but i dont think my fella would be interested. I get excited at the thought of sleeping with another man (I only had one previous partner before current one) as its been a long time and as im now a middle aged woman im not sure any men would find me attractive. Should I go with a female friend to one of these clubs for a giggle? like on a girls night out? ...... would anyone on here take me?...

Just like the outside world you'll always find someone that's attracted to you. In many ways, it's really just like a night out except there's rooms that people can go off to if they hit it off. In the main, single guys get the etiquette and they may ask you to find a room after you've chatted but understand a "no" or a "not right now". You can certainly stay in the social areas, but there is likely to be a dress code if you want to go for a wander. If you're not sure, don't. You can always return.

Can anyone point me in the direction the north clubs? I joined KK but al down south.

Something me and DP interested in, we cam'd with another couple and both found it incredibly hot. When it came to meeting them face to face I found the pressure too much. I didn't want to go and feel obliged.

Hence thinking a club would be nice. We could just sit and drink or go further, no pressure either way.

Also not a snob at all but I really wouldn't like something tacky, no Blackpool b&b type of place. Not being offensive here I hope it would just make it feel seedy

@GentlemanJay could you pm me with details of places in the North West you know and think are good? Potential newbie here - thanks!

I don't know how to PM on here????

No worries - I'll message you!

I've messaged you.

if you join fabswingers you can search for clubs and read their reviews. Good luck OP!

DP and I are really tempted to try this. I have literally no idea where to start looking for clubs though ?
I quite like the idea of camming/messaging with another couple. DP loves the idea of being watched. Where do we find people though ?
I know nothing of these ways lol

They are absolutely not sex clubs. They are clubs for people in the swinging lifestyle to meet, play, and get to know each other. IMHO Sex clubs are where you pay for sex with someone.

No, they aren't always super glamorous, and yes, you will find a complete cross-section of the human race in them, but most of the people in them have been swingers for years, and enjoy the frisson that sharing themselves with someone that isn't their partner a huge turn on, and a part of their sex life.

Yes, on "single guys" night, you may be hassled, and followed around by guys who are just there for a shag, (remember, no means no!) but equally, there are single swingers that are decent, genuine, intelligent and articulate. Sorting the wheat from the chaff is the hard part!

You may not see anyone that takes your fancy, you may go on a night where there are three other people there, you may get really lucky and find lifelong friends.

Go with no expectations, relax, have a drink, chat, and see where the evening takes you.

We’ve just started out with this lifestyle and are keen to hear more thoughts on it. @Melkam please DM me if you want to know more

Spot on.