How long does it take your male partner to cum?

[Quirrelsotherface]

My partner is seconds, literally. I am at the point where I just don't want to have sex as the penetration is important to my experience and it's over almost before it starts. We've been together years and I am just bored of it, although I feel like a bitch saying it. It also can never be quick motion because that makes the experience even shorter, like 5 seconds. Just interested in other experiences and any advice to make it last longer. It's making me miserable.

Just to let you know I am a man. Sounds to me as though your DP is suffering from premature ejaculation. I take between about 2 and 5 minutes after penetration begins before I orgasm....although it varies....sometimes I do not ejaculate if we have had sex within the past couple of hours...I'm past 50. If your man let's go within seconds then I'd say premature ejaculation is the issue. Plenty around On the internet on the subject. If your man is less than around 30 or 40 then try masturbating him to orgasm. Wait an hour and then have sex again including penetrative sex and he will probably last longer the second time around. If you use condoms for sexual well being there are condoms with a very small amount of substance (usually lidocaine) in them that will just reduce the physical stimulation your partner feels and make him less prone to come. if you don't use condoms then just using a standard one may be the answer as they do reduce the sensations he will feel And hopefully mean he will last longer. And if it remains an issue seek a consultation with your GP or sexual health specialist. It can be sorted but needs both of you to talk and him to be willing to sort.....and I'm sure he will be equally desperate to sort the issue....good luck.

If we haven't had any for a few days he won't last long, maybe 5 mins tops. Normally he'll last about 10 to 15 mins of penetration but he stops himself from cumming faster by slowing the pace and changing position.

Takes him about 20 seconds. Because he's been awful and he knows v lucky every time he gets to have sex with me. So he's super happy.

I had the same with previous husband.

Apparently it's v nice inside me. ; )

Guy here, It can be anything from about 7 minutes to over 20, Used to be lot quicker in the early years but now I just cant manage quickies for my own orgasm. tbh, over the last few years Ive found it easily to orgasm quicker if its by hand or oral than actual PIV.

About 20 mins but can vary this quite easily. A little tickle of his balls and whisper in his ear and I can make him cum very very quickly

I don't think it is PE as there have been times he lasted longer so not sure it's an actual medical problem but I guess I can't be certain. sorry if tmi but he's never been able to do it really quickly and last couple of years as my kids have got older my sex drive has gone through the roof and I'd like it this way more. Whilst it's not been a problem in the past I feel now there's a disparity and I actually find it quite depressing. I'm reading stories on here about orgasms through PIV which sounds amazing but sounds like it needs a bit of work from him and I don't think we'll ever get to that level. I'm thinking is this it?! Thanks for all the opinions, it's good to have something to compare to and not something I'd discuss with friends.

It varies here, there are a lot of factors....quicky whilst the kids are awake (we can do one in a few minutes, super turned on by lots of foreplay (2-5 minutes), standard vanilla with short foreplay.....5-20 minutes.

As I said too many variables.

Does your partner know you aren’t satisfied? Does he give good head? Does he ever take your needs into account?

20 minutes to 3 hours. It varies, but seconds, whether you or him recognise it or not, is not normal and sounds like PE. If you really feel that it isn't PE and he just can't be bothered to last longer then he's just a lousy and selfish shag IMO. PE sounds preferable and can be dealt with.

Usually takes DH ten minutes to ejaculate. No such thing as a quickie. Would love one where it lasted just a few minutes in the bathroom and job done but never going to happen as he takes too long.

My DP can cum on demand, he can last long or it can be over quick.

My ex used to have 2 thrusts and had to stop incase he came. We split up before I could do anything about it but there is stuff on the internet.
www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex/better-sex-for-him/delay-spray-cream/p/exs-endurance-delay-spray-50ml/52438.html

The reviews on this are good and hilarious

You don't need sprays, you want him to learn more control.

There are some good lessons on this, amongst much more, in Bernie Zilbergeld's "Men and Sex" or "The New Male Sexuality" (2nd edition of the book). There's almost always a second-hand copy of one or the other for 1p+postage on Amazon.

@blowinahoolie

Usually takes DH ten minutes to ejaculate. No such thing as a quickie. Would love one where it lasted just a few minutes in the bathroom and job done but never going to happen as he takes too long.

Ten minutes is too long?

DP takes as long as he wants as he can hold off for ever if he decides to. Never quicker than ten minutes.

OP, does he last any longer if you go on top? Most men can last longer that way and some say they don't come in that position at all, in which case you can have fun proving them wrong . It gives you control over the pace, and for most women it's easier to reach orgasm when on top than underneath. Sorry if this is a very obvious suggestion, but from your post I wondered if he was always on top.

moanieleminx it's a rare occurrence, he often doesn't come at all.

Basically the opposite of OP's issue!

DivorcedAndDelighted

Yes, maybe a bit longer but (sorry if TMI) as soon as I'm getting excited and go faster, he can't handle it and that's it. He is not a selfish lover in other ways, he loves oral..it's just the actual penetration and weirdly the older I get the more important that bit is. I've read too much of this board I think. I've become curious and jealous of what I'm missing out on

Well I haven’t timed it 😬 but I’d say DH is 1-5 min, usually 2 min, and that my other lovers before him were the same. (Except one guy who took a few seconds, but we weren’t partners for long.) I’ve never met one of these ‘1 hour’ lovers some women mention (and I’m not sure I want to!)

Bit rubbish isn’t it OP. I don’t so much mind the timing but I do mind feeling like I have to not writhe around much and can’t really let go. I would love 5 min of really going for it. Still he always makes me cum first, so I can’t complain too much.

One time we carried on moving until he got hard again and the second time lasted longer, you could try that perhaps. I found it a bit of a turn off tho (by the time he was properly hard again I was getting bored) so counterproductive.

Me and DH probably have about 20 mins of foreplay followed by 20 minutes of penetrative sex before he cums.

40 min

As a man, it depends - I can easily have penetrative sex for over an hour or can make myself cum quicker if needed.

I wouldn't usually cum faster than 8-10mins of penetration though. All depends on who I am with and ensuring I fully satisfy her.

Wow, my dh is no more than 10secs. This has been since he has been in his 20s.

Start introducing toys which he uses on you and then he goes second.

@Parkerwhereareyou

Takes him about 20 seconds. Because he's been awful and he knows v lucky every time he gets to have sex with me. So he's super happy.

I had the same with previous husband.

Apparently it's v nice inside me. ; )

Your joking?

@slowtik no not joking.

(not about being the bad/lucky either!)

Not joking at all. Yes obviously that's been a bit unsatisfying and now I think at some point will find a new sexual partner who will last longer. If he can, given my apparent irresistibility?!! : )

(yes I was joking there! Sure am easy enough to resist if one tries!)