Excessive squirting and loud sex!

[Campzilla]

This may well be a non- problem but I’d like advice from more experienced people.

I’ve not long come out of a 20years r/ship and now have a new bf. The sex is mind blowing (not complaining!). The orgasms are out of this world and I’ve been squirting like I never have had before. My issue is that I now seem to be able to do it with very little effort. I squirt on anticipation of him entering me, I squirt when masturbating. During sex it happens a lot! I’m not complaining as such (allow the sheets need washed a lot!) but it’s just so new for me that I was wondering if this was normal?!!

Also, does anyone have any strategies / suggestions for quieter sex? The noise I make is ridiculous and I can’t seem to control it! I’m doubting the neighbours would hear as i live in a detached house but wondering how we’ll ever manage to have sex in a hotel room or another persons house!

As a said, these are probably non issues but until now I hadn’t realised what I was missing out on and it’s all quite new! Thanks

@YellowPetal Yes I’m glad I posted as it’s definitely making me appreciate just how amazing it all is. I’m an over thinker and need to learn to just enjoy things in the moment!

I genuinely didn’t know what I was missing out on. In the past I’ve thought of myself as having a low sex drive, I could give or take it. Now my sex drive is through the roof!

@Mxflamingnoravera I love this! What a great story. It sounds amazing.
The exploration of it all is just wonderful. It’s lovely to feel so safe with someone to trust them with the intimacy and the vulnerability of it.
I’ve never tried a ball gag but I honestly won’t be ruling it out !!

Oh @Mxflamingnoravera, that sounds amazing! And you have given me hope.

I’m 51 and have been worried that my libido might disappear in a few years, when I’m enjoying myself so much after such horrendous domestic abuse previously. (Absolutely hilarious that my ex narc used to always go on about me being frigid. 🤣🤣🤣).

Yep I go to another planet and zone out. I actually find it quite difficult to function afterwards, can’t string words together no brain cells left 🤪

I always laugh afterwards too, like a complete lunatic. At least my lover is used to that now. The brain is a funny thing.

I agree, my entire psyche has been awakened, I think it’s a combo of age and timing, for me, and expertise, patience, consideration and intuition from my lover, amazing sexual chemistry and a deep emotional connection.

I’m so grateful I got to experience this magnificence, I hope everyone gets to at least once in their lives.

At least we don’t have to worry about the dreaded vaginal atrophy, with all the blood flowing to the right places on a regular basis! 😉

Shut your windows and play loud music

I'm loud too.

Isn't squirting just peeing though? There have been studies and theres no glands located in that area that would be able to hold excessive amounts of 'squirt fluid'..only the bladder..studies have shown that even if you wee before sex the bladder can fill with urine rapidly during sex and therefore when you squirt its actually just diluted wee. If you really are 'squirting' constantly, without even being touched or any/little stimulation, I'd be concerned it was an incontinence or pelvic floor issue. It might be worth getting it checked out if it keeps happening.

@Kittykat93 squirting is not "just" peeing, it's a release of fluid after incredible arousal, yes it comes from the urethra, but the sensation is not "just peeing".

It's very dismissive to describe this let down in such a way and suggests that perhaps you've not experienced it? Perhaps you have but it's happened without the arousal? If that's the case then perhaps for you, it was just pee. But for me, it's not. Hth?

So why have the scientific studies on this come back and said that squirt fluid is mainly urine or just diluted urine? No need to get defensive about it, I have actually squirted before a few times, I'm not against it if people like it of course..I'm just saying I'm also saying if the op is literally 'squirting' all the time with no stimulation it may be worth checking it's not a pelvic floor or incontinence issue. Hth;)

@Kittykat93

So why have the scientific studies on this come back and said that squirt fluid is mainly urine or just diluted urine? No need to get defensive about it, I have actually squirted before a few times, I'm not against it if people like it of course..I'm just saying I'm also saying if the op is literally 'squirting' all the time with no stimulation it may be worth checking it's not a pelvic floor or incontinence issue. Hth;)

Woman that squirt think themselves magical beings yet all it is is a bad pelvic floor then, sooooo.....

There could be truth in that. Would be interesting to find out the science behind this once and for all.

It's also quite interesting a lot of the women saying they can now squirt all of a sudden are older with a weaker pelvic floor, some even a couple on this thread have said they have a prolapse..hence why I'm thinking it might not be a 'good' thing and may actual be something that needs medical attention.

By the way I'm really not trying to put women down for enjoying sexual pleasure of course not, if you enjoy it keep doing it! But you cannot act horrified and deny that the liquid is at least partly urine, because unfortunately every study on this I've read have concluded that it is.

Squirting is an expulsion of urine from the bladder during sex, it’s why many women after having children are able to squirt because the pelvic floor muscles become weaker.

@StarryNight13

Squirting is an expulsion of urine from the bladder during sex, it’s why many women after having children are able to squirt because the pelvic floor muscles become weaker.

Thank you! 😁

Squirting is an actual ‘thing’ and it comes from the Skene’s glands, which are near the urethra. The glands fill with fluid when sexually aroused.

www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/what-is-an-orgasm/

I don’t know why women tend to squirt more as they get older, but it’s definitely a thing.

