Harry Potter and oral sex

[Danceswithwhippets]

Bloke here.

I’ve been following the Is there such a thing as a bad blow job thread, which is so good that someone should summarise it, print it, and leave a copy at the foot of my bed. Unless posters like @Beenawhile1 and @TopTips4TopTips have done this already.

Could we have an equivalent thread for women receiving oral please? I could do with some top tips, being hopeful of my sex life reviving itself with the lockdown easing.

I enjoy giving it, and if I have a complaint it’s that women often give zero input at how I’m doing, they expect me to be a mind reader eg lying back silent and rigid without giving advice. And how some women just don’t like it at all, but for others its God’s gift.

A side question, do women giving it to women do it better and if so is it for the obvious reason?

Another side question, what do people call it as an equivalent to blowjob? Cunnilingus sounds like something out of an X rated Harry Potter.

Hum.
You might get a WTF look to start with, but get it right and it's like you've got a built in vibrator.
(You'll probably get more conventional answers.)

First side question - can’t comment as I’m a male
Second side question - it’s either eating pussy or simply going down
In my experience, it’s ALL about giving pleasure. Taking time, a little teasing (lots of kissing, massaging breasts etc.) and being gentle to begin with.... even enjoying removing knickers.
Communication is key.... almost asking for permission to kiss, lick and probe with tongue and fingers. Eye contact looking up to see her eyes and face to check I’m getting a good reaction.... varying using my hands to touch breasts, thighs and bum.
Providing pleasure is the sole aim, and hopefully an orgasm (or two three...) may follow.
I love it when a partner throws wide open her legs to “invite” me in, and equally when she holds her pussy lips apart for me to start.
It’s great when I get asked to start fingering as well, and hearing the sound of a sloppy wet fanny.... and then holding and hugging afterwards.
It does require patience and practice

Female here, I’ve never given, or received oral from a woman, so I can’t comment on that.
For me, I don’t like oral to happen too quickly, I like the build up, lots of kissing, his hand stroking my inner thighs, teasing on top of knickers, then when I do receive it, I like him to start off by circling his tongue on my clit, then after some time, I like a finger being used inside me and most of all, take your time!
As with everything, all women like different things, so what works for one, may not work for another. Also if she doesn’t like oral, be sure to use your fingers to massage her clit instead.

Tbh, and I don’t mean this unkindly, if the women are ‘lying back silent and rigid’ there is a good chance they don’t like what you are doing....

I would try different things and pay attention to how the woman is responding to you e.g. squirming, breathing changes, hip movement etc.

Everyone is different, I don’t think you can ever have a definitive list because everyone likes different things, the PP above being a good example as they like a finger, i on the other hand hate fingers!
I do agree with a build up first though and I also agree most of your time should be centred around the clit.

Too tip from me would be to get on your knees at the side of the bed that way you avoid a crick in your neck 😉
If you're good then she might buy you a cushion.

Too tip from me would be to get on your knees at the side of the bed that way you avoid a crick in your neck
Yeah but then you get pain in your knees!!

Then take your own cushion ... like a pro 👍

Other expressions I've heard used are:

Kiss me where I'm curly (pretty old school given the tendency for grooming these days)

Go downtown

Or one which I mentioned before and had commented on 'would you like to eat what my mum made"

Don't just lick, suck the clit, and use pressure.

“Would you like to eat what my mum made!” That’s so cringe!

I always knew it as, ‘licking out!’

My BF is good at this and has made me orgasm but I do prefer it when he doesn't go down straight away. Sometimes I think he does it as a way or 'warming me up' but actually it then works the opposite and ends up over stimulating me.

I have to also confess I'm terrible at communication. I find the whole making noises very 'porny' and I feel stupid. So although I'm enjoying it I'm pretty quiet...

I've been with a woman. The one difference to what I've had with a man was that she did smacking kisses on the whole of the vulva. Without going into to much detail, imagine putting everything in your mouth at once and doing a sort of suction kiss repeatedly. It stimulates the clit, but not directly.

I don't know how much of this stuff can be generalised, but will describe what works for me.

Personally, I don't like too much saliva or a big sloppy flat tongue. Feels like a labrador going at me and I don't like the sensation of his saliva running down between my bumcheeks.

