This is really embarrassing but I have been with my fiance for 7/8 years. He was my first boyfriend and so I didn't come to him experienced. We have children and live together. Great life. But I don't know how to have sex without just taking it.
I'm sorry this is too much info for sure but I feel really bad. He will do all the work and I just lay there, basically.
I have tried to 'take control' but I can't go as fast as he can and he usually just starts doing it himself after a bit. I want to be a generous lover but I don't know how to.
Is it normal for the woman to be slow and steady? Or do I need to work harder? I don't have anyone to ask in real life.
Sometimes he will refuse sex because he is too tired to do all the work again. I have said I will try but I feel clumsy and like I can't satisfy him when he just grabs me and and starts going faster. He had a few relationships before me so I'm thinking it's partly down to experience and it's not really something I can practice alone. Oh I'm so embarrassed but google comes up with seedy sites, probably all written by men.