@Whatliesbeneath707

Squirting is an actual ‘thing’ and it comes from the Skene’s glands, which are near the urethra. The glands fill with fluid when sexually aroused.

www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/what-is-an-orgasm/

I don’t know why women tend to squirt more as they get older, but it’s definitely a thing.

You're missing the point ! The glands youre talking about are very small, and can not hold much fluid at all. When people are talking about squirting and gushing litres of fluid half way across the room and soaking the bed this is urine or at least mostly urine. Its just not possible for all that fluid to be stored in the skenes glands. A quick google search will tell you that. Also op is saying shes squirting at the mere thought of sex, this is not an orgasm!

I have had my pevic floor dscribed as "formidable" by a gyne so it is not a weak pelvic floor in my case.

While we are on the topic, has anyone come across men who squirt? I mean men who gush fluid (urine or otherwise) from a properly erect cock in response to very concentrated attention to the glans/frenulum?

Asking for a friend, who has recently discovered that this happens to him and describes a whole body sensation which causes a release that does not feel like pee and does not smell like pee but it is quite a fountain and only occurs from this type of stimulation.

@Mxflamingnoravera

I have had my pevic floor dscribed as "formidable" by a gyne so it is not a weak pelvic floor in my case.

Doesn't mean it's not urine coming out 🤷‍♀️

Interesting read...
www.killingkittens.com/blog/squirting/

I know it's unproven either way but I don't believe that large amounts of "squirt" are mostly made up of pee. In my experience, it doesn't feel like peeing, and it doesn't look, smell or taste like pee.

I'd suggest that anyone who enjoys squirting should continue to do it. Please ignore comments about needing medical attention. And anyone who doesn't like it.... well perhaps don't fuck people who squirt then..? 🤷‍♀️

The thread has taken an unexpected turn!

@Kittykat93 i didn’t say I squirted at the thought of sex. I said in anticipation of my BF entering me, so during sex and already massively turned on. And it’s not litres of fluid

For those concerned , I have saw the GP about my mild prolapse and they weren’t concerned so if there are benefits from it I won’t be denying myself them!

@PinotPony this is a great article - thanks for posting it!! It’s cheered me up again !!

🤣 I’m always a little amused (laughing my head off) when someone posts about squirting, because inevitably the discussion always leads to the debate about the squirt fluid being pee. And always sounds like the poster stating that squirt is actually just pee.is a little disgruntled... possibly jealous? 🤔

As above posters have mentioned re skenes glands and it being urine...

From my (not extensive research, because hey, let’s face it, the squirt is AWESOME), ...as I understand it, the fluid comes from the same place that makes urine, but before the urea and whatever else is added to it to make urine that then gets held in your bladder..?..(dunno , I’m not a biology student ).

All I know is that it doesn’t smell like wee, it smells exactly like cum/vagina smell.... (cos sometimes I do leak wee from being older and yes that stinks like wee...luckily this is only a tiny bit, not a flood LOL)

AND it doesn’t come out from the wee hole (in my case anyway) ... it comes from somewhere clitoral though, near gspot I think although hard to say as I’m normally distracted by that stage. AND as mentioned previously, the flood comes from vagina area..pretty sure my wee doesn’t come out my vagina LOL 😆

FWIW @Kittykat93... I’m 51 now, but I’ve been squirting and having multiple orgasms since I was 19, when I had a partner who knew which buttons to push (or should I say which taps to turn on). Not all partners have been able to do this though.

But I definitely don’t think I had a weak pelvic floor at 19yrs old. 🤣🤣🤣

I will say though, Thank heavens for incontinence bedding! They really do a brilliant job at soaking up the cum, sorry wee, I mean cum! 😉

Also, would like to say, that I’ve always admired women that can orgasm without the squirt, because I can’t do this. I either get the fluid release or I can’t orgasm, just get to the edge and just end up feeling unreleased and frustrated.

So while I enjoy the squirting because the orgasm itself is such a fantastic release, the squirting itself I find is overrated because it’s so damn messy! So I never really understood why there was such a drama about it. I can see it’s a spectacle from the partner’s perspective but for me, it’s just a very messy annoying but wonderful experience. 😊

I'm a squirty person and always have been since being sexually active for the last 30 years or so (49 now)

No I've not got a weak pelvic floor, nor a prolapse. I don't know about doing it on demand but just anticipation and some touching will absolutely make it happen for me. I don't believe it's wee either - it's a completely different viscosity/smell/feeling. I think anybody who has always had it happen knows the difference between a wee and squirt. It's definitely warm but not as warm as wee too.

Husband loves it, as you can imagine.

It's not something I can conjour up and it hasn't happened with everyone, but it does happen 9 times out of 10 with DH.

Kittykat93 I am not sure what point you are trying to make? Does it matter what it is if we like it?

@Mxflamingnoravera

Kittykat93 I am not sure what point you are trying to make? Does it matter what it is if we like it?

I also squirt sometimes and enjoy it ffs! I'm not trying to make any point or be a dick to anyone, all I'm saying is the studies have shown it is likely to be all or at least partly urine..no need to be so defensive about it honestly ..I'm out now