I like a more pointy tongue giving focused attention to my clit, plus the urethral opening and surrounding area. My clit is hooded, so I need that pulled back to get maximum sensation.

The left lower qudrant of the clit is most sensitive. Tim Ferris talks about this in his book the 4 Hour Body (I know, weird). I checked on it myself, it's true.

For me, penetration plus oral intensifies the pleasure. I like fingers or a toy in my vagina or, even better, arsehole.

Hope that helps.

Oh dear...
Wish I'd not clicked in this thread🤣🤣
You all desperate or really jacking in technique?

Lacking 😊

@Rocaille

Your lower left or the lickers lower left?

Just making a mental note.

Sorry - meant to say the UPPER, not lower quadrant.

He says the right spot is about 1-2 o'clock, from your perspective.

So that's your right, her left.

@lazee

Oh dear... Wish I'd not clicked in this thread🤣🤣 You all desperate or really jacking in technique?

Eh? You know this is the sex board right?

Hi!!! OP of Ultimate BJ thread here, ready to return the favour!
🎉💗

1. Enthusiasm. Tell me how much you want to do it, how much you love doing it to me, how you can't get enough. 1b. Text me or leave a voice memo explicitly telling me to look forward to you doing this. Build my expectations. Tell me to shower because you have a treat for me.

1. Ask me to direct you/feel free to advise.

1. Tease me. Lick my breasts first. Lick me on the way down. Kiss me everywhere.

1. Tell me I look fucking phenomenal, and that my /insert choice of words here/ looks delicious and tastes incredible.

1. Behave like you HAVE to devour me THIS INSTANT, as well as regularly.

1. Make noises like I'm delectable down there.

1. I'm totally hair-free, so feel free to kiss my Mound of Venus like you love me there too.

1. Tease me with kisses and tantalising licks all around the yoni area.

1. Spread my outer labia and use the width of your tongue to lick me from the base to the clitoral area. Like a lollipop. Do this several times.

10. Encircle my clitoral area for the main part. Flick your tongue over. Lots. No rush. Do it for HOURS. Circle, flick, circle, flick, flutter, circle etc. Build me up slowly. If I come, wait a moment then lick me more.

11. Caress the entire area with your tongue. Kiss and lick like you're french kissing my mouth, no expectations of my coming, just lick me there because that alone feels sensational to me. Gently graze me with your teeth. Mainly outer labia and mound area. Also inner thighs and groin.

12. Worship me.

13. Worship my nether regions.

14. Do it again.

I'm not keen on fingers, I don't really like any fingers inside me. Just use them to hold my labia out.

15. Kiss me afterwards. Tell me again how phenomenal and delicious I taste. New OH told me he didn't wash his face afterwards as he liked the feeling and scent of me lingering. That was hot to hear.

16. Buy me pretty lingerie. Sometimes with a cut-out crotch area.

17. Don't always accept oral in return, for the session. Just indulge and spoil me and let me bask. Do it several times, with no expectations of having the favour returned. Occasionally tell me you are devoting three/four/22 whatever hours solely on licking/sucking me there (licking of tits included).

18. Occasionally, offer to finger my ass. Inside. Lube or spit first.
    And grab my arse to hoik me up, pull me in, make me feel how much you need to ram me into your face. Submerge your face into me like you can't get enough of me.

19. Offer to let me ride your face (you on your back).

20. Do 69 sometimes.

21. Suck, pull, just go for it.

22. Tell me you fucking love me. Only if you do, though. Failing that, tell me you love fucking me.

Eat. Lick. Suck. Repeat.

Link to BJ thread:
🍆
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex/4198787-How-to-give-the-ultimate-BJ

I'm not bothered about eye contact. I do occasionally like to watch him work, but usually I prefer to lie back and enjoy.

Have fun! Report back here!!!

I don’t like eye contact - feels like they’re a dog wanting to be patted on the head and asked who’s a good boy.

@BeardieWeirdie

I don’t like eye contact - feels like they’re a dog wanting to be patted on the head and asked who’s a good boy.

😂😂😂

@TopTips4TopTips

Hi!!! OP of Ultimate BJ thread here, ready to return the favour! 🎉💗

1. Enthusiasm. Tell me how much you want to do it, how much you love doing it to me, how you can't get enough. 1b. Text me or leave a voice memo explicitly telling me to look forward to you doing this. Build my expectations. Tell me to shower because you have a treat for me.

1. Ask me to direct you/feel free to advise.

1. Tease me. Lick my breasts first. Lick me on the way down. Kiss me everywhere.

1. Tell me I look fucking phenomenal, and that my /insert choice of words here/ looks delicious and tastes incredible.

1. Behave like you HAVE to devour me THIS INSTANT, as well as regularly.

1. Make noises like I'm delectable down there.

1. I'm totally hair-free, so feel free to kiss my Mound of Venus like you love me there too.

1. Tease me with kisses and tantalising licks all around the yoni area.

1. Spread my outer labia and use the width of your tongue to lick me from the base to the clitoral area. Like a lollipop. Do this several times.

10. Encircle my clitoral area for the main part. Flick your tongue over. Lots. No rush. Do it for HOURS. Circle, flick, circle, flick, flutter, circle etc. Build me up slowly. If I come, wait a moment then lick me more.

11. Caress the entire area with your tongue. Kiss and lick like you're french kissing my mouth, no expectations of my coming, just lick me there because that alone feels sensational to me. Gently graze me with your teeth. Mainly outer labia and mound area. Also inner thighs and groin.

12. Worship me.

13. Worship my nether regions.

14. Do it again.

I'm not keen on fingers, I don't really like any fingers inside me. Just use them to hold my labia out.

15. Kiss me afterwards. Tell me again how phenomenal and delicious I taste. New OH told me he didn't wash his face afterwards as he liked the feeling and scent of me lingering. That was hot to hear.

16. Buy me pretty lingerie. Sometimes with a cut-out crotch area.

17. Don't always accept oral in return, for the session. Just indulge and spoil me and let me bask. Do it several times, with no expectations of having the favour returned. Occasionally tell me you are devoting three/four/22 whatever hours solely on licking/sucking me there (licking of tits included).

18. Occasionally, offer to finger my ass. Inside. Lube or spit first.
    And grab my arse to hoik me up, pull me in, make me feel how much you need to ram me into your face. Submerge your face into me like you can't get enough of me.

19. Offer to let me ride your face (you on your back).

20. Do 69 sometimes.

21. Suck, pull, just go for it.

22. Tell me you fucking love me. Only if you do, though. Failing that, tell me you love fucking me.

Eat. Lick. Suck. Repeat.

Link to BJ thread:
🍆
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex/4198787-How-to-give-the-ultimate-BJ

I'm not bothered about eye contact. I do occasionally like to watch him work, but usually I prefer to lie back and enjoy.

Have fun! Report back here!!!

Adding.

Do insert your tongue into my vagina. In and out and round and round.

And also, tell me earlier in the day that you're going to make me come tonight by licking me out, and you can't wait. Or promise me a weekend of it.

3. Tease me. Lick my breasts first
Suck and bite them aswell

9. Spread my outer labia and use the width of your tongue to lick me from the base to the clitoral area. Like a lollipop. Do this several times
Agree with this

10. Encircle my clitoral area for the main part. Flick your tongue over. Lots. No rush. Do it for HOURS. Circle, flick, circle, flick, flutter, circle etc. Build me up slowly
This too

I'm not keen on fingers, I don't really like any fingers inside me
Me neither

18. Occasionally, offer to finger my ass. Inside. Lube or spit first* Not for me!

I don’t like eye contact - feels like they’re a dog wanting to be patted on the head and asked who’s a good boy
I hate eye contact aswell.
Men seem to love it, can’t do a BJ without DH moving the covers to watch, I find eye contact so awkward and weird!

The nips, not the actual breast of course.
Incase that wasn’t obvious

If it's a turn-in for him, I'll do face-sitting or 69s, but these positions do absolutely nothing for me: the angles are all wrong.

Similarly, tongue in pussy feels pointless as it's never going to be long enough to hit the right spots.

But I do sometimes like pressure applied to my perineum, and/or teasing of my pussy/arse hole with his fingers.

Most annoying thing ever is when he changes what he's doing - speed, intensity, whatever - just when I'm about to come. When I'm on the brink is not the time to switch things up!!

I agree with previous posters: pull me in close and tell me I look/smell/taste like a goddess. Can't overstate how important this bit is.